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On losing my dad.

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Me and my father, Summer 1983, Dallas, Texas. I’ve experienced a strange array of emotions since my father’s death on Monday, June 6th. To be more accurate, I haven’t felt too much emotion at…

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Thinking about my dad.

I have only three pictures of my dad, and only one of us together, taken in 1982 (shown above).    He passed away suddenly on June 6, 2016.    I can’t believe he’s been gone for almost half a year. … Continue reading

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On losing my dad.

Me and my father, Summer 1983, Dallas, Texas. I’ve experienced a strange array of emotions since my father’s death on Monday, June 6th. To be more accurate, I haven’t felt too much emotion at all. I used this event to … Continue reading

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My greatest fear.

I just read this heartbreaking post, in which a mother commemorates the one month anniversary of her 24-year old son’s death (he had been involved in a terrible auto accident not long before he died that left him unconscious and brain … Continue reading

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Week without therapy.

My therapist had to leave town again because of a death in his family.   He didn’t say what family member and I didn’t ask.   He also left town a few weeks ago because of this same family member, … Continue reading

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“Ordinary People”: a case study in malignant narcissism.

I remember when I first saw this 1980 Academy Award winning movie being quite triggered by it, because the main character, Beth Jarrett (played convincingly by Mary Tyler Moore) reminded me so much of my mother, all the way down … Continue reading

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Chunky (Chunks): RIP 2003 – June 20, 2015

I am very sad right now and this will probably be the only thing I write tonight. A couple of hours ago, my fat cat Chunks died. I think it was cancer, most likely a tumor that eventually blocked her … Continue reading

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How could someone even survive this?

Credit: http://dark.pozadia.org I just read a comment on a forum about narcissism that made me want to throw up. A woman who had been scapegoated all her life by her malignant narcissist mother and had gone No Contact said her … Continue reading

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I feel like I’m a bad friend.

Tonight on a whim I looked up an old Facebook friend I hadn’t talked to since 2012 (we had been close from 2009-2011) and was shocked and very upset to learn that she died this past September of Merkel cell … Continue reading

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Do cats feel empathy?

I don’t care what some religious people say–I believe animals have souls. How can you look into the face of your dog or cat and not just KNOW it’s there? But this is not a religious or philosophical discussion of … Continue reading

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