Bio

me2  luckyotter

Swimming up from the jungle in my head

I’m a survivor of a malignant narcissist psychopath ex-husband and was raised by a narcissistic mother. I suffer from Complex PTSD, Borderline Personality Disorder and Avoidant Personality Disorder. I also have the fall/winter type of Seasonal Affective disorder.

As a target of people with NPD and psychopathy pretty much my entire life, I feel like I’m qualified to write about narcissism and of course my own disorders, and give advice on how to deal with those who target the vulnerable among us.

Recently, I feel a strong need to shift away from dwelling on abuse and on my past, and focus more on reaching an understanding of people with Cluster B disorders, and in so doing, understand myself.

Why the username? I aspire to live more like the carefree otter, not regretting the past or worrying about the future. Though we may be surrounded by hatred and evil, we can still find happiness, beauty and peace.

I love to write, and not all my articles will be about my disorders or even mental illness in general  Sometimes I just like to write about something random that interests me, post a funny picture, or rant about something that’s pissing me off.

Starting this blog has also jump-started my spiritual journey. I’ve always believed God exists, but I always felt a huge distance between myself and the divine. I’m finding that writing is bringing me to a closer relationship with God and taking me in a positive direction that He has already planned for me. I’m also finding that more of my recent articles focus on the spiritual, not just the emotional and mental dimensions.

Blogging about stuff is crack for my soul. It’s good therapy too, and hopefully my insights and observations may help others too.

Lauren Bennett a/k/a “Lucky Otter”

41 Responses to Bio

  1. I do not know much about NPD or narcissism in general, but from what I’ve read that you’ve written I am getting the sense that I might be living with a narcissist. I have gone to your info page, and some of the materials are helpful.

    Were you planning on writing about ways to tell if someone is a narcissist from your own perspective? I would be most interested in reading your perspective on things.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Thanks for your comments. 🙂
      Yes in fact, I was thinking of writing an article tonight about how to tell if someone is a narcissist. It will probably be a checklist of some type.

      There has been a lot written about this disorder, both in book form and on the web, and I know there are others who have been professionally trained who are far more knowledgeable than me. If you’re interested you can also click on the “Support” tab in the green bar and there’s a list of resources there.

      But yeah, tonight I’m going to post something to help people pinpoint the narcissists in their lives.

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  2. luckyotter says:

    I just reread your post and it appears you have already looked at the Info and support tab. Keep checking this blog too.
    One danger is labeling someone as a narc who is not. Some people just have narcissistic traits but are not true narcissists. All of us can act like narcs from time to time. People with other Cluster B disorders ( Borderline, Antisocial, and Histrionic) can sometimes mimic narcissists and share some of the same behavior patterns.

    I’ve always been somewhat confused about the difference between someone with Narcissistic and Antisocial personality disorder–both are clearly lacking a conscience or empathy and act in their own self interest. My understanding is that the Antisocial personality actually doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong, while the Narcissistic just does not care. I have to read up more on what the differences are.

    People with other disorders can sometimes act like Narcs as well–from my own experience, people with OCD can be very controlling and seem to lack empathy. But in their case, their anxiety overrides any empathy for others they may have, and they are controlling because if they observe things aren’t “just so” or they can’t indulge in their OCD rituals, they are overwhelmed with anxiety. So it’s very different. A Narc does not experience anxiety the way most people do. Even people with disorders that keep them from relating well to others (schizoid personality or even Aspergers) can seem like narcissists at times. In fact, Aspies score low on empathy scales, but it’s not that they really lack empathy, but they lack the ability to read social cues that might cause them to act in an empathetic manner when it’s appropriate. As an Aspie myself, when I’ve missed a social cue requiring empathy, I feel a deep sense of shame, so the empathy is there, but sometimes not expressed appropriately or at the right time. Aspies also have no difficulty distinguishing right from wrong.

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  3. inspiringmax says:

    Love the positive blog name.

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  4. inspiringmax says:

    Congratulations! I have nominated you for the Liebster award. To find out what this entails and if you want to participate, visit me at http://www.inspiringmax.com/liebster-award/ I enjoy your blog and you deserve recognition.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Thanks! I am honored to accept this award, already posted the award in my sidebar and will work on paying it forward tomorrow. I’m not sure how to tell how many followers some blogs have, though. Some list the number and some don’t. I’m new here and aren’t familiar with a lot of blogs yet. Anyway thanks! 🙂

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  5. Thank you for posting the info and support page- I will be doing a lot of reading (both of the resources and of your blog).

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  6. lbeth1950 says:

    Thanks for following Nutsrok.

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  7. Wishing you well Lucky Otter. I had that kind of ex too… Hugs! 🐱

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  8. March on, brave one…

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  9. Lovely. Happy to follow you!

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  10. KC2015 says:

    Thank you for keeping my reader interesting!!! You have made me laugh, cry and think. You have no idea how much your words and pictures have meant to me. I have nominated you for the Versatile blogger award. You can see the nomination here = https://notamemberofaclubsandwich.wordpress.com/category/awards/

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  11. tripleclicka says:

    Thank you for blogging.

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  12. Hiya Otter, for all the hardwork you do and for all the help and information you provide to others I have nominated you for The Encouraging Thunder Award, just drop by my blog when you have time and pick it up : https://butchcountry67.wordpress.com/2015/05/03/the-encouraging-thunder-award/ , have a great day and keep up the great work 🙂

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  13. usernamearea says:

    Thank you for this! I have BPD and an eating disroder myself and I sometimes feel crazy and sometimes totally love it! I can also feel very wise, but quite often i feel like my therapists have sort of talked me into having borderline…I feel like you could potentially understand such a thing and i jut love to read your writing style! it makes the ‘extremely severe’ stuff not seem that severe…because we are human too…

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    • luckyotter says:

      Thank you for following my blog. I think BPD is misunderstood and we are lumped in by some people with narcissists because it’s in the Cluster B category. But there’s so much confusion about this disorder. I just recently started writing more about BPD so you happened along at the right time.

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  14. married2arod says:

    I nominated you for The Sisterhood of the World blog award, check your notifications for a pingback.

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  15. Yoshiko says:

    Thank you to follow my blog and like my poetry. Hope you enjoy it 🙂

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  16. Casey says:

    That escape button is both awesome and hilarious. Love it. I never knew the story of your blog name. Really cool!

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  17. Sue says:

    This seems like a nice blog for victims of narc-abuse to make themselves at home with. A living parent of mine is a psychopath. It took too long to figure that out.

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    • luckyotter says:

      My ex is a sociopathic malignant NPD, my mother is severe NPD and my father is either covert NPD or BPD. I’ve been surrounded by this shit my entire life, until 2 years ago. It’s amazing how things start to change once you get free of them.

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  18. Sue says:

    I re-claimed my mental health almost 3 years ago(turns out my mental health was fine, I had believed the lie that it wasn’t, however I had been ‘slow’ due to much PTSD). Anyway, in my case things got worse once I realized that it was really my family who was ill(and not safe to be around). The abuse intensified even after getting away. I guess if the abuse was that bad, if I spoke of it, I sounded worse than ever. The family has such an investment in keeping the ‘identified patient’ in the sick role. They go to great lengths. That’s when I realized the evil component to the bigger picture and sought church, spoke with a Pastor, and became a Christian although, little had I known, I had always been a Christian anyway(doing the next right thing). Perhaps that had something to do with it all along.

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    • luckyotter says:

      It’s true, a family like ours does anything and everything to keep you in the “sick” or “crazy” role. My mother, who i am NC with, has turned the entire family against me. They all think I’m nuts and she is perfect. She’s in her 80s and I think she is never going to die. Even though we are NC, I still feel as if she is watching and waiting. I still don’t feel really free of her. I also know what you mean about the “slow” feeling. The PTSD got so bad with me I felt like I was retarded. I thought I lost any intelligence I had.

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  19. Sue says:

    Thank you Lucky Otter. You really get this then. It’s a good feeling to know that you’ve been there and to some degree might still be there. I hope not. I will tell you, if the trouble in your life has pretty much stopped, then you’re most likely free and safe. The lucky otter who swam away(got away!). I will be reading on the origination of your blog name next.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Thanks for your comments. I don’t have my original background anymore, but I kept the “about my background” because it also talks about where the name came from and why. Also, it’s the name of a restaurant here in town. 😀

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  20. gm1123 says:

    I just read this. Keep going. Keep blogging. Keep writing. I think of my little cousin. I wish you the best.

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  21. Pigna says:

    Hi Lauren,

    Thanks for this blog, I’ve enjoyed reading it. I just wanted to say that I’d buy a book written by you. I don’t know you, but I feel like I might have some similarities with you in terms of personality and struggles. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You’re an engaging writer and I hope your gift will take you far.

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  22. kphoenix1 says:

    Hi, Lauren ( Lucky Otter), I saw you on Danny’s Meet and Greet. I find your blog fascinating, yet inspiring. Can’t wait to get to know more about you and your blog. Enjoy your Sunday! 💜

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