Tag Archives: attachment

The childhood origins of narcissism.

This is a very informative video explaining how narcissism develops during childhood. Advertisements

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The Still Face Experiment (with an observation about Caylee Anthony).

Originally posted on Lucky Otters Haven:
Here is a dramatic video that shows how powerful the lack of mirroring is on an infant. It’s amazing how quickly the baby in this video notices the mother’s lack of affect and responds…

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Another brick in the wall…nuked!

How do I even begin? What happened tonight in my therapy session was a little thing, objectively speaking, really a very little thing. But to me it was a huge, HUGE deal, maybe even a breakthrough of some sort. I … Continue reading

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When your therapist rejects you.

I just read a post from a blogger who describes how her therapist suddenly terminated her without warning.  She writes, I spend pockets of time here and there throughout the days just wracking my brain trying to figure out what … Continue reading

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The wait is too long.

It’s 6:51 PM. I would normally be starting my therapy session right now, but my therapist is out of town this week. 7 more days seems like 7 more years. Sigh. Once you become attached to your therapist, even once … Continue reading

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Loosening boundaries.

My therapist moved closer to me today, from about 6 feet away to more like 3 feet. I feel like I won the lottery. All week I’ve been obsessing over this and reading everything I can about touch/closeness in therapy … Continue reading

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Storyteller.

My therapist told me I’m a good storyteller. This was one of the most validating things anyone ever told me. He likes my stories. I keep him entertained. I make him laugh and keep him on the edge of his … Continue reading

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The Still Face Experiment.

Here is a dramatic video that shows how powerful the lack of mirroring is on an infant. It’s amazing how quickly the baby in this video notices the mother’s lack of affect and responds negatively to it. This is at … Continue reading

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You are just an object to a narcissist.

I saw this post in the NPD forum at Psychforums. The discussion was about narcissists who seem to care more about animals than people. “StupidPig,” a poster with NPD wrote an interesting post, which I think is a great explanation … Continue reading

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Tears of beauty.

Most people associate crying and tears with sadness or grief. Yes, it’s true that you see tears when people are upset, grieving or sad, but it’s not really due to the sadness itself. Crying has nothing to do with the … Continue reading

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