Blogging bullies and silly fights.

More about blogging bullies and stalkers in this article from http://Galesmind.com from all the way back in May! I can’t believe this one passed me by.

After you read Gale’s article, here’s another interesting one from Psychology Today called Deleting the Blog Bully

Here’s one more: Prepare Yourself for the Blog Bullies.
THIS IS A MUST-READ and so good I’m adding it to the Blogging header.
Bottom line–Bullying is inevitable, even if you try hard to always be PC. If you can’t handle bullies, don’t blog, but there are ways you can protect yourself.

galesmind

fighting cats

Honestly I don’t get people that get hysterically riled by something someone writes. Two of my favorite blogs were attacked recently. Harsh Reality and Lucky Otter. Sure they may post blogs that are controversial. I have argued with both of them. We don’t always agree. That is what makes blogs interesting. Good grief if we all agreed on subjects we might as well just shut blogs down and all go home singing Cumbaya.

Being passionate I can understand, getting upset I can understand, not agreeing, thinking the other person is a total ass I can understand. It is the personal attacks I cannot understand.

Intelligent people do not resort to personal attacks to win arguments they find better arguments. Personal attacks are a good sign the person has blown the argument and is sending up smoke screens.

If you disagree with another blogger, walk away for awhile. That other blog…

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About luckyotter

Recovering from BPD and C-PTSD due to narcissistic abuse from childhood. Married to a sociopath for 20 years. Proud INFJ, Enneagram type 4w5. Animal lover, music lover, cat mom, unapologetic geek, fan of the absurd, progressive Catholic, mom to 2, mental illness stigma activist, anti-Trumper. #RESISTANCE
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9 Responses to Blogging bullies and silly fights.

  1. Just Plain Ol' Vic says:

    Agree 100% whole heartedly! So silly…

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  2. emmagc75 says:

    I agree too!

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  3. susanbotchie says:

    eriously, the both of you are terrific bloggers. Both of you are blessings to the internet. i pray that eventually some fences get mended. As for what some commenters are saying, some folks just see the need to horn in.

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    • luckyotter says:

      Thanks. I agree, I like her writing too. We just don’t agree on a number of issues or at least there have been some misunderstandings. I hope you are right and someday we can resolve our differences.

      I know the comments are there and they probably aren’t very nice either. I haven’t even looked at them and probably won’t for awhile. I don’t know the specifics but have some ideas what they might be. There seem to be a few meanies who frequent that blog. What they say doesn’t matter but that’s why I’m not looking, because knowing me it will bother me and that’s probably what they want. Thanks for your continued support, Sue.

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  4. Nick says:

    Peep.
    There’s a particular bias where you don’t want to admit that people you don’t like have positive features and I think that’s where she’s at. I’m also not sure if her religion is helpful in this, it seems to give her the ability to be the victim and self righteousness at the same time.

    She tries to be a member of so many different groups and all of them set up an enemy. She needs someone to be against and it happens to be you at this point. Her absolute fear seems to be that she’s not the winner of the oppression Olympics and that there might be something she could do to improve her quality of life. Full disclosure, I came across her blog reading Fatlogic where those points have already been made, but she seems to just be heading further and further down the rabbit hole.

    For what it’s worth, I think that you’ve done a great job with this blog and you in the time I’ve been reading it you’ve grown. The questions that you’re asking now are the ones that you have to ask to keep moving on with your life and of course the crabs in a bucket don’t like it. Keep your eyes on the prize and think how far you’ve climbed out of hell.

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    • luckyotter says:

      I appreciate your stopping in to say that, Nick. I wonder why she picked this blog as a target. Seriously, it’s not that special. There’s a ton of blogs just like this one out there and my views aren’t all THAT controversial. Maybe cuz we used to be friends (or I thought we were)? I dunno. It doesn’t matter really. Thanks for filling me in. I was starting to think no one else could see these things and that maybe I was the crazy one. About the religion thing, I don’t have a problem with people who subscribe to her sort of belief system, as long as they don’t use it to shame others and act like they’re superior. I’ve known quite a few people like that, especially here in the Bible belt, and they are very offputting and not helping their cause at all. She actually had the gall to tell me my religion was a false one. That’s wrong on so many levels–it’s called religious abuse.

      I think I’ve been gaslighted. She idealizes and devaluates and always needs a scapegoat, like you have explained. I should have paid more attention to the early red flags I was getting even before the first attack back in April that I was dealing with a very disturbed person. Or was it May? I forgot. It was always her attacking me first, out of the blue, totally unexpected both times, and always based on some minor point of disagreement that she blew into a huge deal that made a demon out of me. My attacks on her have been defensive, not offensive. I fight fair.

      I don’t care if this offends her because I’m sure the things she and her sycophants are saying over there are just as bad if not worse. People like that should be called on it. I’m not going to continue to dwell on this though or stir the pot. Doing that just lowers me to their level. It’s a learning experience, like everything else.

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      • Alex says:

        she seems to be swinging at ghosts that have long been left behind. Her arms may get tired one day, maybe they won’t . It’s her world that will suffer if she keeps it up.

        One things for sure, once you go no contact and tell your story from top to bottom and back again, coming up with blog material can be extremely challenging . I think some of this worthless drama is simply click bate.

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        • luckyotter says:

          Probably. I think keeping at it would be a bad decision on her part because after awhile people are going to grow tired of it and see through the vitriol. But it’s not my business, I’m no contact now.

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