Tag Archives: projection

5 reasons why you should never tell a narcissist they’re a narcissist.

Originally posted on July 1, 2015 In my dealings with narcissists, it’s sometimes been tempting to tell them to their face that they’re narcissists, thinking maybe it could be the wake up call they need. It’s a nice fantasy to … Continue reading

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Narcissistic abuse in Trumpistan.

Much has been written about Trump’s toxic psychology, specifically his malignant narcissism.  In spite of The Goldwater Rule (an agreement between mental health professionals to never diagnose someone they have not evaluated), so egregious is 45’s bad behavior that thousands … Continue reading

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“The War on Unhappiness” (Harper’s Magazine/PDF)

Meme with a victim-blaming (gaslighting) sentiment typical of the “war on unhappiness” movement. Following is a PDF file of an excellent (and long) article from the September 2010 issue of Harper’s Magazine tracing the rise of the positive thinking movement, … Continue reading

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Since my trip to the Gulf Coast, I’ve been noticing this…shifting inside.  Other people have mentioned that they’ve noticed something in me has changed.  I think something has. I don’t know exactly what it is, but I feel like more … Continue reading

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In 1996 and again in 1997 I was hospitalized for episodes of clinical depression and near-psychotic, self destructive behavior.   For several years I’d had severe mood swings, shifting from near-mania to near-catatonic depression.  During these depressions I’d sleep all … Continue reading

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Eight fun games narcissists like to play (and one they can’t play).

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Here are eight games that are lots of fun for one of the players: the narcissist who initiates them. And like the overgrown babies they are, if you refuse to play or appear to…

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Your Daily Dose of Crazy, Compliments of the Narcissist!

Originally posted on Divorcing a Narcissist Blog:
Oh Boy. If you ever wanted an up close and personal view of what that special kind of crazy that only a Narcissist can deliver looks like… it is your lucky day. I…

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Words as weapons.

If you were raised by narcissistic parents, you are probably familiar with these.  These are the words I heard from my parents (yours may differ somewhat but the devastating effect is the same).  I’ve broken them down into childhood, adolescence, and … Continue reading

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My DD calls me a narcissist, but is it her or me, of both of us?

From a text conversation I had with DD this morning: Me: Do you want to go to the pool today? DD: I will lyk (let you know) in a few, I’m trying to find a way to cough up $50+ … Continue reading

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Narcissistic abuse: who is the real victim?

Narcissistic abusers are great at charming people they want to impress, or those people they want to get on their side. When they have targeted an individual for abuse, they will stop at nothing to turn their friends, colleagues, even … Continue reading

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