What sign is your personality disorder?

Posted on May 4, 2016 by luckyotter

Since this old post is currently going viral and is more for fun than anything else (and this blog could use a little lightness right now), I figured I’d throw this up here again. Enjoy!

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This post is strictly for fun. It’s not meant to belittle personality disorders or the people who have them, nor do I believe in astrology. The idea came from a funny conversation I was having on Facebook today.

Cluster A Personality Disorders (anxious)

1. Avoidant: Cancer
(fearful of rejection, sensitive, homebody, shy, cautious)

2. Dependent: Pisces
(wants to be taken care of, clingy, passive, codependent)

3. Obsessive-compulsive: Virgo/Taurus
(clean/neat freak, obsessed with order and predictability; cautious and stubborn)

Cluster B Personality Disorders (dramatic, emotional)

1. Borderline: Libra
(wild mood swings, romantic fantasies, changes mind, can’t make decisions, can’t take sides)

2. Narcissistic: Scorpio/Aries
(vindictive when injured, easily offended; arrogant and entitled, infantile)

3. Histrionic: Leo
(full of themselves, dramatic displays of shallow emotion, vain, grandiose)

4. Antisocial: Gemini
(two faced, fast talkers, glib, deceitful, manipulative)

Cluster C Personality Disorders (odd or eccentric)

1. Schizoid: Capricorn
(asocial, reclusive, rigid, serious)

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P.O’d.

Posted on May 3, 2016 by luckyotter

I guess I’m feeling like a victim today. Both this and my last post are all about me wallowing in self-pity. Eh, I’ll get over it but I need to vent. This will be short though.

After that out of the blue attack on my character on another blog a few days ago, I told myself I wouldn’t let it get me down. I told myself I’ve grown a lot and have a lot more courage than I did a year ago, the last time this happened. I told myself that as a blogger, I need to grow some balls and accept the fact that I will have haters.

I lied I guess, because for the past couple of days, I just haven’t felt like posting, at least not anything too personal. My loss of motivation has everything to do with this vicious and unwarranted attack on me. I set my other blog (Down the Rabbit Hole, which is more personal in nature than this one and was the source of the post that was used against me) to private and will probably keep it that way for awhile; I have no idea for how long. Because it’s so personal I don’t have the courage yet to make it public again right away.

This pisses me off–a lot. How dare this hypocritical person take away the one thing that keeps me going? How dare this horrible individual make me set my writings to private and make me feel the toxic shame all over again? And anyway, shame for WHAT? For writing a post that made me seem TOO VULNERABLE? Why should that be shameful? It isn’t, of course, but my programming tells me it is, and I got triggered.

I know it’s my own choice to inhibit myself and set blogs to private, and really, this narcissistic person can’t do much other than continue to post negative stuff about me on their blog. If I don’t look, I won’t be hurt or angered–and I haven’t looked. A year ago, I would have *had* to look, so one way I’ve changed is I’m able to resist the temptation to see what the haters are saying. I never used to be able to do that.

I know this will be the topic in therapy the next time I go. I still let narcs get to me way too much. I still have such a long way to go.

The picture of the wolf head at the beginning of this post, I find inexplicably hilarious. Laughter is always great medicine! Thank God for my sense of humor.

I should stay the hell off Facebook.

Posted on May 3, 2016 by luckyotter

I’ve hated Facebook for a long time, and last night reminded me of one of the biggest reasons why. My mother’s entire side of the family is on Facebook, and of course I just *had* to go look at their profiles and see what everyone is up to. I don’t know why I do that, since every time I do, I’m always blindsided by a tidal wave of envy. Last night was no exception.

A niece, who is twenty years younger than I am, appears to have a storybook life, at least the way she presents herself on Facebook. She appears to have all the following going for her: She is happily married, her adorable husband just opened a high-end restaurant to rave reviews, they just finished building a house near the ocean, she gave birth to a third perfect child a few months ago (natural childbirth, of course), her children are disgustingly beautiful, she always looks fit and well put together, she always looks ecstatic in her photos, and she gets a ton of comments–like hundreds of comments from their scads of friends and of course the extended family–telling her how beautiful and perfect she and her family and everything else are. Oh, and they just got back from a vacation too. She has the love and acceptance of my mother and all of her extended family. And she’s not alone. Everyone else on that side of the family seems to have a perfect life too. I always imagine (and probably imagine correctly) that they all look down on me.

Do I sound envious? I guess you could say I am. I don’t have the sort of happy, successful, perfect, monied life my mother and her extended family value. Because I “failed,” I’ve been devalued and am seen as an embarrassment and source of shame, which is the real reason why I’m never invited to any family functions, not that I’d go anyway. The sad thing is, as the family scapegoat, I was set up to be the family black sheep and never be able to have a life like that.

I need to quit Facebook. I really hate it. All that perfection makes me want to HURL!

Dog’s Pavlov.

Posted on May 3, 2016 by luckyotter

Credit: saynotocrack.com

Monday Melody: Won’t Get Fooled again (The Who)

Posted on May 2, 2016 by luckyotter

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In my opinion, the best rock and roll song of all time. That’s all.

Wood thrush singing.

Posted on May 2, 2016 by luckyotter

I have a wood thrush who sings from the high treetops by my house. I know because his song sounds exactly like the one in this video. I love this bird’s song, and the haunting, almost metallic way it sounds. Wood thrushes live all along the East Coast of the United States, and are shy birds. They are most common deep in the forest, but since I live on the edge of one, I can still hear him from my house.

In the early morning, and again at dusk, all the birds, including this one, go nuts with their singing. It’s like listening to a symphony. It drives my cats insane. They jump at the windows trying to figure out where all the singing is coming from.

Original Sin or Original Self-Centeredness?

Posted on May 2, 2016 by luckyotter

This is a wonderful post about the origins of narcissism and its antidote, empathy, written by one of my new favorite bloggers.

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Jesus Without Baggage

Many Christians believe humanity is so broken, and nature so violent, because of Adam’s disobedience in the garden. They say the world was originally perfect but Adam ruined everything. Furthermore, all Adam’s descendants are born with ‘original sin’ and alienated from God because of Adam.

Other believers cannot accept this explanation of our brokenness. Yes, the world is very imperfect and often harsh. Yes, we are subject to the human condition of pain, suffering, conflict, alienation, and death, but none of this is caused by Adam’s alleged sin.

Recently, I shared that the story of Eden is not an historical account but a marvelous reflection on our human condition. In the following article I determined that ‘original sin’ does not exist.

But if our problems are not caused by original sin from Adam, then how can we account for them?

What Do We Mean by Sin?

First, I think…

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No guest post this week.

Posted on May 1, 2016 by luckyotter

There will be no guest post this week because I don’t have one ready, but next week I’ll post a new one.

Meet and Greet @ Dream Big: 4/30/16

Posted on May 1, 2016 by luckyotter

Got balls?

Posted on May 1, 2016 by luckyotter

Rita sure does. She drives trucks along the Bolivian Road, believed to be the “world’s most dangerous road.” Watch this documentary — you will be on the edge of your seat. I could never do what she does!