Tag Archives: splitting

“You people” and “I will pray for you.”

This came up in the comments under another post, but I think these two phrases are important red flags to identify toxic people,  so I’m going to copy what I said in the comments here. Language is a powerful tool. … Continue reading

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9 ways to tell if the victim blog you read is run by a narcissist.

The Internet is a great thing for a lot of reasons, but for victims of narcissistic abuse, it’s probably the first time in our lives we ever had a voice, and would be listened to and believed.   There are … Continue reading

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The real reason why my attitude toward narcissism changed.

Originally posted on Down the Rabbit Hole:
A few weeks ago, I posted a somewhat negative article about Sam Vaknin that pretty much blamed him for turning NPD into something resembling demonic possession because of his own self-hatred and hatred…

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A new day.

It’s the first day of Summer (or is it the second?), and things look much brighter today than they did last night. In the midst of a severe BPD/C-PTSD “episode,” (I’ll explain more in a minute), I published a post, … Continue reading

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My DD calls me a narcissist, but is it her or me, of both of us?

From a text conversation I had with DD this morning: Me: Do you want to go to the pool today? DD: I will lyk (let you know) in a few, I’m trying to find a way to cough up $50+ … Continue reading

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“If Looks Could Kill: Anatomy of a Borderline”

People with BPD, like all the Cluster B disorders, can at times seem demonic, especially when raging. I used to have these episodes of uncontrolled rage, in which I’d dissociate pretty severely. It was as if an actual demon inside … Continue reading

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Is NPD really a dissociative disorder?

I think there’s good reason to think NPD (and to some extent, BPD) is really a dissociative disorder. Think about it. There is a true self and a false self that are split from each other, much the way a … Continue reading

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“Splitting” and idealization/devaluation.

Splitting–more commonly known as black and white or all or nothing thinking–is a primitive defense mechanism used by both narcissists and borderlines when they observe a threat–that someone doesn’t agree with them or is challenging them in some way, or … Continue reading

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