Tag Archives: relationships

Grey-rocking: if you can’t go No Contact.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Lately I’ve been hearing a new term in the narcissistic abuse community: grey rocking.  I don’t know if it’s a new term or not, but I haven’t heard it before. How to Grey Rock…

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Oh, for the love of Christ. Fooled by another f*cking covert narcissist?

This time it’s a damned covert narc.  At least I think that’s what I’m dealing with.  Do I sound mad and upset?  You bet I am.   I hope I’m wrong but I know the red flags when I seee them.  … Continue reading

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My codependent “marriage” to a narcissistic boss.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
In late 2004, I was hired as a cashier at a local convenience store. My boss, John, was a flamboyantly gay man around my age who seemed fond of me at first. He was…

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3 questions to ask yourself if you raised kids in a dysfunctional home.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Nobody’s perfect, and that goes for parents too.  There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. There’s something called a “good enough” parent though, which means that you are going to make mistakes raising…

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Sorry, Trump supporter, I can’t be your friend anymore.

Cartoon Credit: Unknown.   A few days ago, I unfriended an old Facebook friend because I couldn’t handle her constant pro-Trump memes and posts anymore.  Later, she asked me why I unfriended her.  I decided to be honest.  She replied … Continue reading

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Getting unfollowed by a friend.

Someone I’ve been blogging buddies with for 3 – 4 years just unfollowed me (on Twitter — I don’t know about here on WordPress yet because I can’t keep track of who is following me and who is not so … Continue reading

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How to Spot an Abuser Who Claims to be the Victim

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
(My thanks to Barbara Roberts for her help with this article) I am sure that you have watched police SWAT teams in action at a hostage situation.  As the hostages emerge, a strange…

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I’m thinking about contacting my narcissist ex.

For the past week or so, I’ve been actually missing my emotionally abusive, narcissistic ex husband.   Don’t get me wrong.  I don’t like him, and I’m not making excuses for him (I still know he’s a narc and know No … Continue reading

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The most effective defense against gaslighting.

Narcissists and sociopaths not only try to make you think you are insane, they can literally drive you insane.   They do this most effectively and insidiously through gaslighting, a method of mental manipulation in which you are made to doubt … Continue reading

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5 reasons why you should never tell a narcissist they’re a narcissist.

Originally posted on July 1, 2015 In my dealings with narcissists, it’s sometimes been tempting to tell them to their face that they’re narcissists, thinking maybe it could be the wake up call they need. It’s a nice fantasy to … Continue reading

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