Category Archives: scapegoated children

Truth teller.

I am the truth teller in my family. Because of that I have been scapegoated and disowned. I’m well aware of the possibility of my family seeing this, but due to the indifference I’ve been able to develop toward them … Continue reading

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What a narcissistic parent sounds like.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Here are two Youtube videos that graphically show exactly how a mother with a bad case of NPD (malignant narcissism) operates. These videos are entertaining in a scary and disturbing way, like watching a…

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How I became a Cluster B basketcase.

I had some new insights today on the genesis of my disorders. Not actual new memories, but insights on memories I already had that I know now led to my covert narcissism and BPD. I can pinpoint the exact events … Continue reading

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More family drama.

My son with a huge telephoto lens The Parasite sent him. The Parasite (my ASPD/malignant narc ex) is now giving my son the silent treatment. A few days ago, flush with all his new money, he sent my son a … Continue reading

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Why family scapegoats become lifelong victims.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
I just watched a video that really hit home for me. If you were scapegoated by your family, two things can happen. You can become a narcissist yourself (narcissism being an elaborate defense mechanism…

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“Ordinary People”: a case study in malignant narcissism.

I remember when I first saw this 1980 Academy Award winning movie being quite triggered by it, because the main character, Beth Jarrett (played convincingly by Mary Tyler Moore) reminded me so much of my mother, all the way down … Continue reading

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WARNING: THIS ARTICLE MAY BE TRIGGERING. I spent the first 13 years of my life almost constantly crying. I was a perpetually squalling cranky baby, a screaming tantrum-throwing toddler, a tearful preschooler, and a school child prone to attacks of … Continue reading

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Being discovered online by your narcissists.

Back during the winter, I made the mistake by sharing an article on a social media platform that several members of my family use, including my narcissistic mother. It came to my attention (through my son) that they did in … Continue reading

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How could someone even survive this?

Credit: I just read a comment on a forum about narcissism that made me want to throw up. A woman who had been scapegoated all her life by her malignant narcissist mother and had gone No Contact said her … Continue reading

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My son’s father turned from a loving dad into a monster.

My son at about 9 months. His dad doted on him then. Turning on a child who was initially loved and doted on is not unusual for malignant narcissist parents. If the child proves to be sensitive, highly intelligent, or … Continue reading

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