Category Archives: scapegoating

Malignant narcissists practice black magic.

This is a really powerful video by Smakintosh of Gospel Underground, who was the scapegoat and “black sheep” of his own family but because of that, is also the only one in his family who can see the truth about … Continue reading

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Why family scapegoats become lifelong victims.

If you were scapegoated by your family, two things can happen. You can become a narcissist yourself (narcissism being an elaborate defense mechanism to avoid further hurt and abuse) or you will internalize the early message that you’re worthless, defective … Continue reading

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Why being a Golden Child isn’t so golden.

I was raised as an only child–the second marriage for both my parents–in a narcissistic family. Only children are in an especially vulnerable position in narcissistic families, because they must serve as all things to one or both parents. In … Continue reading

Posted in "A Child Called It", child abuse, codependency, Dave Pelzer, emotional abuse, golden children, inconsistent discipline, isolation, malignant narcissism, narcissism, narcissistic families, narcissistic mothers, only children, only children of narcissistic families, scapegoated children, scapegoating | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Narcissist parents demonize their own children.

Most parents like to tell cute and funny stories about when their children were young, or brag about their school accomplishments or tell sweet stories that show their child in a flattering or loving light. They are also proud of … Continue reading

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I just get so tired of it…

I just read this blog post “I Would Be Begging for Help if it were Me” by Fivehundredpoundpeep. I highly recommend it to all ACONs. However, I won’t lie–her well written article triggered me, and the following may be the … Continue reading

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Targets and Victims

I found another blog today written by a survivor of a sick family of psychopaths and sociopaths (I’ve added the site to my list of resources under the “Info and Support” tab in the green bar in the header. I … Continue reading

Posted in antisocial personality disorder, anxiety, avoidant personality disorder, Bipolar disorder, codependency, dysfunctional families, family relationships, hypervigilance, major depression, narcissism, narcissistic families, psychopathic abuse, PTSD, romantic relationships, scapegoating | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

It’s all about image: the skewed values of narcissistic families

Last night I read a blog post by another survivor of narcissistic parents , and was astounded by how similar her parents’ values were to mine. She writes that her father criticized her for being too idealistic. Now that would normally … Continue reading

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Seven more years of NPD hell.

After Heather tossed Michael to the curb, and Molly returned to our new Section 8 apartment, Michael asked if he could move back in. At first I was resolute and said No (surprisingly he seemed to accept this), but he … Continue reading

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Held hostage: living with the enemy

Finally, I’m getting around to posting this last part of my story. It will be in two parts, because it’s going to be so long. After Michael kicked me out of our home in 2003 (which by that time was … Continue reading

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My son is “furry”–got a problem with that?

So far my blog has been pretty inoffensive. Well, I like to think so anyway. But I knew the time would come where I’d have to post about something controversial and now is that time. My son is a furry. … Continue reading

Posted in bullying, child abuse, childhood, creativity, culture, dysfunctional families, family, furries, furry fandom, LGBT, LGBT issues, malignant narcissism, Millennials, narcissism, parents of LGBT children, psychopathic abuse, psychopathy, scapegoating | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 31 Comments