Tag Archives: relationships

Getting unfollowed by a friend.

Someone I’ve been blogging buddies with for 3 – 4 years just unfollowed me (on Twitter — I don’t know about here on WordPress yet because I can’t keep track of who is following me and who is not so … Continue reading

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How to Spot an Abuser Who Claims to be the Victim

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
(My thanks to Barbara Roberts for her help with this article) I am sure that you have watched police SWAT teams in action at a hostage situation.  As the hostages emerge, a strange…

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I’m thinking about contacting my narcissist ex.

For the past week or so, I’ve been actually missing my emotionally abusive, narcissistic ex husband.   Don’t get me wrong.  I don’t like him, and I’m not making excuses for him (I still know he’s a narc and know No … Continue reading

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The most effective defense against gaslighting.

Narcissists and sociopaths not only try to make you think you are insane, they can literally drive you insane.   They do this most effectively and insidiously through gaslighting, a method of mental manipulation in which you are made to doubt … Continue reading

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5 reasons why you should never tell a narcissist they’re a narcissist.

Originally posted on July 1, 2015 In my dealings with narcissists, it’s sometimes been tempting to tell them to their face that they’re narcissists, thinking maybe it could be the wake up call they need. It’s a nice fantasy to … Continue reading

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HSPs and codependency.

Originally posted on November 8, 2015 There’s a lot of discussion on the web about codependency as well as empathy, especially in the narcissistic abuse community. While it’s true people who are codependent to a narcissist also tend to be … Continue reading

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In defense of “needy” people.

Many of us complain about certain other people acting too “needy.”  But maybe they’re not the problem; maybe we are.

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“Let me be your voice” project – Sleeping with the enemy…

Originally posted on Cyranny's Cove:
As part of my “Let me be your voice” project, once again, I am honored to host the story of a lovely reader who sent me a painful recalling of her past. I wish…

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My kids escaped cluster B hell.

I’ve lived a harder life than most people.   All my life, I’ve been surrounded by Cluster B people and many of them had substance abuse issues too (alcoholism and drug addiction are closely correlated with Cluster B personality disorders). … Continue reading

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Sometimes I miss him.

My ex husband was and is a malignant narcissist who actually has an NPD/ASPD (and Bipolar) diagnosis.  He almost destroyed me and my sanity with his constant gaslighting, verbal abuse, projection, lies, insults, mean sarcasm, threats, and refusal to lift … Continue reading

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