Tag Archives: narcissistic abuse

In defense of “Cinderella”: is she really a weak Disney princess?

Here is the Twitter thread in which I found this video.   It’s a good explanation of why Cinderella, far from being weak and shallow (only interested in a dress and a man), is actually incredibly brave and a wonderful example … Continue reading

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Grey-rocking: if you can’t go No Contact.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Lately I’ve been hearing a new term in the narcissistic abuse community: grey rocking.  I don’t know if it’s a new term or not, but I haven’t heard it before. How to Grey Rock…

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The bullies are winning and my heart is breaking.

Today I feel like I’ve been punched in the stomach and recovering from some terrible illness at the same time.  I have no energy.    I just want to pull the covers over my head and sleep.  But I can’t … Continue reading

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Confusing patterns.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
In the almost year and a half since I’ve been blogging, an interesting picture has emerged. I started to blog after I went no contact with my ex (actually very low contact since we…

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Narcissistic abuse: who is the real victim?

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Narcissistic abusers are great at charming people they want to impress, or those people they want to get on their side. When they have targeted an individual for abuse, they will stop at nothing…

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I used to be a dominionist without even knowing it.

I’ve written about dominionist Christianity extensively, so I won’t describe it at length here.  One of the most toxic and abusive doctrines of dominionism is that if you are vulnerable in any way — if you are poor, sick, disabled, … Continue reading

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The “Four F’s” of C-PTSD

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
I just began reading “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving” by Pete Walker. I can already tell I won’t be able to put it down (I will write a book review when I’m finished,…

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Oh, for the love of Christ. Fooled by another f*cking covert narcissist?

This time it’s a damned covert narc.  At least I think that’s what I’m dealing with.  Do I sound mad and upset?  You bet I am.   I hope I’m wrong but I know the red flags when I seee them.  … Continue reading

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My codependent “marriage” to a narcissistic boss.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
In late 2004, I was hired as a cashier at a local convenience store. My boss, John, was a flamboyantly gay man around my age who seemed fond of me at first. He was…

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The Divide and Conquer tactics used by the GOP to divide the left.

This cartoon clearly shows how Divide and Conquer works.   I think my experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse and my subsequent “crash course” in how this type of abuse works (which is the original reason I started this … Continue reading

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