Staying grounded.

Photo Credit: No I’m Not OK

Sometimes I feel ungrounded, dissociated. Sometimes I feel like a gust of wind could blow me into nonexistence. I was raised in a harsh, chaotic, abusive environment and was blown from there into a harsh, chaotic, abusive marriage. As a result, I never was able to form strong roots. But to be grounded in life, to be able to bend and not break, adapt but not lose yourself, remain strong even when the cold winter winds blow, you need those roots.

Strong roots may not be with your family of origin, who should have nurtured you so you’d grow them. That may not be possible. But it doesn’t mean you can’t develop them.

I read a post today that inspired me because of the incredible photographs of an old Ficus Macrophylla tree, a beautiful and majestic tree with roots that could probably withstand an earthquake. I mean, just look at those roots! It’s incredible the way nature can adapt to almost any condition. There are trees that live on the cliffs of coastal California that grow vertically because of the strong winds that constantly buffet them. The trees have grown to adapt to their harsh conditions. They have grown stronger because of them.

We can also grow stronger because, not in spite of, the harsh conditions we might have been raised in. We can take inspiration from the trees by grounding ourselves and knowing how strong we really are, and that will prepare us for almost anything life can throw at us.

Take a walk. Look at some trees. Become conscious of your feet on the ground, your connection with the earth. Meditate on these things and try to stay in the present. Don’t worry about the future or the past. Turn off all the noise in your head, even for only a few minutes a day, and just be, like the tree.

The progression of autumn: October 7

This was the first perfect fall day this year. More brilliant colors are showing now, especially yellow, and the day was warm and sunny with no humidity. My spirits were a bit higher today because of the brilliant sunshine and I even spent a little time on my front porch when I got home, just enjoying the perfect weather and the scenery.
I didn’t bother taking pictures this past weekend because it was still rainy and there wasn’t anything really spectacular to take pictures of.
Because of all the rain we had over the past two weeks, the grass also needed a mow.





Previous posts in this series:
September 27th:
September 20th:
September 13th:
September 7th:

The Progression of Autumn: September 13

There haven’t been too many changes yet, but it’s definitely looking less like summer, with the first day of fall only a week from now. Today felt very fall-like, with temperatures only in the 60s.

It’s hard to see here, but these trees are showing yellow now.

It definitely looks like autumn here.

My roses are still hanging in there. 🙂

My tuxedo cat, Sheldon, enjoying the cooler temperatures. I know the garden looks like crap. I got lazy and let it go.

Previous post in this series:
Summer into Fall: The Progression of Autumn: September 7

Has anyone noticed the trees are already changing color?


It’s still only August, but it seems like autumn has arrived early. I first noticed about 2 weeks ago that many of the trees in this area (western NC, US) are already changing to their fall colors. Normally this doesn’t start to happen in this part of the country until mid-late September, so this is about a month ahead of time.

It’s been swelteringly hot (and only in the past week have I noticed it’s getting a bit cool at night and in the early morning), so I don’t think the temperature has anything to do with what’s happening to the trees. Someone told me this can happen when the weather is very dry too, because without enough water, the trees can’t produce chlorophyll, which is what makes them green. We’ve had little rain this summer, so perhaps this is the reason.

How I spent my break today.

I took photos!










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I snapped these two photographs today. Enjoy!
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Azalea in bloom.

Baby oak leaves.

The progression of spring: May 3rd

This will be the final post in this series. (I’ll do another one in the Fall). I’m ending this now because in this part of the country (western North Carolina), most of the changes of spring have occurred and things are looking so much like summer now (even if the temperatures are still a little on the chilly side).

The first photo was taken in my backyard; the other two are the street I live on. It looks dark because I took these in the early evening and rain was moving in.




Previous posts in this series:
1. Winter into Spring: March 8th:
The Progression of Spring:
2. March 15th:
3. March 22nd:
4. March 29th:
5. April 5th:
6. April 12th:
7. April 20th:
8. April 25th:

Japanese maple in bloom.


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The progression of spring: April 25th

I’m doing this a day early because the weather was so gorgeous today and who knows about tomorrow. One day doesn’t make a big difference, so here’s this week’s photos.
It’s starting to look a lot like early summer for the most part.

The same neon green field I thought was so trippy looking one month ago. Now with everything else green too, it looks less weird but is just as green.

The same field from another angle. In the distance cows are grazing. Both these photos were actually taken on 4/23. I cheated.

Taken around 11 AM today in front of the post office.

The same location as the March 8th and March 29th photos.

Previous posts in this series:
1. Winter into Spring: March 8th:
The Progression of Spring:
2. March 15th:
3. March 22nd:
4. March 29th:
5. April 5th:
6. April 12th:
7. April 20th:

The progression of spring: April 20th

On-again off-again rain all day today, but more sunshine than yesterday. This past week, the green has exploded and it’s starting to look more like early summer than it did just a week ago. Only the tallest trees (and those at high elevations on the mountaintops some of which are STILL almost bare) are still not really green yet. I was given some bulbs today that I’ll plant tomorrow probably. I don’t know what kind of bulbs they are!


These two photos were taken from my house, looking across the road.

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Previous posts in this series:
1. Winter into Spring: March 8th:
The Progression of Spring:
2. March 15th:
3. March 22nd:
4. March 29th:
5. April 5th:
6. April 12th: