BPD Awareness: end the stigma


Borderline Personality Disorder is a serious mental disorder with its roots in childhood abuse (usually narcissistic or sexual abuse) and as you can see in one of the memes below, it shares much in common with Complex PTSD and may in fact be a variation of the same disorder.

But BPD is terribly stigmatized, with its sufferers being called everything from evil to incurable.  Many mental health professionals refuse to work with Borderlines because of this stigma.  They’re afraid of us!  While some more aggressive borderlines can certainly do bad things to others and be manipulative, for people with BPD, their actions are caused by an inability to control or regulate their emotions, so they act out instead of thinking before they act. Many Borderlines are more destructive to themselves than to others.  They can seem self-centered and narcissistic not because they lack empathy (many borderlines, in fact have an excess of empathy) but because they get too caught up in their own emotional turmoil to be mindful of others.    Unlike people with NPD, they also don’t have a sense of entitlement.   In fact, they often feel like they deserve nothing.

BPD is much more treatable and receptive to therapy than other Cluster B disorders like NPD or Antisocial Personality Disorder.   Unlike those disorders, too, people with BPD can be helped by medication.










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6 thoughts on “BPD Awareness: end the stigma

  1. I’ve had a weird, recurring thought. Maybe this is a place where someone else would understand it. Every kid eventually learns there is no Santa Claus. What happens if the child, justifiably is upset that his family and friends lied to him? What if he asks them, “Why?”. There is no good answer other than “Everybody does it.”, which is really no answer at all.

    I have had to throw away a moral compass based on tribal myth, and the basic goodness of others. These are Santa Claus. The moral compass that is sustainable and holds up to the rigors of logic, is the primacy of free will. It has two basic precepts. You are not responsible for the actions of others. Your responsibility for your own actions is absolute and inescapable.

    Also, remember that life is a continuum. When things go bad, we tend to forget that life’s timeline is a bell curve. When you can, pay very close attention to when things go right. It’s easy to forget these when things go wrong.

    Lastly, you are going to see a large amount of bad behavior around you. You are going to see people essentially blind to this behavior and it will make you nuts. You will realize that if people were simply observant and remembered better that such behavior would actually be impossible. You will feel betrayed that such a broken system can exist.

    Here’s the tricky part, and the math is very, VERY hard. Out of this largely insane way of treating reality, there arises an emergent system. Without the lies, and the corresponding vulnerability to lies, we would be living “tooth and claw”, “predator and prey”.

    As screwed up as the system is, it is preferable to the alternative. Within the broken system are kindness, loyalty, love, and the rather odd conceit that “goodness and mercy” can exist at all. The crazy system is their origin and their mother. She protects them as the wonderful, precocious children they are.

    The world is screwed up. But sometimes if you take a step back, screwed up translates to “wonderful”.

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    • These are interesting thoughts. I have to read these over again and think about them a little later after I’m fully awake. I think there’s some good food for thought here.


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