Tag Archives: alcoholism

My kids escaped cluster B hell.

I’ve lived a harder life than most people.   All my life, I’ve been surrounded by Cluster B people and many of them had substance abuse issues too (alcoholism and drug addiction are closely correlated with Cluster B personality disorders). … Continue reading

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Child roles in dysfunctional families.

Credit: Artist unknown.   Wikipedia has an excellent, detailed article about dysfunctional family dynamics. Here I am just going to talk about the roles various family members play, and the kinds of families that become dysfunctional. If you’d like to … Continue reading

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My fractured memory.

“Fractured Memory,” by Hanna Trussler, 2012 I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about my early years–childhood and adolescence. As many of you know, my parents were active alcoholics, narcissists (my dad more likely covert NPD or maybe Borderline), and … Continue reading

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Ripped to shreds by an alcoholic malignant narcissist.

I think I know one of the reasons why I’ve been hating my job more than usual lately.  Two people–a customer and a coworker, both malignant narcissists,  have targeted me, deciding I’d make a particularly tasty meal. Malignant narcissists have … Continue reading

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This TV movie about child abuse was way ahead of its time.

Today I was thinking about a TV movie I saw back in the 1980s that has haunted me ever since. I decided to watch it again tonight (you can watch the entire movie on Youtube–it’s in seven parts; I have … Continue reading

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Why isn’t there a 12-step program for narcissists?

…and I’m not talking about this either. 😉 A commenter on this post wondered why there aren’t any 12-step programs for people with NPD, and that got me thinking — well, why aren’t there? About a month ago, my friend … Continue reading

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How my mother became a narcissist.

I’ve said a lot of negative things about my mother, but I don’t hate her. Today I was thinking about how she got to be the way she is. While most narcissistic psychopaths are probably genetically predisposed to this condition … Continue reading

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Things I’ve learned lately

In writing this blog I’ve learned a lot about myself and my FOO and how it has affected my life and relationships. In reading back over this blog and thinking about narcissism so much, I’m shifting my views on some … Continue reading

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Narcissists who use 12-step programs to further their agenda

Today I was reading a couple of new blog articles by Dr. George K. Simon, which can be found here and here. Dr. Simon has written a number of books about psychopathy, narcissism and other “character disorders” (his term for … Continue reading

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Sleeping with the devil: my marriage to a psychopath

The above e-card pretty much describes my ex to a tee (except maybe the commitment issues)–and for the purposes of this blog, I have named him Michael (not his real name). Another blogger and survivor of narcissistic abuse described living … Continue reading

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