Tag Archives: infatuation

Question #51: What if limerence is NOT a delusion?

This was a question I thought of after posting my list of 50 things I ponder about, but I want to explore this further because I’ve never heard anyone else ask this same question. Limerence is a term coined by … Continue reading

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Forever alone, revisited.

This is going to be another “running naked” post. I have mixed feelings about being in a relationship. On the one hand, I long for it because I can’t deny that my inability to connect with anyone on a deep … Continue reading

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Narcissists *can* love…but run!

This article by psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg makes a surprising claim about non-pathological narcissists (those who are not malignant or psychopathic, which means high spectrum Ns having ASPD traits)–they CAN love. But the “love” is shortlived because it’s really intense infatuation … Continue reading

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Do narcissists fall in love?

Narcissists can’t love but they can and do fall in love. All the time. What they feel is a state Dorothy Tennov has called “limerence,” more commonly known as infatuation or colloquially known as a crush. According to Wikipedia, Limerence … Continue reading

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A Beachside Affair (guest post).

Here is another guest post by the same writer who contributed “The Narc from Costa Rica.” Again she has asked to remain anonymous, but I think this story does a better job of describing the narcissism of a man who … Continue reading

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Narcissus

Poetry by Audrey Michelle, Spoken Word Artist Esstera’s Echo and Narcissus on Deviantart. An arrow was aimed at a Knight self-created A man’s just a man ’till his worth is inflated

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My “friendship” with a famous narcissist is over.

Some of you may have noticed I’m posting less these days. Not long ago I was averaging 3-5 new posts a day; now it’s about 1-2. To most of you, that’s probably still considered a lot of posts, but for … Continue reading

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Why you should never jump into a new relationship after narcissistic abuse

The Wheel of Abuse Not all abusive relationships involve physical abuse. Emotional and mental abuse can be every bit as damaging, and sometimes more so. (Click image to make larger). A new friend of mine (a survivor of several abusive … Continue reading

Posted in abusive relationships, codependency, dating, effects of narcissistic abuse, healing, infatuation, leaving your narcissist, love, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, PTSD, relationships, romantic relationships, self-care, transference | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 35 Comments

Infatuation and transference

I was just reading about infatuation on Wikipedia (everyone should know why by now) and found this: In transference In psychoanalysis, a sign that the method is taking hold is ‘the initial infatuation to be observed at the beginning of … Continue reading

Posted in "Love and Limerence", addictive behavior, cognitive obsession, dopamine high, Dorothy Tennov, idealization, infatuation, limerence, love, psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, transference | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 19 Comments

Forever alone.

I have always been attracted to narcissistic men. And them to me. I spent 28 years (7 of those AFTER we divorced) living with a malignant narcissist substance abuser and raising children with him. Before Michael, I had three serious … Continue reading

Posted in abusive relationships, Aspergers syndrome, avoidant personality disorder, fear of intimacy, fear of relationships, female sexuality, hypervigilance, infatuation, love, Mirena commercial, narcissistic men, narcissistic relationships, relationships, romance, solitude, spinsterhood, the single life | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 22 Comments