Tag Archives: boundary violations

“Let me be your voice” project – Sleeping with the enemy…

Originally posted on Cyranny's Cove:
As part of my “Let me be your voice” project, once again, I am honored to host the story of a lovely reader who sent me a painful recalling of her past. I wish…

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If Facebook was real life.

I’m sitting in a group therapy session for people with complex PTSD and other problems caused by childhood trauma, telling the group about the chain of events that led to my becoming the family blacksheep.   Tears trickle down my … Continue reading

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Guest post: 7 Red Flags of a Nasty Narcissistic Personality (By Richard Grannon aka SpartanLifeCoach)

I’m honored to feature an original post by SpartanLifeCoach, Richard Grannon.  His website can be found here. 7 RED FLAGS OF A NASTY NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY By Richard Grannon Here are tips for the modern human seeking to avoid becoming entangled in personality … Continue reading

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A dicey situation.

“Dicey Situation” by Johnny Corduroy, Deviantart I always hesitate before posting anything about my N mother, because I know she reads this blog. But then I think about two things: 1. what can she do? and 2. no one ever … Continue reading

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Being firm with spammers.

Yesterday I had a new commenter who I must have hit a nerve with one of my posts. Some of you probably know what I’m talking about. He or she comments IN ALL CAPS, says their keyboard is stuck but … Continue reading

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I think I had an interesting therapy session last night. I was talking to my therapist about the way my father stole the little illustrated stories I wrote when I was about 7 (which I wrote about in this article). … Continue reading

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An upsetting memory.

I remembered something today. Little by little my mind is pulling up ancient memories from dark and forgotten corners as I move further along in my recovery. This one almost knocked me over. For years…YEARS!…I couldn’t write. This past year … Continue reading

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What’s up with this crazy idea that narcissism and Aspergers are the same thing?

As a person with Aspergers who has been a victim of narcissists all my life, the difference seems pretty clear to me, but to some people, including mental health professionals, high-functioning autism (Aspergers) and narcissism are seen as the same … Continue reading

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The reason we became adult victims: what can be done?

The other day, I posted an article about the insidious way narcissistic parents can turn scapegoated children into lifelong victims. I was thinking more about this matter today (because I was feeling victimized at work) and I think I understand … Continue reading

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Narc attack!

Sigh. I can’t get rid of them. Today I thought I died and went to narc hell. My narcissist sperm donor has finally moved into his own place. I’d been storing a lot of his crap in my house (for … Continue reading

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