15 things that introverts will never tell you.

As a person with Aspergers, I can so relate to everything in this article, so I’m sharing it.

Not all introverts are Aspies but almost all Aspies are introverts. We’re not neurotypicals, so people need to get over it. I embrace my INFJ-ness.

15 Things That Introverts will Never Tell You


Introverts catch a lot of shit for being introverted. The whole world seems so enamored by extroverts – the people we know who just want to be around people all the time. While we introverts might not want that, it doesn’t mean we’re depressed or suicidal or anything wacky like that. There are some things you should know about us.

1. Small talk sucks.
We’re just not very good at it. We’re typically the big-thinking types. We like big ideas and theories. Small talk is uncomfortable. We don’t care about the weather or how your cat has been doing.

2. Being alone is fine.
Seriously, we’re doing okay, even if we hole up in our houses for a while. We don’t need other people for stimulation. We find that ourselves.

3. We aren’t rude or uptight.
We might seem like that at first, but get to know us. We’re still a fun bunch of friends, we just don’t always acclimate to unfamiliar settings and people so quickly.

4. Sometimes, we swing both ways.
We might be introverts, but sometimes we are just so the life of the party. We do this willingly when we’re up to it, but we can’t always keep that kind of energy going. If we throw a party, great! But give us some time to recover.

5. We have friends. And they like us! Probably.
People hear the word ‘introvert’ and think of the goth kid sitting alone at the food court. That’s a whole different thing entirely. We love having friends, and our friends love having us! We put in a conscious effort for people we think are worth it.

6. When with the right people, we feel safe.
Having the right people in our lives is amazing. we really give our best selves to the best people. We shine in the right company. But sometimes it takes a while to find those people.

7. We like to write things out.
Writing is easier than talking for us sometimes. Email is the best because it helps us get the thoughts out of our heads without being interrupted. Thinking about giving us a call? Try a text or email instead.

8. We’re super productive.
Sometimes at least. Usually in our alone time, we’re able to really rock and roll on projects that we need to finish. The solitude helps us, as we tend to be a bit more distractible than most.

9. If we don’t like you, you won’t know it.
It’s the truth of the matter. We hate conflict. So even if we don’t like you, we’ll still be nice. It’s a lot easier than being real with you. Especially if your feelings are inconsequential enough that confronting you on your bullshit isn’t even worth the time. Sorry. Well, not sorry.

10. Networking events suck.
Seriously. Is there a mailing list we need to opt out of? There are few things more uncomfortable than a networking party. Except maybe a dentist’s networking party that we’ve just been accidentally invited to.

11. We don’t like crowds.
Though I find that after a few beers, I can tolerate it. Introverts tend to get overstimulated easily, so big crowds aare tough to deal with.

12. Sorry, we probably weren’t listening to your story.
We care deeply about our friends, but people outside of that circle will have a tough time maintaining our attention. It’s not that we have ADD or anything like that, we just don’t really care about you. On the plus side, we won’t judge you, so feel free to tell us all the fucked up things you said to your ex.

13. Don’t make a fuss out of our birthdays.
For the longest time, I had a great deal of difficulty understanding why I hated my birthday so much. Everyone I ever knew would come out and party with me! But then I realized: that’s the problem! We don’t need to make a fuss out of our birthdays, so please don’t do it to us.

14. We don’t want to make a fuss out of your birthday.
We can quietly honor the annual birthday, right?

15. If we’ve chosen to be friends with you, appreciate it.
We value our alone time. If we see you often, it means that we really love you. Just don’t get too bummed out when we don’t hang for a week at a time sometimes.

Read more at http://higherperspective.com/2015/01/introverts.html#BtyOb4UjX41gG34c.99

11 thoughts on “15 things that introverts will never tell you.

  1. OK, I knew nothing about this, although, it sounds a whole lot like me, Most people do not like themselves, so of course they don’t like being alone. People who aren’t comfortable alone, in my estimation,don’t like themselves, nor anyone else, so they have to chatter, or make small talk 90-98% of the time; or they simply have to be entertained. Both me an Frank, my Brother are “driven”, we both have a more than mild case of perfectionist within ourselves, and also a type of photographic memory.
    17 years of inhuman Abuse and racism made us very much like what I read here, now I am very curious, but with one exception, we do not deal with Bullys, especially someone else being Bullyed.
    Congradulations on your Awards,

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    • I think a lot of extroverts who need to be with people all the time don’t like themselves, but many of the are just people-people, and as neurotypicals, they are happiest with others. I don’t know if it means they don’t like themselves, unless they freak out or get depressed when alone.
      I can’t relate to most neurotypicals, but if someone is an extrovert but can also spend time alone and enjoy it, then I wouldn’t say they don’t like themselves. I get what you’re saying though.
      People who always have to make small talk to fill the silence get on my nerves. There’s nothing wrong with silence, but I guess it makes some people think you don’t like them or are unfriendly.

      There’s plenty about bullies on this site. Most of them are narcissists and psychopaths. Stick around and you will learn a lot.
      Thank you for the compliment. 🙂

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      • In my experiences, I have met few people I cared to spend much time alone with, I can just deal with so much idle talk, and even when it appears I am doing nothing, I always have a pen, paper, and my BlackBerry (mostly for calendar, notes, and task manager).
        Thank You for your kindness and also the invitation, I will gladly accept your invitation. I like your style of calling apples – apples, and narcissists – narcissists.
        You are Welcome!

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  2. Add “If I forget your birthday, do not take it personal”

    My close friends don’t realize I have to keep a list in my phone book of their birthdays and remind myself a million times and I still screw it up

    I try to give cards in the middle of the year when it’s no holiday or anything else.

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  3. Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:
    Oh man can I relate to this. Only problem I have is if I don’t like someone they usually know it. I have little patience with people. I am married to a wonderful man that would have a parade down Fifth Avenue for his birthday if he could. I love that about him but what I like more is his understanding that I am the exact opposite. I had one surprise party when I was younger. The ploy was we were going to see a magician/hypnotist show. Never been so disappointed in my life. So if you have one of us in your life. Listen. We can adore you as an extrovert just try to understand not all of us are.

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