Category Archives: boundaries

A dicey situation.

“Dicey Situation” by Johnny Corduroy, Deviantart I always hesitate before posting anything about my N mother, because I know she reads this blog. But then I think about two things: 1. what can she do? and 2. no one ever … Continue reading

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If you choose to stay with your narcissist…

Lidija Rangelovska (Sam Vaknin’s wife) recently wrote about staying with her narcissistic husband and how she handles him. My view, my principle… People, unconsciously, but more often intentionally, complicate their lives in order to make some sense of their existence … Continue reading

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The real reason highly sensitive people get bullied.

I had an “Aha” moment today. The reason highly sensitive people get bullied so often isn’t because of our sensitivity. It’s because of the dismally low self esteem that tends to go along with being that sensitive, especially if we … Continue reading

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When your boundaries are being violated.

One of the most pernicious things our narcissists do is violate our boundaries. This can take a number of forms, ranging from physical violations (such as rummaging through your things or physically attacking you) to more subtle mental or emotional … Continue reading

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Respect my boundaries!

My daughter is either a somatic histrionic narcissist (same as my mother) or has borderline personality disorder (BPD) in addition to diagnosed PTSD and bipolar disorder. She would be somatic if she’s got NPD because she’s obsessed with clothes and … Continue reading

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