Being firm with spammers.

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Yesterday I had a new commenter who I must have hit a nerve with one of my posts. Some of you probably know what I’m talking about. He or she comments IN ALL CAPS, says their keyboard is stuck but I don’t believe it. This person proceeded to comment all day, saying pretty much the same thing over and over. The comments were poorly written and made little sense. He or she implied that I was stupid because I didn’t understand what they were saying. I doubt anyone else did, though.

Now I’m a pretty tolerant person, and usually allow comments that don’t agree with my posts, even to the point where the comments become trollish. I find it hard to say “NO” and not approve or delete comments that constitute as troll posts or spam. Setting good boundaries has always been a problem for me. But at this point, I feel like this site is being violated, and these continuous unreadable comments are flooding my inbox and this blog.

For awhile I stopped replying or “Liking” these nonstop comments but continued to approve them (“don’t feed the trolls”), but that didn’t stop them from coming. Whoever this is seems to be on some sort of crusade–for what, I’m not sure. It doesn’t matter. I had about eight more of these comments waiting for me this morning. Finally I replied saying that if they continued I was going to have to delete them, because they are distracting to the main content of this board and could run off my regular readers.

I apologize to the rest of my visitors who may have been put off by this spammer or afraid to comment themselves. I need to work on setting firmer boundaries, and I’m starting right here, right now. NO MORE OF THESE ALL CAPS SPAM COMMENTS will be approved. To you, SPAMMER, go spew your badly written vitriol somewhere else.

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About luckyotter

Recovering from BPD and C-PTSD due to narcissistic abuse from childhood. Married to a sociopath for 20 years. Proud INFJ, Enneagram type 4w5. Animal lover, music lover, cat mom, unapologetic geek, fan of the absurd, progressive Catholic, mom to 2, mental illness stigma activist, anti-Trumper. #RESISTANCE
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31 Responses to Being firm with spammers.

  1. Erica Herd says:

    Ugh, what a pain.

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  2. cherished79 says:

    Agree, what a pain. Lucky my spam catcher stops the majority of them and I can trash in bulk!

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    • luckyotter says:

      I finally set my anti-spam to automatically delete spam because of the volume I was starting to get. Some of it still gets through though, and I have to manually delete those.

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      • cherished79 says:

        The spam I usually get is someone trying to sell me weight loss products (is there a message here?) or someone advising that I need a new website design or something written in Chinese?

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        • luckyotter says:

          Those kinds of spam go straight into my spam folder and I don’t even see most of them anymore since I have my spam automatically deleted now. Akismet wouldn’t recognize trollish, repetive comments as spam though, but I’m marking them as spam!

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  3. DayDreamer52 says:

    Hey! Sorry, just wondering but do you manually approve each and every comment?

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  4. Well done for stepping in and protecting your boundaries! It’s very difficult, but I think you made a good decision. I hope you’ll no longer have to deal with these kind of things.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Well, as a blogger I’m sure from time to time I’ll run into problems again. It’s a hazard of the trade. But I’m getting better at knowing where to draw my boundaries and being firm and enforcing the rules when I have to.

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  5. I have a policy to just say “NO” to Spam. It tastes disgusting and I don’t think it’s really made out of meat.

    ๐Ÿ˜ Sorry, I think I woke up on the silly side this morning. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  6. S says:

    Amen, and what more could you have possibly done.

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  7. Oh my goodness… I just clicked back to your book review post about Confessions of a Sociopath and I got dizzy just scrolling through all those screaming comments. I think you handled that guy very well… you were cordial, you gave him the benefit of the doubt, and you knew when to draw the line. Well done!

    I dated a guy whose emails were like that. Diagnosed high functioning autistic as a child, he was brilliant, fascinating, and very HOT. But early in our relationship he told me that he did not know how to love and that he had no soul. I didn’t believe him. I was a fool.

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  8. katiesdream2004 says:

    I saw you being very tolerant and patient and was amazed. I couldn’t read that person’s post because something midway through it felt menacing but I did observe your patient reply. You did the right thing by blocking, they expected it because they said they were moving on. Those people that enjoy being abusive and pushing boundaries in a public space which that person seemed to do can be treated respectfully and blocked at the same time. When I used to have a blog I turned comments off because I didn’t want anyone derailing the point of a piece with an agenda or vitriol. SO, I think it takes real courage and is time consuming to allow comments. I’m grateful you do, and equally grateful that you know when to block them

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    • luckyotter says:

      Basically, I froze him out. I just stopped replying or Liking. Since he was probably looking for narcissistic supply of some kind, and he realized he wasn’t going to get that anymore from me, he moved on. He tried with a few more comments, but I wouldn’t approve them so he gave up. I’ve received no more comments from him (I’m assuming it’s a he but I really don’t know). He/she is a troll, the best way to deal with a troll is to stop feeding them, and so that’s what I did! ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • hbsuefred says:

        Well, I just “liked” his apology. Didn’t really notice when it was posted, though. Clearly the man has a lot of anger and was venting on you which, let’s face it, we all have to do sometimes. Also looked like he may not have very many outlets to let off his steam. Wonder why? I hope his apology was sincere and that it came timely to you. We all have our boundaries, which I think are a requirement to maintain sanity, and are free to close them whenever we feel the need, as you did.

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