A nice surprise.

I just got this WordPress notification. Thank you!


I know this is one of the things I said a blogger shouldn’t do, but…



I just can’t keep this to myself. ย  This blog is about to hit a major milestone, probably sometime tomorrow: 50K views this month! ย  Thanks so much to all of you who have helped this to happen! ย I’m over the moon.ย ๐ŸŒ• ๐ŸŒ– ๐ŸŒ— ๐ŸŒ˜ ๐ŸŒ‘ ๐ŸŒ’ ๐ŸŒ“ ๐ŸŒ”

It makes me laugh when I read this old post, one of the first I ever wrote. ย It was written when this blog was a week old and I had 12 followers. ย I’m not known for my patience!





Well, I just have to say it.

May 18, 2015: 2,597 views.

My October 3 article, A Match Made in Hell: Narcissists and HSPs, has exceeded 1K Facebook shares. I can’t believe this. Obviously it hit a nerve out there.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! โค

Holy fettucini! Has this article gone VIRAL?


What the f*ck? ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

Seriously, what the actual f*ck?

I noticed my views were WAY up, and opened my stats page to see what was going on.
Here is what I saw.


On investigation, it has something to do with this very old article I posted back in early October, which seems to be going VIRAL?!?
A Match Made in Hell: Narcissists and HSPs.

I just looked. 518 Facebook shares. WHAT??????
I refreshed — now it’s 523.

I can’t even wrap my brain around this.
But whoever made this go viral, thank you so very much! It made my day.

ETA: Total views for today (my clock is off 4 hours): 2,123! I’ve never even come CLOSE to that!

Pyrrhic victory.


Today was my Best Day Ever– 1,062 views.

But it came at a great cost, due to the ugly drama that’s been going on because of some bullies who have targeted this blog and me because they disagreed with an article I wrote a week ago.

I know they would love nothing more than for me to take down this blog, but it’s not going to happen no matter how much they bellyache about it. I think it’s hilarious though, that their hatred has actually helped me get more viewers. I’m sure not all the views are from people who wish me and this blog ill.

Most of this is sarcastic. I don’t really care about the views. I wish the people targeting me would just please move on. That’s all I want to do. Live and let live.

The top 6!


Because I can’t think of anything more interesting to post about right now, here are my Top 6 most popular articles since I started this blog back in September, that have at least 1,001 hits apiece. (I am not including static pages–my Homepage/archives would have the #1 spot if I did that).

1. 20 Songs About Narcissists (#s 11-20) : 3,702 hits

2. 20 Songs About Narcissists (#s 1-10): 1,914 hits

3. Narcissism is a Family Disease: 1,821 hits

4. Famous People Who Have NPD: 1,222 hits

5. Anyone Remember Merrimints: Well, They’re Back (Sort of): 1,191 hits

6. My Son is Furry — Got a Problem With That? 1,001 hits

Other than #3, all these articles have something to do with pop culture or junk food. Not too surprising actually.

I finally broke 4K views per week!

Click graph to enlarge.

The most views I’ve ever had for one day remains 862 (on December 25th of all days!), but I’ve never broken 4,000 views in one week before. ๐Ÿ˜€ I think it’s a good sign.

The art of blogging: new static page!

I just added this list of links to all my blogging and writing articles to the header for easier reference.


Following is a list of links to the articles I have written about blogging and writing. I hope these tips prove as helpful to others as they have to me. Some of the advice I give is really just tried and true suggestions used by other bloggers that I tried too and have worked for me, while others are just things I have picked up along the way.

As with everything else on this blog, I’ve tried to keep a light touch to balance all the deadly seriousness of the subject matter and some of these posts are more for fun than for learning.

Blogging and Writing


Is Profanity in Blog Rants Okay?

Blogging is Not for Pussies

The Drudgery of Blogging


The Narcissism of Blogging

Blogging Drunk

Blogging is Crack for the Soul, but is Blogging about Narcissism, um, well, Narcissistic?

This Blog is Half a Year Old Today

Why This Blog is Becoming Successful and How Yours Can Too

Why is Narcissism so Hot These Days (peripherally related to blogging, but it still belongs here)

The Chatterbox and the Hermit

An Open Letter to WordPress (originally posted on FishofGold.com)

Running Naked in Public

I’m Holding My Nose

A Vast Wasteland

On Political Correctness and the Inevitability of Offending People

Writing is Cheaper then Therapy or Drugs

This Blog is Growing. Your Can Too

Nano Poblano is Over. Wow, What a Ride

Three People Who Deserve My Thanks

Can I Do It? Can I Do It?

The Article That Grew Legs

Best Day Ever

This Is What I Was Born to Do

Aspies Rule the Internet

How Writing Every Day Has Changed Me


I’m Frustrated

My Own Little Kingdom

Nobody Knew Who I Was

7 Science Based Reasons to Use Emoticons

My Decision to Run Ads on This Site

642 Views?! It’s My Second Best Day Since Christmas!

Narcissism on the Internet: What Vaknin Has to Say

My Most Popular Posts (as of 2/19/15)

Ever Have One of Those Days?

Handling Online Trolls and Bullies


Internet Psychopaths: The Difference Between Trolls and Bullies

Two Kinds of Stealth Trolls

Internet Trolls are Psychopaths

Can We Please End This Flame War?

Beware of N’s Who Use Mental Illness as an Excuse to Abuse

Beware of Malignant Narcissists Posting as Victims in the Psychopathic Abuse Community

Replying to My Haters

Around the world in 6 months

Click on map for closer view.

I started this blog on September 10, a little over 6 months ago. One of the most interesting things to me when looking at my stats is the list that shows views by country. I still can’t get over the fact that once you hit that Publish button, my private thoughts and opinions are being seen in countries as far flung as Guam, Singapore, and Nepal.

By now, this blog has been seen by most of the world, from the looks of the map. I think that is the coolest thing.

Views by Country — All Time
United States 35,856
Canada 5,932
United Kingdom 5,345
Australia 1,630
Netherlands 575
Germany 540
Macedonia 488
South Africa 379
Ireland 373
Croatia 299
India 275
Belgium 254
Sweden 252
France 250
Finland 247
Norway 230
New Zealand 227
Philippines 210
European Union 150
Malaysia 148
Italy 144
Greece 139
Poland 137
Spain 136
Brazil 136
Singapore 131
Denmark 125
Switzerland 117
Turkey 111
Mexico 109
Portugal 107
Trinidad & Tobago 106
Israel 104
Luxembourg 95
Russia 93
Japan 85
United Arab Emirates 85
Hungary 80
Austria 64
Slovenia 60
Serbia 54
Indonesia 54
Romania 53
Hong Kong SAR China 44
Czech Republic 42
Thailand 42
Bulgaria 41
Argentina 36
Egypt 33
South Korea 31
Pakistan 27
Saudi Arabia 27
Nigeria 27
Morocco 21
Estonia 21
Lithuania 20
Iceland 20
Taiwan 19
Vanuatu 19
Lebanon 18
Cyprus 18
Kenya 16
Panama 16
Chile 16
Bangladesh 15
Albania 14
Jamaica 13
Puerto Rico 13
Dominican Republic 12
Colombia 11
Ghana 11
Malta 9
Vietnam 9
Uruguay 8
Costa Rica 8
Kuwait 8
Venezuela 7
Bosnia & Herzegovina 6
Guatemala 6
Peru 5
Nepal 5
Algeria 5
Jordan 4
Latvia 4
Mauritius 4
Slovakia 4
Ecuador 4
Qatar 4
Ukraine 4
Tanzania 4
Sri Lanka 3
Guyana 3
U.S. Virgin Islands 3
Mongolia 3
Bolivia 3
Georgia 3
Barbados 3
Guam 3
Ethiopia 3
China 3
Moldova 3
Kazakhstan 2
ร…land Islands 2
Brunei 2
Belarus 2
Maldives 2
Bahrain 2
Suriname 2
Senegal 2
Oman 2
Tunisia 2
Belize 2
Gibraltar 2
Myanmar (Burma) 2
Montenegro 1
Macau SAR China 1
Paraguay 1
Sudan 1
Namibia 1
Palestinian Territories 1
French Guiana 1
Cook Islands 1
Guadeloupe 1
Mauritania 1
Lesotho 1
Bermuda 1
Armenia 1
Timor-Leste 1
Cayman Islands 1
Guernsey 1
Niger 1

642 views?! It’s my second best day since Christmas!

Some of you may remember, on Christmas Day (which is normally a slow day for blog activity), I got an amazing Christmas gift I could never have imagined–862 views, by far my best day ever. I remember feeling like I just won the North Carolina Education Lottery. Or that George Clooney or Robert Downey Jr. just kissed my neck.

Okay, most of that activity was due to a certain narcissistic writer sharing spamming an article I wrote called “Narcissism is a Family Disease” on Facebook, his own forums and groups on Yahoo and Google, and other social media. It was a good article and remains one of my most popular to date. The brilliant narcissistic writer liked it because there was a lot of stuff in there about him. After all, he was the reason for me writing it. It’s still a good article, I think.

Graph showing views and visitors over the past week or so, with 642 views today (318 visitors)

But this post isn’t about that article. That was just about my Best Day Ever. I have never again been able to quite beat that record, but that’s okay. That boost was an artificial one helped along by the famous narcissistic writer, and now I’m on my own. It takes time. As a blogger, you have to be patient.

Overall though, my views have been on the increase. Growth has been pretty steady–it levels out here and there, then shoots back up again, then plateaus for awhile.

I normally average about 500 views a day now, sometimes more, sometimes less. Prior to December 25th with its whopping 862 views, 500 views would have been a fluke. Not anymore.

Today (well, really yesterday, according to the clock on my WP–I never could figure out how to reset it with the correct time), I got 642 views (318 visitors, which averages to about 2 views per visitor), and that’s my best since Christmas Day.

Most popular “article” for 3/10/15–my own homepage/archives.

It’s odd, because by far the largest percentage of views wasn’t for a particular article, but for my “Homepage/Archive.” My most popular article of the day was 49 views for last night’s literary piece “My Final Words About This.” But still not even close to 121 views for my homepage.
That can tell me only one thing–that people are specifically Googling this blog.

This time, the unprecedented stats spike has nothing to do with a brilliant narcissistic writer’s help (which to be fair, was a big part of this blog’s early growth). Now I’m doing this on my own, and that feels fantastic.