Gals’ night at home.

My daughter and I had a nice time girl-bonding tonight.   I’m not the type that gets into female bonding in general ( most of my platonic friends have always been male), but every once in a blue moon, I can get down with it.

So we shared a bottle of chardonnay and got just a little goofy.   She decided she wanted to give me a makeover and do my hair.    I rarely have my hair done professionally; usually I do it myself, which means either a blunt, easy cut (if I’m ambitious) or a ho-hum parted down the center boring 1970s look.

I did have my hair done by a real hairdresser back in March (you might remember that post), but it’s expensive, and my hair was getting boring and lifeless again (and worse, frizzes in the high humidity, so I told her to be my guest and have at it.

She used a color called Soft Black Violet in the deepest layer of hair(near the scalp) and and after letting that sit about 20 minutes (rather than 40 like the box said–I didn’t want it  BLACK because I remember about 20 years ago when I dyed my hair jet black and I looked exactly like Morticia from The Addams Family, with my pale, almost redhead type of skin crashing into the blue-black of my hair like a cargo of black and white linoleum floor tiles after a truck explosion.

I asked her how much gray hair she could see (I have no gray where I can see it in the mirror).  She told me just a little in the deep layer near my neckline in the back.

“That’s it?” I marveled.  One thing my family did right with me was give me good genes. I hate sounding narcissistic, but I always thought I looked pretty good.  Most other people did too.  Hardly anyone on either my mother’s or my father’s side looked anywhere near their real age (until age finally caught up with them, usually around 70 or 80).

“Yup,” my girl confirmed.   Then, “Mom, you’re done.  Wow, you look great!”

The result is a color a little deeper than strawberry blonde, but not really red either, sort of a dark mauve (the mauve must be from the “violet” in the haircolors’ name). My medium blonde hair on the top layer remained intact, and the effect makes my hair look thicker and with more 3-D depth.

The choice of color might seem a little eccentric for a woman my age, but I never pretended to be anything but a bit off the beaten path.  Besides, my daughter picked it for me.  It’s true,  I’m not much of a risk taker in much of anything, but when it comes to doing weird stuff to my hair, well…

“Bring it on!”

It will always grow out if you hate it.

Here are the final results, after the blow dry and the hair straightening my daughter did.   I think I just saved about $80.00.

makeover1 makeover2

One last thing that made everything perfect.  Here’s the song we cranked up and sang at full volume so it reverberated against the white ceramic tiles that cover most of the bathroom walls.  It’s one of her favorite songs ever and it’s grown on me too.

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This blog is my journal. I just choose to share it with the world instead of keeping everything inside my head. I'm a recovering Borderline and have also struggled with Avoidant Personality Disorder. I also have Complex PTSD due to having been the victim of narcissistic abuse for most of my life. I write mostly about narcissism, because I was the child of a narcissistic mother, and then married to a sociopathic malignant narcissist for 20 years. But there's a silver lining too. In some ways they taught me about myself. This blog is about all that. Not all my articles will be about NPD, BPD or other personality disorders or mental conditions. I pretty much write about whatever's on my mind at the moment. So there's something for everyone here. Blogging about stuff is crack for my soul. It's self therapy, and hopefully my insights and observations may help others too.
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8 Responses to Gals’ night at home.

  1. rubycommenting says:

    Hey that’s great. It’s very pretty and you saved so much. You should have more girl date nights like this.

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  2. Susan says:

    I really do love that! adds depth for sure…. I did that , dying underside many times before.. with my medium blonde hair I did red as well as dark brown and I always loved it
    I am very surprised a soft black would turn out a cool red shade.. but as you said its the violet undertone that took.. and that’s awesome! im always trying to get the “cool” toned red shades only myself too.
    hate when its warm or orangy
    pinkish red violet goes perfect with your pale skin and light eyes!
    my friend is 50 and she just did the same thing! she is a pale redhead with blue eyes and she put pink/purple pieces in and I love it.

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  3. Just Plain Ol' Vic says:

    That family time is so important, glad you got to have some!

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  4. avaswan says:

    Your hair looks so good, wishing I had a daughti now. I’m glad you two had a great girls night at home.

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  5. Sometimes the only thing you feel like you can control is your appearance. Eccentric hair is a great boost of confidence-because you can feel almost invincible. I definitely loved that part. You look great:)

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  6. Bradley says:

    I don’t know where you live, but here in Los Angeles a lot of much older women are embracing their gray hair and getting parts of it dyed in different colors – and I mean pretty wild colors. I hope it’s a trend that continues.

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  7. nikitalondon says:

    Cool. Its really nice to share those moments with our daughters 😃😃

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