FAQ’s: Can you tell a Narcissist by his eyes?

This is from a new blog I just found–and a fascinating and very creepy post about the eyes of malignant narcissists and psychopaths. The comments are numerous and I was shocked how many other people besides me have seen the eyes of malignant narcissists turn from their normal color into that dead, opaque black when enraged or when they’re devaluing you. It may sound crazy, but it’s very real. I have seen this look on several malignant narcissists. My ex and my mother in particular come to mind. I also think I saw that look once in my daughter’s recent ex boyfriend, who turned out to be a very skilled and charming psychopath.

One commenter said the change could be due to the pupils dilating when the narcissist is enraged, to the point that the iris is no longer visible. That does make some sense, but I’ve actually seen the entire eye turn black, including the whites, so I’m not sure how dilating pupils would explain that.

What do you think causes this to happen? An evil entity that takes over when the narcissist flies into a rage? Their own emptiness? Dilating pupils? Is the explanation scientific or spiritual?

The worst malignant narcissists have eyes that look like this all the time–shark-like, empty, soulless. And their stare is penetrating and unnerving. It’s the stare of a predator sizing up it’s prey. Their eyes aren’t always pitch black but they are always cold and predatory.

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Can you tell a Narcissist by his eyes? 

This sweet cat would no doubt be offended at the comparison. 
The individual asking Google the question used the phrasing  “Can you tell a narcissist with his eyes.”  I don’t think you can necessarily tell what kind of human being a person is, by their eyes. 
I have only known one bona fide narcissist and I know what his eyes were like. 

Some people are shy, they can’t look you in the eyes for very long.  It’s not that they are dishonest, it just makes them uncomfortable, makes them feel vulnerable, to look in another person’s eyes for very long.  Being a victim of a narcissist left me feeling fragile and fearful to let people see my eyes.  As if, they would be able to see the pain that was written there. 

Many people like myself have been harmed by individuals who portrayed themselves as…

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  1. Oh my gosh I haven’t clicked over yet to read the rest of the article, I will read it, but first I just have to stick my neck waaaay out and ask: has anyone else ever seen the pupils of a raging MN turn fiery RED?? My dad, who was diagnosed first with schizophrenia, then later he told me that his diagnosis was changed to Multiple Personality Disorder, MPD, which today is called DID… once, when I was 12 years old and my dad’s scariest personality was in a homicidal rage, the pupils of his eyes glowed RED. At the time, I thought it must have been some kind of freak reflection of the light hitting his eyes, it was like the red eye you see in pictures from a camera flash, so I thought it was something like that happening. But in the almost 50 years that have passed since that night, I have never seen any other person’s eyes glow red in any kind of light, I have only seen it in pictures that were taken with a flash.

    When my dad’s eyes were glowing red, when he looked at me, I jumped back like I had been hit with a lazer.

    For years, I did not tell anyone about seeing my dad’s eyes turn fiery red because I was afraid people would not believe me. But one day, several years after that night when I saw his eyes turn red, my mother was talking to me about that horrible night, and she said, “I have never told anyone this before, because I was afraid people would think I was crazy — but your dad’s eyes were glowing orange that night when he tried to kill me.” She saw orange, I saw red…. close enough.

    A few years after that, during one of my last visits with my dad before he died, he told me that he had recently been at his girlfriend’s house and while they were talking he thought he had fallen asleep, but when he woke up, she was sitting there holding a crucifix in front of her looking terrified, so he asked her what was wrong and she said, “You don’t remember? You’ve been telling me for the past hour that you are Satan and you are going to destroy me and all this time, until just now, your eyes have been glowing red!”

    I haven’t seen the black eyes that this post is talking about. Just the red.

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    • Wow. That is one creepy story, especially the part when your mother was telling you the way his eyes turned red when he was trying to kill her.
      I have never seen a narcissist’s eyes turn red (other than in photos, and mine tend to do the same because my pupils are dilated a lot–no I don’t do drugs lol) but I hope I never have to see that! I would scream. But I have seen the entire eye (even the whites) turn pitch black which can’t be explained by the pupils being dilated. It’s very, very scary. I think it’s the evil inside them that comes out at certain times, mostly during moments of narcissistic rage. But even when they’re not black, their eyes are predatory and I can literally feel their eyes burning into my neck when my back is turned. It’s very unnerving. Not all narcissists, just the most malignant ones. I should have seen that predatory look in my daughter’s ex bf, but I missed it and so did she. He was a skilled psychopath.

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