12 more songs about narcissism

Posted on January 5, 2015 by luckyotter

Narcissism is a hot topic, and popular music is no exception, especially since so many songs are about relationships gone bad and breakups with narcissistic lovers. Whenever possible, I tried to include lyric videos.

1. Christina Aguilera: Vanity

Speaks for itself.

2. Sara Bareilles: King of Anything

Fairly recent, nice indie pop song about a not so nice malignant narcissist.

3. Queen: I Want it All

I couldn’t find a lyric video, but here’s the lyrics:

Adventure seeker on an empty street,
Just an alley creeper, light on his feet
A young fighter screaming, with no time for doubt
With the pain and anger can’t see a way out,
It ain’t much I’m asking, I heard him say,
Gotta find me a future move out of my way,
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now,
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now,

Listen all you people, come gather round
I gotta get me a game plan, gotta shake you to the ground
Just give me what I know is mine,
People do you hear me, just give me the sign,
It ain’t much I’m asking, if you want the truth
Here’s to the future for the dreams of youth,
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now,
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now,

I’m a man with a one track mind,
So much to do in one life time (people do you hear me)
Not a man for compromise and where’s and why’s and living lies
So I’m living it all, yes I’m living it all,
And I’m giving it all, and I’m giving it all,
It ain’t much I’m asking, if you want the truth,
Here’s to the future, hear the cry of youth,
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now,
I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it now…

4. Madonna: Material Girl

Madonna purportedly suffers from NPD herself. I don’t doubt it. Still a great 1980s classic though.

5. Rush: Malignant Narcissism (instrumental)

No words, but the title says it all so it belongs here anyway. Good hard rock jam.

6. The Police: Every Breath You Take

The dude in this 1986 megahit definitely seems psychopathic to me.

7. Michelle Branch: Are You Happy Now

Angry pop rock from 2003 about a girl left by her narcissisict lover.

8. Three Days Grace: Just Like You

Don’t want to get infected by her evil!

9. Shawn Colvin: Get Out of this House

The lyrics are oblique and this song may not be about a narcissistic relationship, it could be just a bad breakup but it’s still a great song so I’m posting it anyway. I could not find a lyric video for this.

10. Gloria Gaynor: I Will Survive

I have looked, but there seem to be very, very few songs about narcissism prior to the 1980s (isn’t that an interesting statement about how our society has changed?), but here’s a disco song with a victorious message about escaping from what appears to have been an abusive relationship with a narcissist. This has become a sort of female empowerment anthem but I don’t see why it couldn’t apply to guys escaping from narcissistic women too.

11. Imagine Dragons: Demons

Sounds like an insightful malignant narcissist to me, warning his prey! Sam, did you actually write this?

12. Carrie Underwood: Cowboy Casanova

Catchy country-pop take on a narcissistic relationship.

See also these two posts for even more songs about narcissism!
1. 20 songs about narcissists #1-10
2. 20 songs about narcissists #11-20

My search terms: second edition

Posted on January 1, 2015 by luckyotter

I love reading my search terms. Among the predictable and dull, there are always some hilarious ones there too. Here are my latest (from the past 7 days). I’ve highlighted the ones that made me spew various beverages out of my nose. (My comments, if I included any, are highlighted in parentheses.)

2014-12-25 to Today
Search Views

thanks 3
narcissistic abuse comment 3
https://otterlover58.wordpress.com/2014/12/10/narcissism-is-a-family-disease/ 3
narcissists hate happy people 2
can narcissists also be autistic 2 (Interesting–this may be worth looking into and writing about)
malignant narcissism vaknin 2
parents hate furries 2
500 pound peep 2
thanxx 1
raised by narcissists 1
psychopathic stare & smirk 1
hsp and narcissist 1
narcissistic supply mother 1
famous people with npd 1
sam vaknin say jesus is narcissist 1
why people with personality disorders ruin the holidays 1
2014 pop song: im narcissistic and 1
psychopaths hate intamacy 1
merrimints candy 1
what do psycos hate 1
sam vaknin liar 1
did sam vankin say he’s a narcissist? 1
what causes a child that is very intelligent to become stupid in adulthood 1
beth psychopath 1
npd mother so i reject my beauty 1 (Interesting)
how to change my origin email 1
somatic narcissism and relationships 1
is joel osteen narcissistic 1
jodi arias 1
millennials are narcissistic 1
sam vaknin narcissist dog 1 (Ermmm…thinking of keeping Sam as a pet? You might want to check with his wife about that first)
the psychopathic stare celebrities 1
narcissists are in hell 1
vain and narcissistic hip hop music 1 (I think pretty much all of it is?)
narcissist mother blog december 2014 1
avoidant scapegoat 1
my “toad” dad and my narcissistic mom 1 (Is that what happened when she kissed him?)
stupid narcissist bitch 1
konversation narcissist 1
sam vatkin traits 1
why are psychopaths so good to their pets 1 (Ummmm…see this: https://otterlover58.wordpress.com/2014/11/16/psychopaths-and-pets/)
jesus 1
i hate cream cheese 1
dad pimps daughter 1
nipping narcissistic behavior 1 (maybe this is the same person mistaking Sam Vaknin for a dog).
narcissist and the occult 1
narcissists golden child and theft of money 1
Unknown search terms 149

20 songs about narcissists (#11 – 20)

Posted on December 12, 2014 by luckyotter

Here are the final ten songs in this series about narcissism and psychopathy in popular music. The first ten are in this post: https://otterlover58.wordpress.com/2014/12/12/ten-songs-about-narcissists-part-one/

11. “Every Me and Every You” by Placebo

A commenter named Sinderella suggested this one to me. I never heard it before, but it’s a great rock song and it also comes from the point of view of the narcissist, instead of the victim, which makes it a bit different. Thank you, Sinderella.

12. “Hurt” by Nine Inch Nails

Disturbing look inside the psyche of a malignant narcissist by the well known ’90s rock band.

13. “Live to Tell” by Madonna

One of Madonna’s best and most haunting songs ever. The lyrics are a bit oblique but I read somewhere this was a song about her abusive, psychopathic father. It could be about a love relationship with a narcissist too. (Madonna herself allegedly has NPD–since it’s a family disease, many ACONS also have the disorder).

14. “Farmer’s Daughter” by Crystal Bowersox

Catchy but angry and emotionally cathartic autobiographical folk-pop song about the singer’s abusive, drunk, psychopathic mother, who badly damaged both her children. There wasn’t a lyric video for this because the song was never a big hit, but I think you can understand all the words and the video tells the story.

15. “Don’t You Want Me’ by the Human League

The synth-pop hit from 1981 tells the story of a woman whose narcissistic, manipulative manager/lover is no longer of any use to her because he’s made her a big celebrity and now she wants to move on. It’s hard to tell who’s the real narcissist here. This may be one of those rare relationships with two narcissists using each other for their own gain. Such a relationship cannot last.

16. “Foolish Games” by Jewel

Hauntingly beautiful song by the folk-turned-country singer about being dumped by a narcissistic man who only used her as long as he needed her.

17. “Sweet Nothing” by Calvin Harris featuring Florence Welch

Fairly new dance-pop hit about a woman dealing with a narcissistic lover.

18. “The Chauffeur” by The Deftones

The lyrics are very poetic and somewhat oblique but this seems to be about a relationship with a malignantly narcissistic woman.

19. “Somebody That I Used to Know” by Gotye featuring Kimbra

I never really thought of this as a song about narcissism, but if you listen to the short verse by Kimbra (really the most telling lyric in the song), she is calling her lover out for his narcissistic, manipulative behavior, while Gotye appears to be experiencing a narcissistic crisis/loss of narcissistic supply and blaming his lover for leaving him.

And to close this post…

20. “My Way” by Frank Sinatra

Classic song by the blue eyed crooner paints a picture of a narcissist from his own point of view.

If you liked this post, also see 12 More Songs About Narcissism.

Here’s another ten songs about narcissism I just added to this series: https://luckyottershaven.com/2015/04/22/10-more-songs-about-narcissists/

20 songs about narcissists (#1 – 10)

Posted on December 12, 2014 by luckyotter

Because so many relationships are unequal, predatory, and abusive, and songs about relationships are so common in popular music, narcissism comes up in them often. I have posted songs about narcissism before, but I wanted to put them all in one post. I will be posting 20 songs, 10 in each post.

These songs are not ranked (because ranking them is impossible and isn’t my focus here anyway), so the songs are posted in totally random order.

Almost every genre of popular music is represented here. I have tried to include lyric videos whenever possible, so you can read the words.

1. “Narcissist” by The420Four:

Indie stoner garage rock that hits the nail on the head (but is nearly unlistenable). It still belongs on the list.

2. “Mean” by Taylor Swift

The pop country princess seems like someone who’s been in more than her fair share of abusive relationships with narcissistic, selfish men. From what I’ve heard, fame has never gone to her head–she’s super nice and falls in love easily, so she probably attracts narcissistic men who want to use her. But in this song, Taylor finally shows a little badass attitude and calls out her latest narcissist for what he really is in her ridiculously catchy 2012 pop-country hit “Mean.”

3. “Narcissus” by Alanis Morissette

Tribute to a narcissistic lover by the popular ’90s singer. This is one of her more current, less well known songs, but it’s still great.

4. “Building a Mystery” by Sarah McLachlan

The video is so well done in this hauntingly beautiful 1997 hit that I didn’t search for a lyric video. If you want to read the lyrics, I posted them here. This has remained one of my favorite songs ever.

5. “Voices Carry” by ‘Til Tuesday

The turquoise on hot pink typeface is a little hard on the eyes, but this was the only lyric video I could find for this enormously popular 1985 electropop hit about a relationship with a narcissist who wanted to keep their relationship a secret.

6. “Father of Mine” by Everclear

Here’s a hit from the early 2000’s from a man’s perspective–this song was written by the lead singer about his abusive and uncaring father (who was most likely a malignant narcissist) and how it’s still having repercussions on his life as an adult.

7. “You’re So Vain” by Carly Simon

This was a huge radio hit in 1972. Simon wrote this song about the narcissistic actor Warren Beatty, who she had had a stormy one-sided relationship with. I couldn’t find a decent lyric video, but you can read the words here.
Speaking of vanity, I thought this video was extremely advanced for 1972 technology, so I looked into it further and found out this was a remix video of the original song made in 2010! Carly still looks terrific!

8. “Liar” by Henry Rollins

This song from the late 1990s absolutely nails the evil mindset of the psychopathic malignant narcissist. This video is incredibly well done and powerful, so I didn’t include a lyric video. You probably won’t need one because Rollins’ enunciation is clear as a bell. The singer/actor/activist is not actually narcissistic in the slightest, but he plays the part here incredibly well

9. “Me Myself and I” by de la soul.

A narcissistic r&b/hip hop anthem for the self absorbed. Hip hop in particular seems to be an especially narcissistic music genre. Some of the N attitude in hip hop may not be genuine but a type of posing for effect, but one still wonders.

10. “Set Fire to the Rain” by Adele

Another beautiful song about an abusive relationship with a dishonest, narcissistic man.

Part Two (songs #11 – 20) can be seen in this post: https://otterlover58.wordpress.com/2014/12/12/20-songs-about-narcissists-part-two-of-two/

Also see: 12 More Songs about Narcissism.

Here’s another ten songs about narcissism I just added to this series: https://luckyottershaven.com/2015/04/22/10-more-songs-about-narcissists/

My Top Ten articles of all time

Posted on December 8, 2014 by luckyotter

I know I made a similar post about a month ago, but here’s the updated version of my ten most popular articles over the entire time this blog has existed. (“My Story” is actually not an article, but a page of links in my header).

Click on table to enlarge.

My search terms

Posted on November 23, 2014 by luckyotter

Here’s the list of the search terms that appear in my stats over the entire time this blog has been in existence. I thought it was sort of entertaining.

2014-08-25 to Today
Search Views
abusive narcissistic psychopath 7
lucky otter haven 6
why i love halloween 3
is he has mild narcissist 2
avoidant personality tornado dream 2
my psychopath mom didn’t want me to laugh 2
childhood back stories of psychopaths 2
can narcissism personality disorder be treated 2
albert einstein personality disorder 2
sarah mclachlan narcissist 2
https://otterlover58.wordpress.com/2014/09/20/my-son-is-furry-got-a-problem-with-that/ 2
sarah mclachlan sucks 2
new insights on narcissism 2
no need to live trolls 2
merrimints recipe 2
are psychopaths born or raised 2
is christianity true 2014 2
different styles to renovate a plain long rancher 2
how to program a flying monkey by a narcissist 2
psychopathic abuse and ptsd 2
malignant narcissistic mothers murder people 2
ted bundy autism 2
arrogant self-centred homosexual “aspergers” drug abuse 1
in the movie we need to talk about kevin what was wrong with kevin to why he had to wear diapers until he was 9 years old 1
greek god narcism 1
12 step program 1
narcissistic abusive autism moms 1
psychopath sleeping on couch 1
narcissists hopeless 1
prairie houses in 2014 1
narcissists in 12 step program 1
leaving an abusive relationship quotes 1
how can aspie work with narcissist 1
avoidant personality disorder laundromat 1
furries popular 1
high pitch roof design split level 1
narcissistic ex husband using religion as a scapegoat 1
conversation with a narcissist 1
sayings about narcissists 1
ptsd from psychopathic mother 1
where is beth thomas today children husband 1
alcoholism and narcissistic personality disorder 1
scott m. peck meyers-brigg 1
narcissists in aa program 1
beth thomas child of rage today 1
raised by narcissist 1
son is a furry 1
npd autism 1
narcissists and holidays 1
how to have a conversation with a narcissist 1
why the narcissist uses you 1
narcissits in aa program 1
narcassists agenda 1
funny essays on hating winter 1
narcissists only care about appearancess 1
narcissism scapegoat 1
what happened to beth the psychopath girl 1
sycophants and bullies 1
imaginary friend and attracting narcissism 1
ordinary people conrad scapegoat 1
narcissists ed blog 1
briggs pants 1
animal love stories 1
house-of-mirrors narcissist meme 1
cream cheese alternatives 1
customers don’t tip 1
cream cheese icing 1
charles manson antisocial personality 1
hsp narcissist 1
my son’s a furry 1
narcissistic blyying troll 1
jokes about psychopathic businessmen 1
eyes are the soul of the alcoholic 1
mommie dearest 1
raised by narcissists 1
merrimints sugar mints 1
borderline personality disorder victims 1
how to deal with a narcissist husband 1
songs about narcissists 1
i trust u more than myself 1
psychopaths and love 1
psychopathic gaze 1
famous people once on public assistance 1
delson mint cream dark chocolate 1
how to survive holidays with avoidant personality disorder 1
is npd part of autism 1
Unknown search terms 459

What are your funniest search terms on your blog?

Famous people who have NPD

Posted on November 21, 2014 by luckyotter

This is not my own list, but I agree with most of the people listed in this blog post.

Here is the entire article:

There are many people all around us that suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), more commonly referred to as narcissism. There are many well known individuals who display characteristics of narcissism, if not full blown NPD. They range from politicians to celebrities, from ministers to business leaders. Some writers and researchers believe that successful and famous people have acquired or situational narcissism; they do show narcissistic traits but only after they have worked hard, sometimes for years, to get there. But that success often produces a personality pattern replete with narcissistic traits. Others believe that these people were narcissistic to begin with and sought out opportunities and fields that would satisfy their narcissistic needs. Either way, once they become famous it leads to narcissistic thinking and behaviors; they have lots of money and/or fame, don’t wait in line at restaurants or events, have limo service, and are asked for photographs and so on. This often leads to demanding behavior, feeling they are above the law, becoming more exhibitionistic and many have public social or emotional meltdowns (frequent run-ins with the law, drug and alcohol abuse, attempting suicide, etc.).
Let’s take a look at some of the famous people who show personality traits that suggest narcissism. Most of them show grandiose thinking and exaggerated self-importance, many believe or fantasize about the power they have, most believe they are special, need to be admired and feel entitled. Many dictators and criminals had or have narcissistic personalities as well as the Hollywood celebrities; some are negative role models and some are positive. Hitler and Stalin both had grandiose self-images as did Casanova, Marquis de Sade, Peter Sellers, and the heart surgeon Christiaan Barnard. Other likely suspects are Madonna, Margaret Thatcher, Paris Hilton and O.J. Simpson. Here are just a few of the many that come to mind:

Jim Jones
Saddam Hussein
Warren Beatty
Ryan O’Neal
Alec Baldwin
Sharon Stone
Elvis Presley
William Shatner
Joan Crawford
Pablo Picasso
Ike Turner
Lee Harvey Oswald
Donald Trump
Kayne West
Charlie Chaplin
Marlon Brando
Eva Peron
Simon Cowell
Liberace
Adolph Hitler
Joseph Mengele
Joseph Stalin
Ted Bundy
O.J. Simpson
Paris Hilton
Madonna

The author also has Marilyn Manson on the list, but while I do think he has psychological issues, I don’t think that he is a narcissist. From what I have read of him, he has exceedingly low self esteem and was bullied in school. Narcissists are rarely victims of school bullying.

Many of these people are successful and talented entertainers, and as such have contributed in a positive way to the world, so while they may be narcissists, some of them are probably not malignant narcissists or psychopathic (this just means they are less high on the narcissist spectrum than people who have contributed nothing to the world except evil and misery or have led a parasitic, exploitative lifestyle. Some may even possess small amounts of empathy and give generously to charity.)

Here’s a few others I would add (not a complete list by any means):

The Koch Brothers
Rush Limbaugh
Ayn Rand (she glorified narcissists in her books and a serial killer was her role model)
Scott Peterson
Osama bin Laden
Susan Smith
Jodi Arias
Dick Cheney
Sarah Palin
John Edwards (D-SC who cheated on his wife while she was dying from cancer)
Joel Osteen
Bette Davis
Joan Crawford (may have been Borderline rather than NPD)
Bing Crosby
Mick Jagger
Ted Nugent
Justin Beiber
Nikki Minaj
Most televangelists
Most Reality TV stars
Many rap and rock stars (narcissism is part of their whole badass “package” but it may not be genuine)

Many people have accused Barack Obama of being a narcissist, but I disagree.

I found this interesting chart showing different high-profile professions and the corresponding level of narcissistic traits. Not surprisingly, Reality TV scores highest. (Click to enlarge the chart)

Counting down!

Posted on November 9, 2014 by luckyotter

This is my 98th post. Only two more and I’ll have 100. Back on September 10th when I started this blog, I promised myself I’d write one post a day. I wasn’t sure I could do it. But I’ve outdone myself, since September 10th is only 60 days ago and this is my 98th post. That motivates me. I think I might be able to reach my goal by tonight.

OM (Harsh Reality) always likes to help us new bloggers and provides regular showcases for us to link to our blogs on his site. Today he asked what our Top Ten posts are. I had never looked to see what they were before, and wasn’t too surprised to see my first Furry article at the top of the list, since that is the only article I’ve written that STILL always appears in my Top Posts list on my homepage. It also got a huge boost from Twitter. I think it’s one of my best written articles and the title is awesome. The #2 spot article, which was a rant back when I was a newbie and wasn’t getting many views or followers, got a big boost from a reblog by OM, which gave my entire blog the push into the cyber-universe it needed. Never again would I log into my account in the morning to find only crickets and tumbleweeds.

Here is my entire Top 10.

2014-08-11 to Today

Title		Views

My son is “furry”–got a problem with that?		515
I’m frustrated.		282
Part Two: finding myself: a hopeless task if you depend on narcissists to do the job for you (late adolescence/early adulthood)		192
Raised by a narcissist: my story of psychopathic abuse (childhood and adolescence)		137
Sleeping with the devil: my marriage to a psychopath		87
I made a little deal with God today		76

Gratitude		57
Furries revisited.		56
Narcissists who use 12-step programs to further their agenda		55
A new insight on being the only child of a narcissistic mother	53

So today (or the latest, tomorrow) I will reach 100 posts. I’m also nearing another milestone: 200 followers. I never thought my blog would be this active in two short months. I want to take this opportunity to say “thanks” to all you awesome people who are following and reading my blog.

16 overrated things

Posted on October 31, 2014 by luckyotter

1. Facebook. Your boss or your potential boss can spy on you and make character judgments based on what your updates say or what your photographs look like. Family members and old classmates you’d rather have nothing to do with can find you here. Companies can profile you and bombard you with ads for you to “like.” Facebook is fucking Big Brother. It’s going to take over the world someday. It must be stopped.

2. Stainless steel appliances. They look nice when new, but they’re hard to maintain and keep looking nice. They can’t take fingerprints and everything shows on them. After a few years they just start to look like shit. I’ll stick with plain old boring white appliances, thank you. Unfortunately, if you’re in the market for a new fridge or oven, they’re ALL in stainless steel these days.

3. The Kardashians. Famous for doing nothing at all. What the hell is so interesting about them?

4. Shrimp and other invertebrate seafood. Shrimp has a disturbing crunchy texture that reminds me of the exoskeletons of insects and arthropods. In fact, as members of Crustacea, shrimp, crab and lobster are biologically very close to Insectivora and Arthropoda. Sea-bugs for supper. Yum.

5. Vampires/zombies. They bore me. I’ll never get the neverending love affair America has with these uninteresting creatures.

6. Homeschooling. Kids don’t learn to interact with their peers, and most parents really aren’t cut out to be teachers. That said, I suppose there are some benefits for families who want to be able to control what their kids are exposed to. I’m not sure that’s always a good thing.

7. Autumn. There’s about a week where the trees actually look colorful, then it’s all downhill after that. While the weather is okay (in September and October), it’s getting colder and by November and December, it might as well be the middle of February. I don’t like fall because it reminds me that my least favorite season, winter, is coming. The days are getting shorter and everything is dying. It’s fucking depressing.

8. Snow. I ranted about it in this blog post.

9. Blonde hair. Women with blonde hair have to work extra hard to be taken seriously because everyone assumes they’re stupid. Blonde hair doesn’t age well and makes some people look washed out. Why 90% of women want to be blonde is a mystery.

10. Tans. The precursor to skin cancer, and they don’t look all that great anyway. I’d rather be pasty and free of both wrinkles and dangerous sun lesions for a few more years.

11. Christmas. The main problem I have with Christmas is how overcommercialized it has become. The day after Halloween it starts, and for almost two months we are made to feel guilty if we can’t afford the latest, most expensive gifts for our loved ones and can’t act jolly all the time. You can’t get away from it. Commercials and ads showing large, happy families sitting down enjoying a sumptuous Christmas meal with everyone opening gifts make me feel inferior and ashamed of my small, dysfunctional, impoverished family. One of my favorite radio stations during the rest of the year plays Christmas music 24/7 and it’s enough to make me want to stab Santa Claus.

12. Sushi. The package is nice but it’s RAW FISH. I’ll pass.

13. Major Sports (baseball, football, basketball, hockey). I just. don’t. care. Mmmmkay?

14. The news. I don’t like to get angry, and watching the news has an unfortunate tendency to make my blood boil. If it’s something I really need to know about, I figure it can’t be avoided anyway and I’ll be duly informed. Until then, I’m perfectly happy with my ignorant head stuck down here in the sand

15. Family Guy. Once upon a time it was funny (sort of). Now it’s just pathetic, recycling the same old lame jokes and unfunny cutaways. It’s time to put this show out of its misery. Peter is particularly insufferable.

16. Random, pointless lists ranting about things you think are overrated.

One more thing that pisses me off.

Posted on October 25, 2014 by luckyotter

I can’t believe I forgot to put this on my pet peeve list: Morning radio shows suck. I can only say 4 things about them.

1. They are not funny. It seems everyone wants to be Howard Stern these days, and guess what–he was never that funny either.

2. They ALWAYS have a really irritating, maddeningly perky, female sidekick with the IQ of a sloth and a voice to make even Kim Kardashian cringe in embarrassment. They never have anything original to add, and just seem to exist to laugh idiotically at the Stern-wannabe’s lame jokes.

3. Speaking of the Kardashians, does anyone really give a shit?

4. And finally, the worst thing of all: What the heck is wrong with ACTUAL MUSIC?