Dr. Phil: Mothers who hate their own children.

In this full episode, Dr. Phil interviews two malignant narcissist mothers who admit they hate their own children (both daughters). For those of us with normal feelings of love for our children, these mothers’ attitudes and behaviors are beyond comprehension.

The first mother is a narcissist who is embarrassed by her daughter’s autism. She whines that “I don’t deserve this.” She wanted to have a “normal” daughter.

The second mother has murderous feelings toward her daughter. She seems quite psychopathic.

ETA: Unfortunately, Youtube removed the video I had posted. The only one I could find only shows the second mother.

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19 thoughts on “Dr. Phil: Mothers who hate their own children.

  1. I remember that episode. It reminded me of my mother, who often referred to me as her “lunatic daughter” when speaking to her coworkers on the phone after work.

    I do remember after various parent-teacher conferences, when it was suggested that I be screened out of sheer concern, my mother would look back at me on the drive home and say, “I wish I killed you in my stomach.”

    Sorry, this episode just hits home a lot. And pisses me the hell off. That woman with the child who has autism seems weak, petulant, and over-concerned about her image. Which isn’t really a nice image, but whatever.

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    • Wow, what a horrible thing to say about her daughter, My mother calls me crazy too, you are not alone. I realized she will never approve of me, no matter what I do or don’t do. Ever.
      And telling you she wanted to abort you–what a hurtful thing to say. 😦

      I agree the first woman (though not as “bad” as the second one) is a whiny, petulant baby only concerned with her own image. She loved her daughter until she made her “look bad” because she is autistic. I don’t know why, but it seems like kids with autism and Aspergers wind up having malignant narc parents a lot. It makes me wonder if there is a connection. It’s the worst kind of parent an Aspie kid can have (hell, the worst kind of parent anyone can have).

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      • I discovered a subreddit forum for NPD kids. I mentioned the specifics of my situation, and found a lot of people could relate. I’m just now receiving appropriate help for my personal issues, though I remember I was a very…pedantic and wordy child. Looking back, my mother would hit me after parties my parents brought me to that we’re related to my dad’s job. I remember one of the worst incidents was when one of his coworkers joked with her about my being a dictionary and how she would need to save up to send me to Harvard. This enraged my mother, who hit me repeatedly with a remote control on the way back and told me, “you are not going to college. I hate you and wish you were dead.”

        There was worse. But now she wants me to forget about the past now that I did finish college. She says she’s entitled to my paycheck. Um, no.

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        • I am horrified by the things your mother did and said to you, CPC. My mother did and said similar awful things to me. But still… horrifying.

          Is there anything more evil than telling your own child that you wish you had aborted her? I don’t think there is. I wonder how your mother would like it if you told her you wish her guts were on fire?

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  2. This really hits home. My mother was always jealous of me, and consistently threatened to send me away to boarding school or foster care. After growing up and finally escaping that environment I kind of wish she would have made good on her threats. Maybe I wouldn’t have ended up as damaged as an adult.

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    • I hear you. That’s a shame. My mother never liked me, even though she never said so and even said she loved me but I knew this was a lie. As a child, she sent me to summer camp for the entire summer to get rid of me (even though I preferred camp to home), and used to threaten to send me to “reform school” when I disobeyed to terrorize me. I was a GOOD kid, though. Too good.

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  3. I have an autistic granddaughter. Mother called her “retarded” in a nasty way. I think that was what really initiated my NC with mother. I don’t know how I was even going to keep both mother and my grandchild. It was like I couldn’t have them both. Mother was very crude.

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    • That is very crude. There’s a lot of misunderstanding about autism. Lower on teh specrum than Aspergers, autism can make a person appear slow or retarded, and some people just dismiss them as mentally challenged when that’s not what their real problem is at all. Most people with autism are really intelligent, but low functioning autistics are so disconnected from the world they sometimes can’t function normally. The daughter in the video appears normal to me, but understandably appears to have a lot of anger toward her mother.

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    • I was thinking about that too. The second one definitely needs to be taken and given to her grandmother, who seems very loving and concerned. It worries me that the mom won’t let her daughter see her grandmother.
      The first one is iffy. The dad seems fine, but the mom is a narcissist and even though she knows her behavior is wrong, I don’t think she can change.

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  4. I could not bring myself to watch more than the first couple of minutes of this video. Just enough to hear the sound bites from both mothers saying how they hate their daughters. When the second mother started talking about getting a gun… I turned it off.

    My mother was like these mothers, but not nearly as blatant. She did and said a lot of very horrible things, but she had sense enough to do it in secret. I can’t imagine her going on TV and talking like that. What even makes these mothers think that it’s OK to be like that? Evil. They are just evil.

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    • I did watch the whole show but I can totally understand turning it off. It’s very disturbing and upsetting to hear mothers talk about their own kids that way. The first mother at least could admit she has a problem and has some guilt, but the second is just plain evil.

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