I wasn’t going to write another post today, but I can’t let this opportunity pass. I need to get it out there while I still have this heady feeling.
I spent many hours yesterday writing my post about my abusive ex-husband. As a new blogger this was a scary thing to do, realizing complete strangers would be reading my innermost thoughts and feelings, but the prospect of that was very exciting too. After exhausting myself mentally and emotionally (as well as blurry vision from staring at the screen for so long and a MASSIVE ache in my neck) I spent another hour cleaning up–editing and making my post look great. I fell into a sleep like I haven’t had in a very long time.
When I woke up this morning, the first thing I did, even before having my morning coffee, was open my laptop, anticipating at least a few new follows and comments (I know there’s a lot other survivors out there–I have seen their blogs). But….nothing.
What went wrong? I didn’t know. As silly as it sounds I felt…rejected. I was ashamed of myself for feeling this way, because logically I knew it wasn’t anything personal. I’m a new blogger, and probably just not that many people saw my post. I tried giving myself a pep talk to be patient, but I’m not a patient person and it still bothered me.
So I wrote my rant, called “I’m frustrated.” I always aim to be completely honest on my blog, because out there in the real world, there aren’t many places and situations where we can totally be ourselves and talk about the way we feel without the fear of judgment and disapproval. I noticed the level of honesty by other bloggers, and felt I’d found a place where my true thoughts and feelings would be understood. So after writing my rant, I took a deep breath, then pressed “Publish.” And then I waited.
I did NOT expect what happened next. Opinionated Man, who’s been following me since I first started this blog last week, has a very popular website and cares about newcomers like me. He REBLOGGED MY POST on his site, and suddenly I was inundated with new followers, likes and more comments than I can even keep up with. It’s kept me busy all day.
I can’t believe the level of support here at WordPress. Some WordPress detractors have said people who blog on WP are snobs. NOT TRUE!
This morning I had a pitiful 19 followers. I now have 64 and may have more now even as I write this post. That’s how fast my blog is being noticed. It’s very surreal, but wonderful too and I’ve been smiling so much today my face hurts!
I’m not going to set myself up for disappointment by expecting my blog to suddenly go viral or something and get thousands of followers, like OM’s has. That sort of thing takes time. But his (and another blogger’s) generosity in reblogging my post has been an enormous boost, and I no longer feel dejected and depressed like I did when I logged in this morning.
I’m also discovering so many other people’s blogs in my Reader and from my new followers, people I feel I can relate to and who can relate to me.
So for all you bloggers who have reblogged, shared, followed, liked, or commented here today, I want to say THANK YOU! It’s very much appreciated. Hopefully someday I’ll be able to pay it forward and make some newbie feel welcome, just like you all have done for me.
Sometimes all it takes is a little support to get that first big push!
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So happy for you. 🙂 That’s a lot of new followers! More than I’ve ever had in one day!
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Hey welcome to wordpress 🙂 I found your blog through OM’s blog and I am glad I did! keep on writing as your wordpress experience will only get better and better as time goes on
Thanks for your kind words and hope you keep reading!
I still don’t have many followers. I only blog once a week ion two different blogs, and I wonder. . . but I think you really need to be a follower and join in the conversation–kinda like Facebook. I don’t think I’ve figured out the tag thing yet either. I’ll get there.
And just so you know, I was divorced about 17 years ago. My ex was soooo abusive, especially the first few years after the divorce. Time helps, and I we actually get along now, even though we really don’t understand each other. I am glad you have this forum to talk about it. And thanks again for reblogging me.
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You’re welcome! I hope it helps a little bit. Your blog is great. Give it time you will get more followers.
That’s good you can still talk to your ex even though he was abusive. Be careful though.
Eh. He lives more than 300 miles away, the kids are grown and gone, and the only time we see each other is when a baby is born, a child gets married, etc. Not much drama there.
That’s good he lives far away.