I was browsing and NPD forum and came across this post by a woman who claims to be a narcissist or possibly a borderline (she is undiagnosed) and is begging to be healed (she is apparently undergoing a narcissistic crisis–which usually happens after a loss of a major or primary source of supply). What’s interesting is her memory–presented as a kind of list– of the events that led to her choosing narcissism as a coping strategy. It is a choice, after all–usually made in childhood, though the choice can be made as an adolescent or adult too. It may or may not be a conscious choice.
This could, of course, all be fabricated by someone who knows the psychology of NPD fairly well, but if it isn’t a fabrication, it’s a textbook case of how this personality disorder begins and evolves. It also illustrates my ideas about narcissists beginning life as highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how painful this illness can be for its sufferers.
In a most narcissist way I want to ask you how I can heal.
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Working mom
Parents divorced at birth
Father disconnected.
Sensitive child. (nature/animals/people)
left at 8 weeks with babysitters constantly
LOVING MOTHER
over indulged (spoiled)
only child
childhood trauma at 4 (seeing something with animals)
I tipped and decided that all people were cruel.
I shielded myself for years from TV, movies and news articles that I deemed disturbing.
I learned pedophiles were real and a problem at age 40.
That is how well I shielded myself.
Now, today I am 52 years old. My husband divorced me. I changed when I was put on Prozac. I had a bipolar episode and life went downhill for 14 years. I came off all medication 2 years ago.
No help with detox. No therapy as I don’t trust people.
Now, I am having problems and after reading your articles believe that I am a narcissist, possibly borderline personality.
Depression overwhelms me when I think of offering myself to the world.
I don’t want to be rejected.
I understand this fear is from perceived trauma.
How do I get passed this?
How do I resolve anger after (feeling like) I lost 14 years of my life due to mis management of psychotropic medication.
I have searched for a therapist, I have called therapists and interviewed them. I get confused and really don’t know with whom I should place my trust.
