PLEASE NOTE:
I have not included general articles about NPD in this section or in any header, simply because there are just too many of those articles on this blog. You can find my articles about “garden variety” NPD and “benign” narcissism throughout this blog. I may put them under their own header at some point, but to be honest, that task is too daunting so for now, just use the search bar, tag cloud or category list to find what you are looking for.
Malignant narcissists and psychopaths are far more dangerous than “garden variety” people with NPD, so I have compiled all the articles that focus on these people who are truly evil and have nothing but ill will for others.
If I had an online Museum of Narcissists, this would be it. Here you will find everything you want to know about the most evil of narcissists–the malignant ones who lie at the top of the narcissistic continuum, just under psychopaths and sociopaths. Unlike lower-spectrum narcissists, malignant narcissists and psychopaths probably can never be healed, outside an act of God. I say probably, because a few experts and others dispute they are incurable (but not very many).
Read here about what they are, what makes them tick, what my experience with them has been like, and what we can do to avoid becoming their victim or save ourselves from further abuse if we are still with one.
This list does not include my articles about NPD in general and/or lower-spectrum narcissists, which make up the bulk of this blog and therefore are too numerous to keep under a header. Check the categories, tag cloud, or use the search bar to find my other articles about NPD.
The narcissistic spectrum.
Donald Trump and Ayn Rand: Psychopaths or Narcissists? (reblogged article)
Karma Comes A-Calling for My Malignant Narcissist Ex
Lightning Rod (reblogged article: is Taylor Swift a psychopath?)
Where Does This Silly Idea That Covert Narcissism is the “Most Malignant” Come From?
Why Narcissists are More Hated Than Psychopaths
Ripped to Shreds by an Alcoholic Malignant Narcissist
Psychopathy May Not Be What You Think
Can a Malignant Narcissist Ever Become Self-Aware?
How My ASPD Control Freak Ex Used a Dog to Gaslight Me
The Useless Parasite Who Lived On My Couch Got Rewarded for Having ASPD
When Does a Narcissist Cross the Point of No Return?
“Ordinary People”: A Case Study in Malignant Narcissism
Disturbing Documentary about Narcissists and Psychopaths
Psychopathy and Malignant Narcissism: What is the Difference?
The Chilling Mental Landscape of a High Spectrum Narcissist or Psychopath
Book Review: “Malignant Self Love” by Sam Vaknin
Malignant Narcissists: HSPs Gone Bad?
The Psychopath Next Door (documentary)
Courtney Love, Murderous Psychopath (opinion)
Narcissists who Love Animals and Their Mothers
How Could Someone Even Survive This?
Shared Psychosis (via Chick with Kinks’ blog)
Reclaiming My Life: Michelle Mallon’s Story of Healing
My Son’s Father Turned From a Loving Dad into a Monster
What A Narcissistic Parent Sounds Like (video may be triggering!)
Book Review: “The Sociopath Next Door”
12 Weird Things You Might See a Narcissist Do
5 More Weird Things You Might See a Narcissist Do
Letter From a Narcissist’s True Self
6 Lies Narcissists Tell (via Letmereach with Kim Saeed)
Why Family Scapegoats Become Lifelong Victims
Narcissist Parents Demonize Their Own Children
What a Narcissistic Parent Sounds Like (video)
So What the Hell *IS* Malignant Narcissism Anyway?
Have You Ever Been Hurt by a Psychiatrist? (Guest Post by Alaina Holt-Adams)
Eight Fun Games Narcissists Like to Play–and One They Can’t Play
Dr. Phil: Mothers Who Hate Their Own Children (video–partial episode)
Narcissists Destroy Who They Cannot Control (video by Smakintosh)
The Survival of the Fittest (Poetry by Audrey Michelle)
I’m Ready to Kick Some Narc Ass
So My Psychopathic Sperm Donor’s Being Rewarded for Being ‘Too Homicidal’–WTF?
The Real Reason Highly Sensitive People Get Bullied
Psychopathic Malignant Narcissists are Real-Life Body Snatchers
“After Narcissistic Abuse” (essay by Michelle Mallon)
Narcissist Parents Demonize Their Own Children
My Final Words About This… (to a malignant narcissist)
My ‘Friendship’ With a Famous Narcissist is Over
My Daughter’s Sociopathic Ex Isn’t Done With Her Yet
“Are You an Empath/HSP Who Was Almost Destroyed by a Narcissist? Watch This Video” (via “Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed”)
My MN Ex’s Weird Attitude to His Son
“The Con Man Cometh” (short fiction by Sam Vaknin)
Something I’ve Noticed About Narcissists
Sociopath vs. Psychopath: Is There a Difference?
Malignant Narcissism in Fairy Tales
“Mom, You Make Me Sick” (video about an abusive mother with Munchhausen Syndrome by Proxy)
How My Ex Became a Malignant Narcissist
Beware of N’s Who Use Mental Illness as an Excuse to Abuse
Can You Tell a Narcissist By His Eyes? (via Elise Stewart’s blog)
The Man You Love to Hate…or Hate to Love (Sam Vaknin)
Narcissism is a Family Disease (one of my most popular articles)
“Narcissists Attack Your Conscience” (video by Smakintosh)
“Children of God”: Demonic Cult Disguised as Christianity
Must-see Documentary About NPD (“Egomania”)
Scientology: A Cult of Psychopathy
“Evil Behind a Pretty Face” (poetry from Galesmind.com)
Infected By Evil: Putting the Pieces Together
The Stages of Becoming Malignant, Moments of Clarity
Are Narcissists Ever Abuse Victims?
The Most Evil Man I Have Ever Seen (video about Melvin Just and his destroyed family)
Malignant Narcissism and the Supernatural: A Connection?
Beware of MN’s Posing as Victims in the Psychopathic Abuse Community (one of my most popular articles)
Narcissistic Abuse Turned My Child Into a Narcissist
Famous People Who Have NPD (includes some psychopathic criminals)
Sam Vaknin: Narcissist or Narcissist Wannabe?
“When The Devil Comes to Call” (short fiction from the Country of Liars blog)
Psychopaths Should Register Themselves
How My Mother Became a Narcissist
The Only Way to Handle a Narcissist If You Must Deal With One
We Need a 12-Step Program for the Self-Absorbed (via InsanityBytes’ blog)
Yes, Virginia…Evil People Really Do Exist. Don’t Think, Run!
Narcissists Who Use 12-Step Programs to Further Their Agenda
The Spectrums of Autism and Narcissism
A Match Made In Hell: Narcissists and HSPs (this article went viral on Facebook)
Survivor Hypervigilance and The Danger of False Labeling
Are You a Magnet for Narcissists? (via “An Upturned Soul”)
Book Review: “People of the Lie” by M. Scott Peck, MD
The Perfect Narcissist (video about Brian Blackwell)
“There’s A Killer On The Road” (original poetry from “Eye Will Not Cry”)
Looking Death In The Face: I Was Almost Murdered at Age 18
10 Habits of Highly Psychopathic People
The Distinctive “Look” of Psychopathy: Gazing Into the Face of Evil
More About The Narcissistic Stare
Robert Durst Disgusting Excuse (reblogged from Galesmind.com)
“A Brief History of Psychopaths and Antisocials” (Sam Vaknin video)
Is Antisocial Personality Disorder Really NPD on Crack?
Can A Psychopath Ever Be Cured? (video about Beth Thomas)
Narcissism on the Internet: What Vaknin Has to Say
Two Kinds of Stealth Trolls (psychopaths online)
It’s All About Image: The Skewed Values of Narcissistic Families
“We Need To Talk About Kevin”: Are Psychopaths Born or Made? (analysis of the movie)
Conversation With A Narcissist (part 1 of 2)
Conversation With A Narcissist (part 2 of 2)
Internet Psychopaths: The Difference Between Trolls and Bullies
Internet Trolls Are Psychopaths
The Grandiose, Deluded Narcissist (via “Sociopath World”)
My Story
My own story of abuse by a highly (possibly malignant) narcissistic mother and a sociopathic narcissistic husband are all included under this header. For brevity’s sake, I won’t post the links in this header again. There are also stories about my recovery and healing there too.
https://luckyottershaven.com/about/
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Hello. I came across your blogsite today and noticed you said you liked my channel. I have some newer vids up in case you haven’t watched in a while. Please feel free to sub, comment, and we can even collab if you want sometime. Write me at DelusionDispeller@gmail.com and thanks for letting people know about my channel! Blessins! “Eyes wide open. moving forward.”
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Hey I do remember your video, it was great! I’ll definitely check your youtube channel and see what’s new. Thanks! 🙂
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cant wait to see ya on my channel. Drop me a comment if you will please and thanks. Keep up the good work
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Sure will! Thanks.
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This is a great site and agree with a lot of it. I have had several (7) malignant n’s in my life (5 female, 2 male) and the amount of obsession they can hold is absolutely amazing. It’s like besides all their delusional thoughts, their targets/victim are stuck inside their head!
Narcissists really do not think; they ALWAYS assume.
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Yes, they do. Their delusions override any logic or even clear evidence that their delusions are wrong. I’m glad you like my blog. 🙂
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I want to know if narcs can “realize” the evil of their actions, and change.
I was involved with someone who did the typical idealize/devalue/discard thing with me. During the “love bomb” phase, I opened up to him about past sexual assault and abuse (I have C-PTSD and a tendency in relationships to be co-dependent). After we broke up, he raped me. Months after that–I confronted him, reported him, nothing happened legally–he lured me back to see him, and he raped me again. I was severely traumatized. He used my trauma to “hoover” me, because I wanted an apology. One year after the rapes, he tried to hoover me again. He seemed to realize how bad what he did was when he called me on the phone and I sobbed uncontrollably. He tried calling me on the anniversary of the second rape. He texted me he “missed me, and missed our friendship” and was “sorry he’d screwed up so badly.” I know this is regret for miscalculating and losing me, not remorse for horribly hurting me (I have had PTSD now for a year).
I know he has NPD because of a whole set of pathological behaviors I haven’t described here. He also has bipolar disorder.
I have seen him have a conscience, at times, and struggle with his behaviors. He knows what he does but is self-pitying about it, rather than remorseful. I think he genuinely hates being this way. He has been better and worse over the years (depending on other factors, such as stability of job and peer group; he was very unstable when I met him, and so was I), but he has been this way for a long time (predatory and exploitative and otherwise with all the hallmarks of the narcissist). He was a sweet child with an engulfing mother and absent father who, when around, was cruel and critical. His sister has also been messed up by their family dynamics.
I genuinely fell in love with him. The real him (I think), not some aspect of the False Self. The real him is rather introverted and shy and likes to daydream and draw, read and write, and has trouble opening up and being vulnerable (like many narcs he is extremely sensitive, which comes from the real self, I think). I liked this shy boy inside him. I didn’t care for the rest of it.
He also loved me, I think (we all have real selves, or child selves. The real me is mischievous, curious, and fun-loving, but also sweet and compassionate, with a bit of a temper). While we dated he was pathologically envious of me, a bad sign, I realized later, but I do think his “real self” saw my “real self” at points and he realized I am highly sensitive, forgiving, compassionate, easily hurt, and sweet-natured (whatever he imagined about me according to the things I project as part of my outer shell–I’m a classic Cancerian, and I’ve been hurt a lot, very badly).
He is aware that what he did was wrong. He told me (before he had raped me) that men always know what they are doing when they do that to a woman. He also told me when he broke up with me (which I think he saw as a preemptive strike, as I did not react well to his sudden change in personality) that “of course he still wanted to sleep with me, but it would not be fair to me.”
As a reaction to narcissistic injury (my anger at him and accusation when we broke up that he’d been abusive and exploitative; he had) he raped me. Both times he raped me my guard was down and I was very vulnerable to him. After that, he exploited my traumatized desire for an apology to continue to sleep with me. He knew how bad this was for me, but didn’t care. He wanted to. A year later he realized what a mistake he’d made and tried to get back together with me, but I rejected him (really, his behavior all year long was in reaction to everything that happened between us). I still deal with PTSD and depression.
I see what he did as a form of psychological torture, even if it was out of some selfish desire on his part and not active sadism. The rape was about feeling disempowered. He did it to feel powerful because he felt vulnerable (and I was vulnerable to it).
Since I rejected him he’s fallen off the face of the earth (unusual for him). I am worried about him.
Can someone like him who has chosen such a path of darkness heal? He raped someone he may have genuinely loved and who loved him. He tortured that person out of selfish desire.
If he realizes this, will it just make him hate himself more, and make him worse? Or could it be the first step toward recovery?
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I realize I am still being codependent and not caring about myself, and making excuses for him. He raped me and ruined my life. There is no coming back from that, conscience or not, without some form of taking responsibility, and he’ll never do that. He’s chosen that path of darkness, and it’s not my problem. I should worry about myself.
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At least you’re aware of it now. That’s a big step! Baby steps, take care of yourself first.
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Just discovered your blog. I have a question that you might think is unethical but I think you’ll understand … is it possible to destroy a narcissist? To dismantle them and leave them helpless in their defeat?
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Hah! I’m not sure. I suppose you could theoretically “out-narc” a narcissist (beat them at their own game), but to be effective at it, I think you’d need to be a narcissist yourself. Non-narcissists just aren’t really capable of that sort of behavior and they’d be bad at faking it. But theoretically, I suppose you could. Interesting question.
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Hey Lauren,
If possible read this article on the dark side of the codependent you might like it.
https://vaillant.blog/2018/08/02/the-dark-side-of-the-co-dependent/
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