Tag Archives: splitting

Narcissistic abuse in Trumpistan.

Much has been written about Trump’s toxic psychology, specifically his malignant narcissism.  In spite of The Goldwater Rule (an agreement between mental health professionals to never diagnose someone they have not evaluated), so egregious is 45’s bad behavior that thousands … Continue reading

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“You people” and “I will pray for you.”

This came up in the comments under another post, but I think these two phrases are important red flags to identify toxic people,  so I’m going to copy what I said in the comments here. Language is a powerful tool. … Continue reading

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9 ways to tell if the victim blog you read is run by a narcissist.

The Internet is a great thing for a lot of reasons, but for victims of narcissistic abuse, it’s probably the first time in our lives we ever had a voice, and would be listened to and believed.   There are … Continue reading

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The real reason why my attitude toward narcissism changed.

Originally posted on Down the Rabbit Hole:
A few weeks ago, I posted a somewhat negative article about Sam Vaknin that pretty much blamed him for turning NPD into something resembling demonic possession because of his own self-hatred and hatred…

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A new day.

It’s the first day of Summer (or is it the second?), and things look much brighter today than they did last night. In the midst of a severe BPD/C-PTSD “episode,” (I’ll explain more in a minute), I published a post, … Continue reading

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My DD calls me a narcissist, but is it her or me, of both of us?

From a text conversation I had with DD this morning: Me: Do you want to go to the pool today? DD: I will lyk (let you know) in a few, I’m trying to find a way to cough up $50+ … Continue reading

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“If Looks Could Kill: Anatomy of a Borderline”

People with BPD, like all the Cluster B disorders, can at times seem demonic, especially when raging. I used to have these episodes of uncontrolled rage, in which I’d dissociate pretty severely. It was as if an actual demon inside … Continue reading

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Is NPD really a dissociative disorder?

I think there’s good reason to think NPD (and to some extent, BPD) is really a dissociative disorder. Think about it. There is a true self and a false self that are split from each other, much the way a … Continue reading

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“Splitting” and idealization/devaluation.

Splitting–more commonly known as black and white or all or nothing thinking–is a primitive defense mechanism used by both narcissists and borderlines when they observe a threat–that someone doesn’t agree with them or is challenging them in some way, or … Continue reading

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