So much truth in all of this. I have seen all of these lies up close and personal. The one “You are responsible for the way you feel” when they have just said something hurtful to you REALLY hit home with me. And of course the way they gaslight, gaslight, gaslight and always try to make you feel like there’s something wrong with YOU.
If you’ve found yourself in the unfortunate company of a Narcissist, you’ve undoubtedly discovered their innate ability to lie without missing a beat. Narcissists lie for a variety of reasons, but the main reason, while immature, is simple. If he or she lies and gets away with it, they interpret this as their being clever and superior to others. In short, it’s a means to demonstrate how brainless others are. A sincere and honest person is viewed by the Narcissist as a weak chump who deserves to be manipulated.
Wondering if your significant other could be a Narcissist? Read the following list of their favorite lies to determine if your partner fits the mould.
- “I can’t imagine my life without you.” (or, “I’ve grown so attached to you”, “You’re in my blood”) – Sadly, victims of Narcissistic abuse believe their partner really cares about…
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“Lies My Narcissist Told Me.” I could write a book just on that.
I sure could too. I just wrote a “letter” from a narcissist explaining why they lie.
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“You are the only one who can control how you feel.” One of the main phrases heard throughout my childhood. But, but, but – don’t you as the adult have to behave, Daddy??? NO – it is all up to the little girl to control her feelings in reaction to the behavior. What Bull$h!&. Hadn’t really thought about it as a “lie” before – but it really is, isn’t it?
Thanks for sharing, LuckyOtter!
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I hear you loud and clear. It’s a favorite phrase of narcs so they need not take any responsibility for the way they act. My mother says it, my ex says it. All narcs say it. It’s become trendy, so even non-narcs say it now. It’s such BS because they can act as abusive as they wish but it’s always OUR fault for being hurt. As if we should have no feelings at all. Narcs capitalize on the trendiness of this phrase so now it’s okay for them to say it too. It’s such a copout.