About luckyotter

Recovering from C-PTSD due to narcissistic abuse from childhood. I was married to a sociopathic narcissist for 20 years. Proud INFJ, Enneagram type 4w5. Animal lover, music lover, cat mom, unapologetic geek, fan of the absurd, progressive Christian, mom to 2 Millennials, mental illness stigma activist, passionate anti-Trumper. #RESISTANCE

How Our Societies are Turning Sociopathic

Article by Umair Haque, on Medium

How Our Societies are Turning Sociopathic

False Idol: Why the Christian Right Worships Donald Trump

There must be thousands of articles written about Donald Trump’s strange hold on the religious right, and the cultlike devotion so many evangelicals show toward him.   But this article from Rolling Stone, written from the perspective of someone who was raised in a Southern evangelical family that now is firmly in the Trump camp, may be the best written I’ve seen.  I also like the fact the author has given a short history of how the Christian Right came to be, even though a century ago, Christianity was much more aligned with the political Left (the “social gospel”).

False Idol:  Why the Christian Right Worships Donald Trump

 

A field guide to the most common narcissist subspecies.

I dug this one up from the archives. I’d forgotten all about it.
Happy New Year!

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Narcissists are predators, but they can be turned into prey fairly easily. Here’s a quick field guide to the most common types of narcissists you may find out in the wilderness of real life. Binoculars are good to have on hand to spot them, but make sure you keep yourself camouflaged well and carry the weapon of Truth. Truth to a narc is like garlic to a vampire–they will run faster than Montezuma’s Revenge.

It’s easy to learn how to identify the subspecies of common narcissists by using this Field Guide to help you identify the most common types, their preferred habitat, and chosen source of supply (food). They can all be either male or female, but where a particular gender is more commonly seen, it will be indicated in the subspecies description.

1. Narcissus grandiosis.

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N. grandiosis is the “classic”, grandiose, aggressively ambitious (and often successful) narcissist. Usually male…

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Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas to my followers.

Here’s a song many of you might remember from 1984.  If you were alive then, you must have heard it because it was everywhere!

May we always care so much about those who have nothing.

Wild bamboo

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Bamboo, which is native to China and was brought into the United States via Alabama in 1882, now grows wild all over the American Southeast, from Maryland to Florida.   It has no natural enemies here, so it is considered an invasive plant, much like the dreaded Kudzu vine.    It’s an evergreen, so it doesn’t lose its leaves in the winter, and can withstand some cold.  

Annoying and dangerous to other plants though it might be, it is still a beautiful plant, especially when it’s found in bamboo groves like this one in Asheville, North Carolina.

The 7 things narcissists are most afraid of.

I know I haven’t posted anything new for a long time. Hopefully I’ll return very soon with some new posts. In the meantime, here’s an oldie but goodie, and one of my most popular posts since it was first published almost 4 years ago.

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I was actually going to try to post funny search terms again, but alas, they were just not funny, so I nixed that idea.  However, I did find one that inspired me to write this post:

what 6 things are narcissist most scared of

It’s a good question.  Are narcissists afraid of anything? You bet they are, and there are 7 things that scare them silly, not just 6.

1. Abandonment and rejection.

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Narcissists can’t stand being rejected or abandoned.   That’s why they fly into rages and punish and threaten you if you threaten to leave them, and love bomb you if you do manage to get away.  To reject a narcissist means you are rejecting the false self they have so carefully constructed to impress you.  To reject that false self negates their entire reason for existing, since whatever true self they may have left is completely inaccessible…

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A narcissist’s prayer.

The mindf*ck.

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Impeachment as a Struggle to Save Democracy From the Pathological Cult of Donald Trump

This important article by Paul Rosenberg addresses the pathological narcissism, psychopathy, and paranoia that’s behind Trump and his authoritarian and cruel policies — and details how he has transformed or is close to transforming every level of government to mirror his own pathology.

Impeachment is a good start to restore democracy.  At the very least, even if he is not removed, it has the potential to reveal the corrupt and pathological GOP for what it has become under Trump, thus swaying public opinion and support for Trump.  However, Democrats’ and the corporate media’s continuing failure to identify the psychological forces underpinning this pathocracy along with a desire (along with Never Trump conservatives) to “return to normal” (an impossibility) could ultimately make things even worse, even should Trump be impeached.

The complacency and silence of the American populace in the face of encroaching tyranny (compared to other countries under authoritarian threat, such as Hong Kong and Chile, where the People are demonstrating and protesting by the millions) is also pointed out as a worrying sign we might already be too far gone.

The parallels drawn to Stalin’s Russia and his takeover of Eastern Europe after WWII are chilling.

Impeachment as a Struggle to Save Democracy From the Pathological Cult of Donald Trump 

What is Love?

Thought provoking article with some interesting answers to the age old question.

Please leave comments on the original post.

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The concept of love predates mankind as a species. Some claim, it is even older than time itself. Whereas our ancestors knew mutual respect, comradeship and shared understanding is essential to the continued survival of their tribe, we believe we perceive love in a more sophisticated light…but do we, really?

“One result of the mysterious nature of love is that no one has ever,
to my knowledge, arrived at a truly satisfactory definition of love.”

However, nothing can restrain the curiosity of spirit. Over the epochs, we have attempted to fit love into various categories, such as eros, philia, agape; perfect love and imperfect love and so on…In a very real sense trying to understand love is attempting to examine the unexaminable and to know the unknowable. It is different every time and with every person in very apparent but also quite subtle ways. Overall, love is too large, too…

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Happy Thanksgiving!

The first thing I saw when I looked outside today.

Happy Thanksgiving!

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