Tag Archives: defense mechanisms

Projection and Trump’s snake story.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. — Maya Angelou   Several times at his rallies, Donald Trump has done something out of character — he has delved into literature to make a point, specifically poetry.  Ironically, the … Continue reading

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Clarity (or, through a glass, darkly).

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Do we give “the narcs” more power than they deserve?

In my last post, I ranted about a few bloggers that targeted me when I began to move on from my righteous anger at what my narcissistic parents and ex did to me.  About a year ago, I reached a … Continue reading

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Projection, anger, and emotional distancing.

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Come closer…go away.

I hesitated about posting this here, but I’m going to take the plunge and do it that because I’ve never once regretted “running naked in public.” (I haven’t changed the URL yet because it costs money for me to do … Continue reading

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Narcissists are just highly trained monkeys.

It seems some people think narcissists are smarter than other people, because their mental and emotional abuse and manipulations appear so calculated and complex, and they seem to always be able to anticipate your actions and reactions. People also think … Continue reading

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Why does a narcissist need a false self?

On one of Sam Vaknin’s discussion pages, someone asked a very good question: Why does the narcissist conjure up another Self? Why not simply transform his True Self into a False one? I’ve wondered about this too. Here’s Sam’s explanation, … Continue reading

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“Splitting” and idealization/devaluation.

Splitting–more commonly known as black and white or all or nothing thinking–is a primitive defense mechanism used by both narcissists and borderlines when they observe a threat–that someone doesn’t agree with them or is challenging them in some way, or … Continue reading

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