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  1. susanbotchie says:

    So glad I found your blog. BTW, professional counselors are way over-rated, but worse than that, they are NO help whatsoever, simply because most professionals (and non pros as well) do not acknowledge Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. Can’t wait to get home and read your blog.

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    • luckyotter says:

      I’m glad you found your way here too (how did you find it btw ?) . Welcome! 🙂

      Professional therapists are great, but I think when dealing with narcissists or any evil people, there must be a spiritual component there too. M. Scott Peck’s “People of the Lie” is a book you should read if you haven’t. Heis a psychiatrist but does not dismiss God in his books, and in fact when dealing with MN’s and psychopaths, you are dealing with evil itself and must have some kind of spiritual armor. Even if you’re just studying their psyche the way I am (trying to understand it) I think having God on your side is important because it’s easy to be sucked into their evil or at least find yourself in some dark places.

      I believe God came into my life just at the right time–just as I was about to delve deeply into my study of psychopathy and malignant narcissism. Without God, exploring this could be dangerous spiritually and every other way.

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  2. Dawn Rores says:

    I stumbled upon your blog looking up covert narcissism. I’ve looked through almost all of it……I’m so happy I found it. Extremely informative. And I love that it’s coming from someone who has actually been a victim and lived through it. Not sure you can truly (100%) help or guide someone unless you’ve experienced it and lived it yourself. In my case….it’s my mother in law and brother in law. It’s been 22 years of dealing with it. It’s been five years since my husband and I have had contact with the brother (in law) and his wife (also have to believe there is a narcissism disorder there too……there has to be) and have very limited contact with the mother and father. It has continued to dwindle more and more over the last years (praise God). But even the limited contact we have can cause me great anguish and pain. They are so unwholesome….and pathological liars. It has been a long road of forgiving and continuing to try over and over until we realized its impossible and it’ll never change. Now it’s all about self preservation. Thanks for all your insight. Would love to talk more. And have been interested myself in starting a blog of sorts of collaborating ideas and helping people in many areas.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Dawn, thank you for sharing your story here. That’s good you have no or very limited contact with your mother and bro in law. People will try to put you on a guilt trip (oh, but they’re your FAMILY!) Don’t listen to them. People like this don’t deserve to have the word “family” attached to them.
      You definitely should start your own blog! Starting mine helped me start to find my way out of the darkness!

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  3. Hi,
    Just to be sure: did you receive my e-mail a little while ago? I’m not sure if I’ve send it correctly (silly me).
    Have a nice sunday!

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  4. Peter says:

    Lookie here! WHY did it take me so long to just google ‘crazy people blogs’? You came up third, but it was for the ‘piggyback’ article (which came up 5th…el oh el–lesson for marketers).

    So if I told you that I’d hacked the manic state, I wonder what you’d think. I think you’d believe me, but is it a marketable ‘thing’? In pill form, it would be worth ALL the money. i wonder if it has value as an ongoing blog? You have 1500 followers here–are they all among the afflicted?

    Before, whenever I would go into the manic state, I would try like the devil to get things ‘set up’ and have some kind of automated income flow so I could get off the gubmint dole. Failed each time

    I feel like this is the wrong place to dump 1500 words, but LSS I was declared disabled back 8 years and have been bipolar for all 55 years. Or at least from 7 when I went to my first psychiatrist. SEVEN! That ain’t normal.

    I have been up to some funny, funny stuff. Anyway, I am now manic almost always and so am extremely productive but can’t get anything done. And I’m about to start blogging at BloggingBipolar.com. I went to PsychToday to pitch…something…and I noticed that none of the scores of experts there actually could have ANY idea of what they were writing about. Lots of letters behind those names, though, ThinkDreamCreate@yahoo.com

    You are doing great and significant work here, I think.

    Regards, Peter

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    • Peter says:

      Well…that post actually sounds like narcissism itself, doesn’t it? That is your least favorite thing. But just because I don’t think I’ll kill myself today doesn’t make me narcissistic. My lifelong seething hatred of myself should disqualify me from ‘narcissism’, I think.

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  5. Peter says:

    I don’t know–I re-read the post after reading a little bit more about you. I honestly don’t know the first thing about M.N. and was scared shitless that it was me! I’ve tried to define what “good person’ entails over a lifetime, and I think I’m on the right side of it. These days, I’ve learned that I
    am a good person with good work yet to do. Overthinking everything, perhaps. How unusual of me

    I’m kind of blown away by how much you’ve done with all of this, and I am in agreement with your assessment of God (yep) and evil (you betcha) two things that people don’t cop to much. It seems you are saying that the M.N. IS the afflicted–by definition– and this diagnosis would be all we’d ever need to know about them. So they’re not damaged, in need of repair: they’re broken, in need of eradication.

    I’m not doubting you–just wanted to clarify. Hey, you want some eradicatin’ done, I’m your huckleberry

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  6. Peter says:

    I think the value of a person can be assessed by how they regard other humans in the general sense. There are people who simply prefer to see others fail or fare poorly. I can’t explain it–it just is. They would rather laugh at people than laugh with them, and I think the sheer volume of their combined resentment or whatever it is can actually influence events.

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  7. Susan Harris says:

    Dear Lauren; I found your blog while Googleing Scapegoating, and I’m so glad I did!! Reading what you said and what the the other readers said has made me feel not so alone. I’m am 63 – years-old, and went almost totally no contact with my siblings after my brother kicked in my door and physically assaulted so me badly the State of Florida levied charges against him. I am the youngest of 7 children. I think I was my mother’s favorite, and have an acute sense of justice..I was the truth teller and whistle blower, ergo, the scapegoat. Such a long story. During the assault trial, my “family” either didn’t want to” get involved” or sided with my psychotic brother. They wanted to know what I had said to “make my brother so mad”. My sister testified against me. I’m going through a bad time now. Against my better judgment, I recently spoke with another brother, who screamed at me and hung up on me. I texted him back and related I had no interest in having a relationship with him; however, I’m still shaken by this recent conversation. My panic attacks have returned. I’m depressed, crying, and don’t leave my house much, for fear of being criticized. I’m feeling hopeless about ever getting my confidence back. I’ve been in therapy, which was a God send! Recently, my husband of 43 years suffered a catastrophic illness (he’s fine now!) and I can’t afford therapy. I’m 63 and just need a little support to know this will get better. I should never have picked up the phone when caller ID his name…I think him screaming at me has brought back the years of my siblings humiliating me, excluding me, ostrasizing me, and physically and verbally abusing me. Is there hope for me? God, I’m 63! I will not be their victim…I still have fight in me, but am lonely and afraid of people. I recently made a friend, or what I thought was a friend. She was hypercritical and seemed to like to make fun of me. I have since severed our friendship. It really bothers me that I might be attracting abusive people!! Thank you for listening to my rant. Again, I am so glad I ran into your website. It’s fantastic and really enjoyed everyone’s journey. All of the best to you…you are an angel!

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    • luckyotter says:

      Thank you for your kind comments and for sharing a little of your story. It’s good you still have the fight in you and are determined to not be a victim anymore! You are on the right path, and I hope you keep reading! 🙂

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  8. nikitalondon says:

    Your blog is great

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  9. nikitalondon says:

    Lookiing forward to more 😃😃

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  10. Weidentex@yahoo.com says:

    Thank you!!

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  11. twinkletoes says:

    I found your blog through HG. Very insightful. My ex was a malignant narcissist so I sympathize.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Welcome! I hope you find some things you like here.

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      • twinkletoes says:

        Was your narc experience more acute as a borderline?

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        • luckyotter says:

          Possibly. I also have C-PTSD. Borderlines have more trouble than most people regulating emotions so as a child I wore all my emotions on my sleeve and that made me an instant target for narcs. And their abuse of me, I probably reacted to more strongly than the average person, which egged them on to abuse me more because an emotional reaction is what they crave. They feed off of it. That’s why narcs are so bloody attracted to borderlines I think. It’s a positive feedback loop for them.

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  12. Wow Wow, Reading that blows me away, share it with others in court because I can’t speak for myself anymore? You have insight!! I beg u, can you please be my best friend I love you you’re awesome!!
    Hey, my name is Camille, I googled two words next thing I know I’m reading your site, in tears because everything you say is exactly what I have lived, can’t wait to read the rest of your site, have to get to work I’ll be in touch, GBU!! XO!!
    love your new best friend, HuGe HuGS, Camille
    PS.. Not a weirdo or anything, I was arrested for prostitution twice guilty with explanation. Former slave hard physical labor 15 yrs as a family, I was the one who took up for everyone, my nickname was the C-word, disinherited, i’ve been through hell, I had to, after never calling in sick all my life, survive and take care of pets and myself, what I thought I had to do. Other than that I’m a saint, LOL i’m celebrating my strength & progress now!!! and I’m not about shame, I did good I’m alive, and I don’t have headaches anymore, Greatful!!, I’m so happy.
    U Really write very well!!

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  13. Melissa says:

    I was trying to comment on you blog of #11-20 songs for a narcissist. I am currently going through the discard.. A song that I instantly thought of was Between the Sheets by Isley Brothers. It’s hard to explain but the sexual part of the relationship can play many mind games.

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    • luckyotter says:

      I’m sorry you’re going through the Discard. Awful, isn’t it?
      I never heard that one but I’ll keep it in mind for a future post. Unfortunately I have this blog set up where you can only comment for 4 months and then comments are closed. I do this to save space.

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  14. Lisa says:

    Hi, I hope I am commenting on the correct area of your blog as I couldn’t find actual posts to comment on . I’m used to HG’s blog I guess. I’m really trying to understand if my boyfriend of the last 2 years now broken up and the relationship was very on and off. Is NPD or BPD. It would help a lot with my healing if I could understand . I see many traits of narcissism but not all. Your self diagnosis of BPD and avoidant could be him can you help at
    all with this ? It’s very confusing ? Thank you

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    • luckyotter says:

      I don’t know how much I can be of help really since I haven’t met him. I’m also not a licensed profesional but I can try to direct you in the right direction but I’d need some more info. Are you asking if you or him is BPD or NPD? I would need a little more information about the things he does, the ways he behaves and treats you, and why the relationship was on and off. I still won’t be able to give him a dx. since I’m not qualified to do that, but maybe I can help you with some friendly advice at least or some resources. 🙂

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  15. Lisa says:

    Hi, yes it would be him not me . I appreciate it’s difficult to randomly diagnose people and maybe unfairly sometimes , however I just thought maybe you could give me your opinion as you have mentioned your own disorders . I don’t want to offend anyone however by saying things that may sound harsh . I would however like to understand if I were to list some behaviours if you could give an opinion ?

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    • luckyotter says:

      I could try. Go ahead and send me a list and I’ll give him a *provisional* diagnosis if I can, but remember I’m not a professional and it could be wrong. But maybe it will encourage him to go get himself formally diagnosed.

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  16. Lisa says:

    Thank you and don’t worry I’m not holding you to any formal diagnosis just some advice from someone who understands BPD. Ok here’s a list
    Presents as a commitment phobic , claims to be terrified of relationships due to past hurts .
    All exes were nuts according to him
    He is very much a victim
    Claims to feel emotionless apart from negative emotions
    Feeling of emptiness and irratible ness
    (This is goes back to childhood)
    Avoidant
    OCD but I would actually go further and say OCPD
    Has mention manic depression and that his father suffered from this , however when he describes his father he is describing narc traits but doesn’t realise that
    He wants to be with me but it’s all on his terms keeping me at a distance and always talking about fear of relationships
    Some devaluation and then with drawal , when he with draws , I question and get the same cycle of I’m terrified of relationships , so I end it , I think he does this to push me away so I leave if I didn’t it may lead to disgard
    Narcissistic comments
    When I’m with him overly sensitive and jealous
    When not with him apart from some texting it’s like I don’t exist
    Talks about wanting alone time or over whelming feelings of wanting to be alone
    Has been to the doctor over the years and has been on anti depressants for short periods of time
    Talks about feeling thinks to extremes , he hasn’t said this but I interpret that as black and white thinking or one minute like you next minute complete indifference
    Wants to be with me then doesn’t
    Rapid thinking , changing his mind about things constantly , even within the same day
    Ups and downs but not hyper ups
    Dependent on alcohol to socialise with out it , can be quiet and with drawn
    Blame shifting
    Lying and cheating
    History of chaotic relationships going back to teenage years
    He’s now 49 never married no children
    He’s never acted clingy to me but did chase once when I ended it and claimed suddenly that he did love me and got very depressed
    Talks about not realising what someone means to him until they’ve gone
    Talks about everyone he cares about leaving him
    Talks about half wanting to be with me and half not wanting to risk being hurt or made a fool of (while throwing in some narc comments)
    It wasn’t until this break up when he withdrew again I started to read about personality disorders and stumbled across narcissists , he could be , but I’m not sure . Some things don’t fit. This time I’ve gone no contact and it’s been over 3 months and he’s just messaged me , which for the first time I’ve ignored him and he hasn’t chased or followed up. The message was one week ago. This has been very traumatic and I had no idea what I was dealing with other than possibly a commitment phobic . I kept trying to see the best in him but he was killing me and now I think I have some kind of trauma.
    I don’t know if I’ve been dealing with a narcissist or not . He seems more erratic than NPD. He also has ADD. But that could just be the feeling of emptiness , I don’t know. He says he can’t sustain feelings .
    When we break up he always takes full blame and says its him and that he is the one with the problem . There’s never been a nasty disgard but some narc behaviour when he’s pushing me to end it.
    All of the above could be gaslighting from him
    Finding out about all of this stuff like NPD and BPD has been a shock to me and I don’t know how to get over it.
    He may never contact again but he just has after 3 months and it’s not the first time he’s come back. I get sucked back in every time
    I feel like I have been used and abused and gas lighted, there have been lies and cheating .
    Now that I see all of this , there’s part of me that wants to talk to him about it and part of me that just thinks he will never take responsibility and say I’m nuts . He’s has said this to me before , when I’ve questioned his behaviour.
    If he’s BPD I have feelings of sadness that he is suffering from this .
    God knows what your thoughts will be about all of that .

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  17. Ben says:

    Thank you for this blog. There should be more blogs like this out there, because most people hardly know anything about BPD and NPD until it’s too late and they’re almost destroyed by it.

    I found your blog while googling “can someone turn into narcissist”. I have an older sister with a narcissistic borderline personality disorder and I suspect that her husband, after decades of being exposed to her emotional and verbal abuse, has developed a NPD (if that’s even possible). While she’s viciously insulting our mother or even their own children, he’s cheering her on, putting the blame for her violent outburst on them. And he does it in such a calm and reasonable way, you would even convince yourself that he’s right and there must be something wrong with you. He has no remorse, no sense of guilt, empathy or common decency anymore, not even for his own children. I remember he didn’t used to be like that. It’s like he is still physically there, but whenever he says anything, it’s like my sister has taken over his body. Sounds weird, I know, but it’s difficult to explain.

    They cut us out or their lives a couple of months ago and now I’m starting a blog about everything that has happened, because that’s the only thing left that I can do now. I skimmed through your blog and it’s really helpful and comforting to know that there are others out there who went through the same thing. And although I understand more or less when you say that not all who suffer from BPD or even NPD are evil, that’s not how I experienced it. My sister and brother-in-law are so malignant and manipulative you can hardly consider them human anymore.

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  18. I have autism as well and from what you described you went through is unacceptable!

    Since your family is discriminating against you by leaving you out of their inheritance, it is your right to get the money, especially after what they put you through and continue to put you through.

    I am very happy that you are writing about your very abusive experiences and if I was a family member I would be totally embarrassed by what I am reading for how I treated you.

    I’ve dealt with many abusive people in my life and since I have autism I knew they were discriminated against me do to my autism since they were ableist and likely narcissists.

    When I was in public school, I was frequently bullied but I have also gotten in trouble for becoming very violent with the bullies as one day I brought in a brick to school to threaten the bullies.

    What got me so desperate and so fed up was that after I got beaten up by bullies I got punished instead of the bullying for being involved in the fight while they’re bullies always got away with it and everytime I talk back to the ableist or narcissistic teacher who was the inclusion director of the disability program in the school punish me more for insubordination by giving me more detentions.

    I was literally punished for being bullied and that’s why I decided to retaliate against the bullies and the teacher by cursing out the teacher and getting violent with the bullies as I just got tired of always being the scapegoat and decided to stand-up to my oppressors.

    At home things were not much better as my anger directed at my physically and verbally abusive narssisric stepfather became so bad that after I threatened to stab him during a fight I had to move to my grandparents house where even there I was not free from constant verbal abuse from my uncle.

    My desire to be equal and not let people walk all over me made people think I was a sociopath due to my anger issues which ironically only flared when I was being physically abused.

    Today my family is split in how they treat me with only my mother and grandfather being the kind people with almost everyone else think I am some kind of mental defect.

    Even my own sisters have been very abusive to me and I am considered a bully or disrespectcul, if I try to stand my ground and not permit abuse.

    But even though my mom is not a narcissist, she does have some abeslist tendencies as she believes I need constant supervision due to my aspergers as because of her I live in a 24/hour supervised apartment.

    The more I demand independence and equal treatment the more my family argues I need more supervision and control as “I am letting my independence get to my head”.

    When my family members attempt to compare me to other more successful people my age in the family, I would report back to them by saying “maybe, you should not have sent me to that special needs school that had a set me back five years if anyone’s to blame for my failures it is all of you and not me.”

    I get very angry when they compare me to other people because they are the ones who set me up for failure and then are making you look bad by comparing me to other people and even though I have Aspergers I do not see it as a disability while the rest of my family does, while using Ferry ableist language like Aspergers is not a disability and that I am doing it on purpose by having certain mannerisms.

    My family members have threatened me that if I Do Anything by myself or without their Authority that I will be disowned from the family.

    I’m planning on writing fictional books about autism and ableism and how the experience in the book will be sort of related to mine.

    Did you how I was treated and both home and school I have developed severe social anxiety disorder and I’m always afraid of how people would judge me but, if I feel like I’m being mistreated I will stand up for myself and sometimes angrily as I believe that no one should be treated poorly especially for being “different”.

    I have read your blogs and I love it especially the narcissistic fash scum we have as president

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  19. Nikki A Kelley says:

    The guy In the hat and glasses he’s blind!!

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  20. Nikki A Kelley says:

    Please please don’t take this the wrong way but I’m a lil on the fence of which person you are almost seeking a dense in your questions for these evil sick demented subhumans. That being said …..Hell no..They have zero empathy they are not capable in the slightest of feeling that emotion let alone love happiness trust etc..They have an agenda already..They hand picked BC even if you were being cautious getting to know them before meeting they picked up on it already..You are viewed as a victim that they are going victimize. The tears it’s crocodile tears seen those as well ..They actually learn to imitate life and others feelings they will never feel..Like I want to thank the academy..Geezus you did mention one thing I’ve never never read in any of the hundreds of blogs or articles I’ve come across and the fact that you acknowledged it sent chills over me ..The black eyes..Oh goodness my first date I literally had texted him a cancellation..He then laid it on hard to just meet him and I had my son in my ear come on mom got to give someone a shot…Ugh anyways I’m beyond intuitive I always look thru the eyes generally I see alot..This trash his eyes normally light blue were black as night like 2 saucers …Satan the devil himself so powerful I could even feel him blocking me from trying to probe further..I’m not rude but I didn’t want to stay I had no interest whatsoever but he asked me to play pool and I know we both drank quite a bit I had too that’s all I know..I’ve been abused my entire life ..This was something beyond evil I knew I had encountered ..I listened to his crap the past girls that screwed him over blah blah im smarter than that must have been the alcohol..Regarding all of those questions maybe I shouldnt have been so quick to say something BC all of those questions don’t really make sense in hindsight it only would make sense once they have revealed who really are several months later at that point your dust you know just like me we are to blame for all these relationship issues that have popped up and further we are convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt we are absolutely bat shit crazy….It’s us the crazy ones who really became a victim that believe them and spend countless hours and nights up researching from desperation what we have possibly done wrong to cause all this terrible goings on. ….For some reason and I’ll never understand this I must have missed psych 101 that one day they explained what a narc is BC im pretty smart and I had no idea a narcissist to me was just a vain person ohhhhhhhh wow was I ever way the hell off base it took me several nights I came across an article somehow caught my attention and was completely dumbfounded I was literally reading a textbook version of my life…If your familiar with the wheel of abuse for domestic violence it’s separated into many pieces of a pie …I got every Fing one of them. I was verbally emotionally sexually physically financially abused and more ..My new name became whore or ingrate list my job BC of him that’s when it got severely worse I mean horribly bad ..I’ll pause at that to say if for some reason somebody is unaware of this ..They have an extreme power have an ability to take a human being down completely ..To break a person to get at your very being your psyche that’s not easy to day these malignant narcissist sociopaths are like complete experts though it’s bizarre they are beyond dumb as dirt about anything else. Nobody will ever tell me there is anything worse than this situation ..No way ..I kicked him out..To say everything I endured would be a novel and was a period of months we are talking about but even though kicked out he showed up one night still had a key was on the lease I was stuck I had no job to reclaim it ..And mind you my apartment far b4 he ever came along..So I said leave now..Nah he didn’t want to I had my back to the balcony ..I knew nothing good was about to happen he spit in my face as he walked by to the balcony to smoke his weed I sat there frozen not even couple months he had come up right behind me and basically scalped me yes I wear wigs now and will til I die..I was actually in medical state of shock at this point ..He grabs his butcher knife conveniently right there in kitchen drawer and pressed it up against my neck very very hard and said to me you Fing c*** I’m going to kill you I will only get 7 yrs ..( still don’t get the 7 yrs) but I’m shaking like a leaf I already had familial tremors since my youth from my alcoholic father screaming 1/2 ” from my face every night..My head is bleeding alot I just kept my eyes closed ..And he released me stepped aside threw a huge tantrum and started carving in his arm I’m just beyond shock but I knew I had to call the police and this was my lil window of opportunity right then I ran as hard as I could towards the bathroom so I could lock it and call ..Of course he caught me pushed me I fell on the floor he proceeded to bash my phone into tiny pieces over and over I just lost it my phone was beyond destroyed I just lost yrs and yrs of very precious things photos and such I was so pissed BC my kids were there and I had several recordings of him as well for court..I just picked up the pieces and sort of glided back to my chair of course he’s right there he proceeds to smash it even more..Like wtf sick fucker ..Oh and btw I’m very peaceful I never once fought back ..He’s screaming at me .. Something just washed over me I looked him dead in the eye and said if you don’t get the fuck out this instance..I’ll walk to the police station and I will put his sorry ass in prison for a very long time..So he threatens me again siting Romeo and Juliet he will just take me out with himself ..Again I said get the fuck out don’t ever darken my doorway even ..It worked I figured if he was going to kill me he had the chance he didn’t they are such cowards all talk such a big man….Oh and to reference the parent questions you had posted the first time he flipped to the dark side I felt so stunned BC at that very moment I thought I heard my dad..So yes solves that mystery…Now the aftermath is the worst ..Don’t give a rats ass bout the gutter trash I was fragile before but functional Ed quite well only to end up suicidal…He had brought out some past illnesses if mine and a bunch of new like I didn’t realize I became an isolated hoarder..My ADHD very very bad..My manic depressive disorder well yes I did not want to live I was trying to die ASAP..My sex addiction my eating disorders oh and my severe anxiety and panic attacks and what I’ve come to figure out over this past year PTSD..I’ll stop at this point doesn’t really matter but please do not question if they emathy please do not question anything…I also found out he had already been to prison several times for domestic violence felony counts to include assault with a deadly weapon.. ty if you took the time I want to make sure I discredit any notion the original post may have planted peace out

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  21. Alice says:

    I just wanted to thank you for your blog! It has become a ‘haven’ for me. I was raised by a BPD mother who is fairly high on the narcissism spectrum. Love the Narcissistic Mother’s Dictionary! Lol. I also have a BPD sister who is in a cult and lives with her guru. No one in the family can know his last name. He’s a one-name wonder. Lately, my sister has been focusing her rage on me. Apparently, for things I did to her when we were kids, though I have apologized over the years, every time she has confronted me about it, on numerous confusing occasions. My apologies are heartfelt, but they do no good. I am having to consider going No Contact with her, but of course, that will raise my mother’s hackles. Anyway, I’m so grateful to be able to come here and either laugh, or cry, but either way, enjoy a sense of support and understanding.

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  22. Jess says:

    If you have just realized how deeply narcissistic your partner and their family are, and have recently become a victim of their narcissism do you recommend leaving and never looking back?

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    • luckyotter says:

      Yes, if it’s possible. They will only continue to drag you down and trigger you if you don’t leave. You can’t reason with them or change them. Good luck!

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      • Jess says:

        Okay thank you for your honest answer. I’m dating the scapegoat, is there still no hope & is getting away the only way out? The family has only recently followed him to where we are because of his success yet they constantly imply how much he is not doing good even though it’s in their face and his success is the reason they live near us now .

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