The Hurtful Church of Jesus-less Christians

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I love John Pavlovitz’ blog.   He’s a Christian pastor, but the kind that’s tragically rare in America: a pastor who actually believes in the compassionate, loving Jesus of the Sermon on the Mount, a Jesus whose table included all types of people and always had room for one more.   This Jesus isn’t the Jesus of the prosperity gospel, dominionist, and right wing evangelical churches,  whose preachers seem to completely ignore the inclusive, loving Jesus in favor of their abusive and constantly angry God who gaslights his flock, holds them to endless harsh rules, constantly threatens Hell and punishment, shames and silences women and tells them they must tolerate abuse from their husbands and pastors (because as women, they must be doing something wrong to deserve the abuse of their “betters”), makes excuses as to why keeping children in cages and separating families is “godly,”  and tells poor people their poverty is due to their own moral failings and that if they were pleasing to God, they’d be rich.

Their God is forever changing the goalposts and is impossible to please.   Moreover, their God has “anointed” certain chosen people as “prophets” or “apostles,” people we are to obey without question and never criticize just because their God has elevated them above the rest of us (that’s where the “Trump is anointed by God” rhetoric comes from).    Their religion, so unlike the real Christ, is merely a cover for greed, hatred, exclusion, and fascism, and is used by sociopaths and narcissists as a means to control people.

They have created a God in their own image: their God is a sociopath or least a pathological narcissist, and good, decent people with a conscience and empathy want nothing to do with him.    But in America, unfortunately he is the loudest and most visible God.   The term Christianity itself is acquiring a bad name lately (this trend has increased since Trump was elected) because good people are associating it with authoritarianism, hatred, condemnation, elitism, American exceptionalism, misogyny, white male privilege, and harsh punishment.  No wonder so many good people are turning to atheism or non-Christian religions instead.

I too am finding the term Christianity offputting lately.  When someone tells me they’re a Christian, I automatically become wary and distance myself, assuming they follow the authoritarian, far right God that’s so prevalent in America today.    Theirs is a predatory, heartless religion that behaves more like a cult than a proper religion, and hurts millions more than it helps (mainly enriching its wealthy pastors and billionaire donors).

John Pavlovitz speaks for the rest of us, Christians and non-Christians alike, who reject the authoritarian American God, but who wish to emulate the Jesus of the Gospels.  Such Christians, to circumvent the recent negative connotations associated with “Christian,” have been calling themselves Christ Followers.   I kind of like that!

Here is another insightful and important article from John Pavlovitz’ “Stuff That Needs to Be Said” blog.

The Hurtful Church of Jesus-less Christians 

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A time for peace: my last post

Don’t panic–this isn’t about my blog.

I just discovered Katie’s incredible blog a few short months ago, but I feel like we’re kindred spirits, and she has taught me so, so, SO much!

I don’t even know Katie’s last name (or even if this is her real first name) or where she lives.  I don’t know what she looks like.  I do not have her email address. Yet I feel like we could be sisters–or lifelong friends.

The other day in another post, I quoted a Zen proverb: “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” Katie was a teacher who came into my life at exactly the right time, and helped me resolve my issues with forgiveness and my guilt feelings over having “forgiven” the narcissists who abused me. Others have told me I shouldn’t. I was at a crossroads. But Katie’s beautifully written posts did something few other bloggers have been able to do–they brought me to tears: healing tears.  Because what she writes about is always exactly what I need at the time I read it, and her words are like poetry. Her blog let me know that forgiveness is not only okay, it’s what God wants. It’s the only way to emotional freedom.

Katie, if you read this, I do hope you’ll come back sometime and write again. In the meantime, PLEASE leave your blog posts up. Someone who needs them (as I did) may stumble across them in a month, a year, 3 years, even 10–and find comfort and answers through your blog.  There are many narcissist abuse blogs out there in cyberspace, but there’s only one  Dreams of a Better World.   I’d like to stay in touch with you. You can find my email in the “contact me” information.