Malignant Narcissism, Psychopathy and Sociopathy


I have not included general articles about NPD in this section or in any header, simply because there are just too many of those articles on this blog. You can find my articles about “garden variety” NPD and “benign” narcissism throughout this blog. I may put them under their own header at some point, but to be honest, that task is too daunting so for now, just use the search bar, tag cloud or category list to find what you are looking for.

Malignant narcissists and psychopaths are far more dangerous than “garden variety” people with NPD, so I have compiled all the articles that focus on these people who are truly evil and have nothing but ill will for others.

If I had an online Museum of Narcissists, this would be it. Here you will find everything you want to know about the most evil of narcissists–the malignant ones who lie at the top of the narcissistic continuum, just under psychopaths and sociopaths. Unlike lower-spectrum narcissists, malignant narcissists and psychopaths probably can never be healed, outside an act of God. I say probably, because a few experts and others dispute they are incurable (but not very many).
Read here about what they are, what makes them tick, what my experience with them has been like, and what we can do to avoid becoming their victim or save ourselves from further abuse if we are still with one.

This list does not include my articles about NPD in general and/or lower-spectrum narcissists, which make up the bulk of this blog and therefore are too numerous to keep under a header. Check the categories, tag cloud, or use the search bar to find my other articles about NPD.

The narcissistic spectrum.

Donald Trump and Ayn Rand: Psychopaths or Narcissists?  (reblogged article)

Subtypes of ASPD

Karma Comes A-Calling for My Malignant Narcissist Ex

Lightning Rod (reblogged article: is Taylor Swift a psychopath?)

Where Does This Silly Idea That Covert Narcissism is the “Most Malignant” Come From?

Why Narcissists are More Hated Than Psychopaths 

Ripped to Shreds by an Alcoholic Malignant Narcissist

Cognitive Dissonance and NPD

Psychopathy May Not Be What You Think

Can a Malignant Narcissist Ever Become Self-Aware?

How My ASPD Control Freak Ex Used a Dog to Gaslight Me

The Useless Parasite Who Lived On My Couch Got Rewarded for Having ASPD

When Does a Narcissist Cross the Point of No Return?

The Godship of Tom Cruise

What Is The Dark Triad?

“Ordinary People”: A Case Study in Malignant Narcissism

Disturbing Documentary about Narcissists and Psychopaths

The Psychopathy of Ayn Rand

Can a Psychopath Be Good?

Psychopathy and Malignant Narcissism: What is the Difference?

The Chilling Mental Landscape of a High Spectrum Narcissist or Psychopath

Book Review: “Malignant Self Love” by Sam Vaknin

Malignant Narcissists: HSPs Gone Bad?

Mr. Stingy

Godzilla and The Gazelle

The Psychopath Next Door (documentary)

Courtney Love, Murderous Psychopath (opinion)

Narcissists who Love Animals and Their Mothers

How Could Someone Even Survive This?

Shared Psychosis (via Chick with Kinks’ blog)

Serial Provokers

Reclaiming My Life: Michelle Mallon’s Story of Healing

My Son’s Father Turned From a Loving Dad into a Monster

What A Narcissistic Parent Sounds Like (video may be triggering!)

Book Review: “The Sociopath Next Door”

The Point of No Return

12 Weird Things You Might See a Narcissist Do

5 More Weird Things You Might See a Narcissist Do

Letter From a Narcissist’s True Self

6 Lies Narcissists Tell (via Letmereach with Kim Saeed)

Why Family Scapegoats Become Lifelong Victims

Narcissist Parents Demonize Their Own Children

What a Narcissistic Parent Sounds Like (video)

So What the Hell *IS* Malignant Narcissism Anyway?

Have You Ever Been Hurt by a Psychiatrist? (Guest Post by Alaina Holt-Adams)

Eight Fun Games Narcissists Like to Play–and One They Can’t Play

Lies My Narcissists Told Me

Dr. Phil: Mothers Who Hate Their Own Children (video–partial episode)

Ferris Bueller, Psychopath

Narcissists Destroy Who They Cannot Control (video by Smakintosh)

The Survival of the Fittest (Poetry by Audrey Michelle)

I’m Ready to Kick Some Narc Ass

So My Psychopathic Sperm Donor’s Being Rewarded for Being ‘Too Homicidal’–WTF?

The Real Reason Highly Sensitive People Get Bullied

Psychopathic Malignant Narcissists are Real-Life Body Snatchers

“After Narcissistic Abuse” (essay by Michelle Mallon)

Narcissist Parents Demonize Their Own Children

The House: A Nightmare

My Final Words About This… (to a malignant narcissist)

My ‘Friendship’ With a Famous Narcissist is Over

My Daughter’s Sociopathic Ex Isn’t Done With Her Yet

“Are You an Empath/HSP Who Was Almost Destroyed by a Narcissist? Watch This Video” (via “Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed”)

My MN Ex’s Weird Attitude to His Son

“The Con Man Cometh” (short fiction by Sam Vaknin)

I Just Get So Tired Of It

Something I’ve Noticed About Narcissists

Sociopath vs. Psychopath: Is There a Difference?

Malignant Narcissism in Fairy Tales

“Mom, You Make Me Sick” (video about an abusive mother with Munchhausen Syndrome by Proxy)

What I Have Learned

How My Ex Became a Malignant Narcissist

Because Several of You Asked…

Attracted to Danger

Beware of N’s Who Use Mental Illness as an Excuse to Abuse

Can You Tell a Narcissist By His Eyes? (via Elise Stewart’s blog)

The Man You Love to Hate…or Hate to Love (Sam Vaknin)

The Sex Symbol of Narcissism

Narcissism is a Family Disease (one of my most popular articles)

“Narcissists Attack Your Conscience” (video by Smakintosh)

“Children of God”: Demonic Cult Disguised as Christianity

Must-see Documentary About NPD (“Egomania”)

Scientology: A Cult of Psychopathy

“Evil Behind a Pretty Face” (poetry from

Scrambled Eggs for Brains

Infected By Evil: Putting the Pieces Together

The Stages of Becoming Malignant, Moments of Clarity


Are Narcissists Ever Abuse Victims?

We Were The Lucky Ones

The Most Evil Man I Have Ever Seen (video about Melvin Just and his destroyed family)

Malignant Narcissism and the Supernatural: A Connection?

Narcissists and Cleanliness

A Narcissist’s Entitlement

Beware of MN’s Posing as Victims in the Psychopathic Abuse Community (one of my most popular articles)

Narcissistic Abuse Turned My Child Into a Narcissist

Famous People Who Have NPD (includes some psychopathic criminals)

Sam Vaknin: Narcissist or Narcissist Wannabe?

“When The Devil Comes to Call” (short fiction from the Country of Liars blog)

Psychopaths and Pets

Psychopaths Should Register Themselves

How My Mother Became a Narcissist

Who My Mother Reminds Me Of

Narcissists Don’t Change

The Only Way to Handle a Narcissist If You Must Deal With One

We Need a 12-Step Program for the Self-Absorbed (via InsanityBytes’ blog)

Yes, Virginia…Evil People Really Do Exist. Don’t Think, Run!

Narcissists Who Use 12-Step Programs to Further Their Agenda

The Spectrums of Autism and Narcissism

A Match Made In Hell: Narcissists and HSPs (this article went viral on Facebook)

Survivor Hypervigilance and The Danger of False Labeling

This Is Not a Nice Post.

Why My Parents Disowned Me

Are You a Magnet for Narcissists? (via “An Upturned Soul”)

Book Review: “People of the Lie” by M. Scott Peck, MD

The Perfect Narcissist (video about Brian Blackwell)

“There’s A Killer On The Road” (original poetry from “Eye Will Not Cry”)

Looking Death In The Face: I Was Almost Murdered at Age 18

10 Habits of Highly Psychopathic People

The Distinctive “Look” of Psychopathy: Gazing Into the Face of Evil

More About The Narcissistic Stare

Robert Durst Disgusting Excuse (reblogged from

“A Brief History of Psychopaths and Antisocials” (Sam Vaknin video)

Is Antisocial Personality Disorder Really NPD on Crack?

Do Psychopaths Hate Cats?

The House: A Nightmare

Can A Psychopath Ever Be Cured? (video about Beth Thomas)


Narcissism on the Internet: What Vaknin Has to Say

Two Kinds of Stealth Trolls (psychopaths online)

It’s All About Image: The Skewed Values of Narcissistic Families

“We Need To Talk About Kevin”: Are Psychopaths Born or Made? (analysis of the movie)

Conversation With A Narcissist (part 1 of 2)

Conversation With A Narcissist (part 2 of 2)

Internet Psychopaths: The Difference Between Trolls and Bullies

Internet Trolls Are Psychopaths

The Grandiose, Deluded Narcissist (via “Sociopath World”)

My Story
My own story of abuse by a highly (possibly malignant) narcissistic mother and a sociopathic narcissistic husband are all included under this header. For brevity’s sake, I won’t post the links in this header again. There are also stories about my recovery and healing there too.

12 thoughts on “Malignant Narcissism, Psychopathy and Sociopathy

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  2. This is a great site and agree with a lot of it. I have had several (7) malignant n’s in my life (5 female, 2 male) and the amount of obsession they can hold is absolutely amazing. It’s like besides all their delusional thoughts, their targets/victim are stuck inside their head!

    Narcissists really do not think; they ALWAYS assume.

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  3. I want to know if narcs can “realize” the evil of their actions, and change.

    I was involved with someone who did the typical idealize/devalue/discard thing with me. During the “love bomb” phase, I opened up to him about past sexual assault and abuse (I have C-PTSD and a tendency in relationships to be co-dependent). After we broke up, he raped me. Months after that–I confronted him, reported him, nothing happened legally–he lured me back to see him, and he raped me again. I was severely traumatized. He used my trauma to “hoover” me, because I wanted an apology. One year after the rapes, he tried to hoover me again. He seemed to realize how bad what he did was when he called me on the phone and I sobbed uncontrollably. He tried calling me on the anniversary of the second rape. He texted me he “missed me, and missed our friendship” and was “sorry he’d screwed up so badly.” I know this is regret for miscalculating and losing me, not remorse for horribly hurting me (I have had PTSD now for a year).

    I know he has NPD because of a whole set of pathological behaviors I haven’t described here. He also has bipolar disorder.

    I have seen him have a conscience, at times, and struggle with his behaviors. He knows what he does but is self-pitying about it, rather than remorseful. I think he genuinely hates being this way. He has been better and worse over the years (depending on other factors, such as stability of job and peer group; he was very unstable when I met him, and so was I), but he has been this way for a long time (predatory and exploitative and otherwise with all the hallmarks of the narcissist). He was a sweet child with an engulfing mother and absent father who, when around, was cruel and critical. His sister has also been messed up by their family dynamics.

    I genuinely fell in love with him. The real him (I think), not some aspect of the False Self. The real him is rather introverted and shy and likes to daydream and draw, read and write, and has trouble opening up and being vulnerable (like many narcs he is extremely sensitive, which comes from the real self, I think). I liked this shy boy inside him. I didn’t care for the rest of it.

    He also loved me, I think (we all have real selves, or child selves. The real me is mischievous, curious, and fun-loving, but also sweet and compassionate, with a bit of a temper). While we dated he was pathologically envious of me, a bad sign, I realized later, but I do think his “real self” saw my “real self” at points and he realized I am highly sensitive, forgiving, compassionate, easily hurt, and sweet-natured (whatever he imagined about me according to the things I project as part of my outer shell–I’m a classic Cancerian, and I’ve been hurt a lot, very badly).

    He is aware that what he did was wrong. He told me (before he had raped me) that men always know what they are doing when they do that to a woman. He also told me when he broke up with me (which I think he saw as a preemptive strike, as I did not react well to his sudden change in personality) that “of course he still wanted to sleep with me, but it would not be fair to me.”

    As a reaction to narcissistic injury (my anger at him and accusation when we broke up that he’d been abusive and exploitative; he had) he raped me. Both times he raped me my guard was down and I was very vulnerable to him. After that, he exploited my traumatized desire for an apology to continue to sleep with me. He knew how bad this was for me, but didn’t care. He wanted to. A year later he realized what a mistake he’d made and tried to get back together with me, but I rejected him (really, his behavior all year long was in reaction to everything that happened between us). I still deal with PTSD and depression.

    I see what he did as a form of psychological torture, even if it was out of some selfish desire on his part and not active sadism. The rape was about feeling disempowered. He did it to feel powerful because he felt vulnerable (and I was vulnerable to it).

    Since I rejected him he’s fallen off the face of the earth (unusual for him). I am worried about him.

    Can someone like him who has chosen such a path of darkness heal? He raped someone he may have genuinely loved and who loved him. He tortured that person out of selfish desire.

    If he realizes this, will it just make him hate himself more, and make him worse? Or could it be the first step toward recovery?

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    • I realize I am still being codependent and not caring about myself, and making excuses for him. He raped me and ruined my life. There is no coming back from that, conscience or not, without some form of taking responsibility, and he’ll never do that. He’s chosen that path of darkness, and it’s not my problem. I should worry about myself.

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  4. Just discovered your blog. I have a question that you might think is unethical but I think you’ll understand … is it possible to destroy a narcissist? To dismantle them and leave them helpless in their defeat?

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    • Hah! I’m not sure. I suppose you could theoretically “out-narc” a narcissist (beat them at their own game), but to be effective at it, I think you’d need to be a narcissist yourself. Non-narcissists just aren’t really capable of that sort of behavior and they’d be bad at faking it. But theoretically, I suppose you could. Interesting question.

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