Tag Archives: ACONs

The 5 stages of narcissistic abuse recovery.

I went No Contact with my sociopathic NPD/ASPD ex in February, 2014 — almost three years ago. Enough time has elapsed that I’ve seen that there are several stages one goes through on the way to recovery and healing. There … Continue reading

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Family estrangement.

  Psychology Today has an interesting article about why family members become estranged.  In most cases, it’s an adult child between the ages of 25 and 35 who initiates the severing of the parent-child relationship. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/domestic-intelligence/201512/the-persistent-pain-family-estrangement. “A difficult parent is … Continue reading

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3 questions to ask yourself if you raised kids in a dysfunctional home.

Nobody’s perfect, and that goes for parents too.  There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. There’s something called a “good enough” parent though, which means that you are going to make mistakes raising your kids, no matter how much … Continue reading

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Child roles in dysfunctional families.

Credit: Artist unknown.   Wikipedia has an excellent, detailed article about dysfunctional family dynamics. Here I am just going to talk about the roles various family members play, and the kinds of families that become dysfunctional. If you’d like to … Continue reading

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Envy is my worst character trait.

Envy, by Marta Dahlig, Deviantart I’m about to write a painful, bitter post. It’s about something brings me a great deal of shame, so much shame I hesitated writing about it at all. It’s about what’s probably my very worst … Continue reading

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My online friends.

While I wouldn’t wish narcissistic abuse from either families of origin or ex-lovers or spouses on anyone,  I’m grateful there are others besides me who have experienced it and that we have found each other.   If it weren’t for the … Continue reading

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The awkwardness of being a Borderline ACON.

I won’t lie.  It’s incredibly awkward being a blogger who blogs about two things that seem diametrically opposed to many people in the narcissistic abuse community:  being a victim of narcissists, and having a Cluster B disorder (BPD).   To those of … Continue reading

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Adult poverty and scapegoat-hood: a connection?

I’m copying and pasting this from the comment section under another post, because I think it’s an important issue that needs a lot more awareness and research than it currently has. I always felt like an outsider in the world … Continue reading

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Truth teller.

I am the truth teller in my family. Because of that I have been scapegoated and disowned. I’m well aware of the possibility of my family seeing this, but due to the indifference I’ve been able to develop toward them … Continue reading

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Paper tigers: why I choose understanding over rage.

I know I don’t need to (or should) forgive what the narcissists in my life have done to me. I will never again enable them or give them the benefit of the doubt.  I certainly won’t attempt to fix one … Continue reading

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