Tag Archives: shame

What 2017 has taught me.

I feel like a victim again.   I was doing pretty well emotionally until this year.  Since I left my ex in 2014 and started blogging, slowly I began to feel freer and lighter emotionally.   I felt like I was finally … Continue reading

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The little books.

Originally posted on August 30, 2015 I remembered something today. Little by little my mind is pulling up ancient memories from dark and forgotten corners as I move further along in my recovery. This one almost knocked me over. For … Continue reading

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6 “useless” emotions that aren’t useless, and 2 that really are useless.

Originally posted on July 10, 2016 I get tired of the positive thinking brigade who tells you you always must be happy and that there’s no place for “negative” emotions.   Not only is it obnoxious to wear a pasted … Continue reading

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Listening to Shame — Brene Brown

I have found Brene Brown’s videos incredibly helpful.  Anyone who has struggled with trauma, shame, and fear of vulnerability would do well to watch her videos.    I’ve already posted “The Power of Vulnerability,” and have watched it dozens of … Continue reading

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Falling down a mental black hole.

I’ve been dealing with a situation that’s been somewhat traumatizing to me and has gotten me very depressed and experiencing feelings of self-hatred and shame (having SAD doesn’t help).   I became so depressed all I could do was lie … Continue reading

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Clarity (or, through a glass, darkly).

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This…shifting.

Since my trip to the Gulf Coast, I’ve been noticing this…shifting inside.  Other people have mentioned that they’ve noticed something in me has changed.  I think something has. I don’t know exactly what it is, but I feel like more … Continue reading

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6 “useless” emotions that aren’t useless, and 2 that really are useless.

I get tired of positive thinking nazis  who tell you you always have to be happy and that there’s no place for “negative” emotions.   Not only is it obnoxious to wear a pasted on smile all the time even … Continue reading

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P.O’d.

I guess I’m feeling like a victim today.  Both this and my last post are all about me wallowing in self-pity.   Eh, I’ll get over it but I need to vent.   This will be short though. After that … Continue reading

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Self-pity and self-compassion: there’s a huge difference!

I read a post yesterday on another blog that I agreed with, except there was one thing that didn’t quite sit right with me. The post said that self-pity is an important part of healing from Complex PTSD. In his … Continue reading

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