Tag Archives: Sam Vaknin

Cold Therapy: what is it?

Narcissus flower in bloom. Cold Therapy is a new therapy developed by Sam Vaknin for people with NPD and other disorders.   It sets up a scenario that creates a facsimile of the original trauma that that set off their … Continue reading

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Do narcissists cry?

This is a revision of the Jan. 1, 2015 article.  It’s one of my most popular posts, so I figured I’d post it again, with a few changes. Do narcissists cry?  Sure, they do. Of course they do. And the … Continue reading

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We don’t need a malignant narcissist in the White House.

Donald Trump is such a narcissist that Barack Obama looks at him and goes, ‘Dude, what’s your problem?’ — Ted Cruz I’m talking about The Donald, of course. Most politicians have a narcissistic style or narcissistic traits, but we have … Continue reading

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How did narcissism get so “popular”? (part two of two)

Here is the second installment, as I promised–I apologize for the delay. In part one, I covered the way narcissism has increasingly infiltrated our society and become a near-virtue to be emulated, starting in the late 1940s and 1950s in … Continue reading

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Why does a narcissist need a false self?

On one of Sam Vaknin’s discussion pages, someone asked a very good question: Why does the narcissist conjure up another Self? Why not simply transform his True Self into a False one? I’ve wondered about this too. Here’s Sam’s explanation, … Continue reading

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A “new” personality disorder?

I’ve heard of Passive Aggressive (Negativistic) Personality Disorder before, but it’s not currently recognized by the DSM. I think it should be added because I know people like this. In many ways it resembles narcissism, but some of the well … Continue reading

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“Is Donald Trump Just Another Narcissistic Liberal?”

Photo credit: Andrew Cline / Shutterstock.com I rarely post political articles, because I don’t want to alienate anyone based on their political affiliation, but with the election right around the corner…and I thought this article I found on Sam Vaknin’s … Continue reading

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Book Review: “Malignant Self-Love” by Sam Vaknin

Vaknin’s “Bible of Narcissism” I first heard about Sam Vaknin’s book “Malignant Self-Love” about 15 years ago–when I made a cursory online search about NPD after I realized my own mother was one. At that time, Vaknin was pretty much … Continue reading

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“Ned’s Short Life” by Sam Vaknin

Can a narcissist feel empathy for a tiny creature like a goldfish? Maybe. I like this story, even though it’s sad. Ned’s Short Life by Sam Vaknin Lidija returned home all dusty and breathless, as was her habit ever since … Continue reading

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Notes of first therapy session with Sam V., male, 43, diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

The following is about ten years old, I think. I’m not going to editorialize this further, but let the therapist’s words speak for themselves. (I do not know who the therapist was). Pretty interesting stuff and a vivid picture of … Continue reading

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