Post-Trump Trauma Support Group.



I am going to post this on both my blogs.

Troll-tweeting Trump is fun, but is no longer enough to relieve my stress (even though it’s still fun).   I know I’m not the only one deeply traumatized and triggered by this administration.   Some want to escape; others, who were always kind of apathetic politically (like I always was), now feel like they must take some kind of action.

I think survivors of narcissistic abuse are especially sensitive to the way we are all being gaslighted and manipulated by this administration.

I’ve been taking out my frustrations, fear, and anger on those I love, and I hate being like this. I feel like all the progress I’ve made in therapy has taken a backseat to the rage, fear and sadness I feel right now.

I needed a support group for Trump-trauma, but couldn’t find one.  So I made one.   It’s already pretty active and the people are really friendly.  If you are feeling down, depressed, traumatized, dissociated, angry, terrified, or even just merely concerned, then this group may be for you.

It’s a closed group, so you will need to request to join.   Looking forward to meeting new members, especially fellow bloggers!

For obvious reasons, Trump supporters are not welcome.

Post-Trump Trauma Support Group:

I’m still looking for partnership members!


A few weeks ago, I decided to offer other bloggers an opportunity to become partners with Lucky Otters Haven.  This would mean I’d help you promote your blog, share your posts on social media, reblog selected posts, and display your logo with a link to my blog in my sidebar.  So far Cyranny’s Cove is the only blogger who took me up on this opportunity.  So I’d like to extend the offer again.   You can read my original post (linked below) to find out more.  My email is under Contact Me if anyone is interested!   Or if you have Twitter, you can tweet me (my Twitter feed is in the sidebar).

Don’t miss this opportunity!

Thanks to Danny from Dream Big for inspiring me with this idea.

It helps me, it helps you, and it helps all bloggers! 

Would you like to become a Lucky Otter Partner?


I borrowed this idea from Danny at Dream Big (I don’t think he’d mind but I did just DM him to make sure).   I would like to help promote other blogs (the type of blog you have does not matter, unless its content is offensive).  I’m especially interested in recruiting bloggers who write about mental health but this isn’t a requirement.

I feel like I’m in a position now to help others get seen and help boost their Google rankings.

If you become a Lucky Otter Partner, I will display your logo in my sidebar (you can email it to me and I will resize it so it will fit) linking to your site, which will bring you more hits to your blog.   If you have no logo, no worries.  I can design one for you and of course, will make sure it’s acceptable to you before I post it.

As a partner, I will also promote your blog in various ways — sharing posts on Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, and StumbleUpon, and reblogging selected articles of yours that I think would be appropriate for this blog.

I’ll also write an introductory “welcome” post about your blog when you become a partner.   I might even ask you to write a guest post (you are always welcome to say no).

I haven’t decided yet how many partners I can accommodate, but the slots would be limited.  So act now!

Send me an email ( if you are interested in this opportunity to grow your blog and I will send you the details. 

I’m looking forward to hearing from you and hope you decide take this opportunity to grow your blog and gain greater visibility!

If you’d like to help spread the word, please reblog this post or share it on your social media.  Thanks so much!

Bloggers: share your stuff here!


Good morning, fellow bloggers! I’m taking a page out of Opinionated Man’s book of tricks and asking you to share your blog, favorite post, or most recent post here. I also feel like it’s time to pay it forward for all the help I received when I was new to blogging. This blog gets enough traffic now that posting your link here should give you a small boost in hits.

If I’m really impressed by your article or blog, I may reblog it or write a short post about your blog. So let’s see what you’ve got.
If this experiment has a good turnout I may do more of these in the future.

So where’s Part 2 of “How did Narcissism Get so Popular”?

I didn’t forget about Part 2 of “How Did Narcissism Get So Popular?” I apologize for the delay for those of you looking forward to reading it. It will be posted no later than tomorrow night.

I hate to do this, but…

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I hate asking for help, but I really need it right now. My 14 year old car is in need of serious repairs (I have a major engine misfire involving several cylinders) and my housemate is moving out and I haven’t found a suitable replacement yet (so I’m behind on rent too). I’m working longer hours but money has been very tight. It’s going to cost me several hundred dollars to repair my car so it’s in running condition. I’m looking to raise about $500.

If you feel like you are getting something from my blog, and wish to help me out, please click on the Donate tab in the header (under Nuts and Bolts: General Information) or just click on the link below. Payments can be made through Paypal.

Any help you can offer is deeply appreciated! If you can’t donate, don’t worry. I appreciate your reading my posts and coming here.

Too much email!

Up until now, I’ve tried to follow every blogger who’s following me, but I’m getting far too many email notifications, so I can’t do that anymore. If you are following this blog and don’t receive a follow back, please do not be offended. It’s nothing personal.

Anti-bullying public service ad in the sidebar.

This is now in the sidebar.

This is a bully free blog. I allow dissenting opinions, of course, but trollish or abusive comments from bullies and trolls won’t be allowed (and have never been allowed). Every day I go through my comments folder, and sometimes I come across these comments. I can check IP addresses and take screenshots if I want. But I’ve never had a reason to, and hopefully never will. So abusive comments do not normally get approved and get sent to Trash. Fortunately I haven’t had too many. If an abusive comment shows up without my having to approve it (normally this happens if it’s someone who has commented before), it will be deleted and sent to Spam or (possibly) approved and called out.

Anti-bullying is a thing these days, and I’m glad it finally is. Bullying was never taken seriously when I was a child and teenager. In fact, the bullied victims like myself (even girls!) were
likely to be blamed for “not fighting back” or harshly ordered to “let ’em have it,” etc. And of course, no one believed us anyway, because the bullies had turned everyone against us and used their flying monkeys to back up their bogus “I’m such an innocent angel” act in the Principal’s office.

Most of us learned The Golden Rule in kindgerdarten, but fewer of us internalize that rule as adults and treat each other with respect. Bullying isn’t just something kids do on the playground; it’s something that happens between grown-ups online, in the office, in the church, and at home. It happens even among family members if they have chosen a scapegoat. Bullying affects all of us and is one of the greatest evils of our age.

Because this is a blog about narcissism (largely, anyway) and narcissists and bullies are so often one and the same, I decided to link to the government’s website against bullying. There’s an image in the sidebar you can click on to get information or get involved.
You can visit their site at

No more bullying! Let’s respect each other and remember The Golden Rule.


I’m doing the unthinkable.


I am taking tonight off. I have never taken a night off. I feel guilty about doing that. I’m afraid that, like a ex-smoker who smokes “just one cigarette” and thinks they can go back to being a non-smoker, that if I take even one day off from writing, that it might become a habit and I’ll get lazy about posting and go back to being a writer who doesn’t write. And that is something I cannot accept in myself.

But I have a few good reasons for not writing tonight.

1. I am exhausted. I need sleep.

2. I have a ton of emails to answer. I have been putting off answering them in favor of writing new blog posts. I’m probably the world’s worst email replyer. I don’t want people who email me to think I don’t care, because I do, so I need to reply to those emails tonight. I have a responsibility to the people who don’t feel comfortable voicing their concerns, stories of abuse, or questions in the comments section.

3. I really don’t have any good ideas tonight. If I suddenly think of something, I’ll be back to write it.

4. I have a lot of reading to catch up on. It embarrasses me how little I read anymore, now that I write all the time.

5. This probably qualifies as a post, so I really haven’t skipped a day.

See you tomorrow!

A HarsH Goodbye…

So Jason is leaving the blogosphere to hunt treasure.
I’m grateful I started my blog when he was still here, because he was of such immense help to me getting started.
A lot of people here will miss you, OM! 😦 Good luck in your future endeavors. Maybe you’ll be back someday…