I just received an email from a woman who read my blog post from almost two years ago, “My Son is Furry–Got a Problem with That?” Here is that article for those of you who didn’t see it.
Here is the letter I received today. All identifying information has been excluded.
My son’s fox/otter fursona.
I was browsing websites looking for Furry bumper stickers and came across your blog.
I have a 21 year old son who is gay and a furry. So it seems we have quite a lot in common. I have known my son was gay before he actually told me which was about age 13. It was around the age of 15 he started talking about furries. I was fascinated and we started watching Furry convention videos. I was hooked. I tried to be very supportive regarding this to my son. This was a group of people that he could finally relate to and thank God not judge him. He is a very sensitive and highly intelligent person. He just never fit in with his peers. Middle school was the worst and after one year of high school it still wasn’t getting any better for him, so we opted for an online school.
I am very close with my son and he always tells me how awesome I am and he tells his friends that. I am close to a couple of his friends and they are also furries. I have never met and talked with another parent who supports her gay and Furry son. I would love to have an email friend that I could relate to.
Thanks for taking time to read this and hope to hear from you.
Proud Mom of a Furry
My son’s latest dance performance at Megaplex 2016, Orlando, FL
Thank you for sharing this with me! It is a coincidence isn’t it? My son is almost 25 now and his fursona is a fox/otter — he’s the one responsible for getting me to love otters so much I named my blog after them and also use it as my user name too. (I’m not furry though, lol) Now he has a second character, a black and white stoat named “Mex.” Mex is a dancer in the competitions at the conventions and has placed 2nd or 3rd in several of them. He has yet to win, but I’m sure that’s coming. My son began dancing about 4 years ago. He never took a lesson; he is entirely self taught.
Some people think it’s strange that I actually love furries and the furry fandom. I think it’s a harmless hobby and allows these kids and young adults to socialize and have fun. I think they’re so entertaining and funny–and very friendly too. You probably read my article about my feelings about my son being a furry, which is why you wrote. He has developed so much more self confidence and improved his social skills immensely since he began attending the conventions (his first one was in late 2010).
My son was a lot like yours. He was pretty much an outcast at school and middle school as especially bad for him. He is very creative and intelligent (I think most furries are–many of them work in scientific, computer, or medical fields or in the performing or visual arts) and most have some kind of art or performing avocation.
My son, like yours, was so shy and unsure of himself, lacking in confidence and socially awkward. He told me later on that he was very depressed during his middle and high school years. In 2009 he came out to me as gay but I think I already knew. I never had a problem with that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being gay and never have. Many of the greatest friends I ever had were gay.
He was embarrassed to tell me he was a furry but when he finally did I just looked at him with a blank stare because I had no idea what that meant. He explained and I looked it up on Wikipedia. Sadly, furries have gotten a bad reputation and it’s become associated with depraved sex and perversions, but the reality is, that is not the case. I found out the furry fandom is an outgrowth of the science fiction conventions and has been around since the 1980s. I don’t know why they get so much hate and why people fear them so much that there have been actual hate crimes and bomb threats at a few of the hotels that hold the conventions. It’s just a hobby and a passion for dressing up and socializing (and performing) in costume. Furry allows shy and creative young adults like my son to become more outgoing because they are in costume and take on a persona that fits their chosen animal. My son’s life is so much better since he became a furry, and every time he performs in another dance comp, I always watch and root for him (most of them are live streaming now).
I’m glad you’re another mom who supports her son being a furry. You sound like you have a very warm and loving relationship with him. My son will be tickled pink when I tell him that another mom supports her son being furry.
I also want to write a blog post including this letter and my reply but I will not identify you by name or your son’s fursona either. I want to do that because I think it’s important that the truth about furries come out because so many parents of children who are furries completely misunderstand what it’s about and think it’s some kind of sex cult, which it is not. It got it’s unfortunate reputation mostly from an episode of CSI that featured a furry who was a serial murderer. It’s time for the truth to come out–that this is a harmless (if rather expensive!) hobby.