I’ve never been a risk taker. At all. But there’s one exception–blogging. I take a lot of risks when I write and often post things that are:
1. Extremely personal and potentially embarrassing
2. Controversial and potentially incendiary
3. Unpopular opinions
3. Religious or political (though I try to avoid this because I respect all my readers, some of whose beliefs may differ very much from mine).
I’ve never regretted taking risks on this blog. Yes, some of my posts have angered some people. I had to learn to deal with that. At the end of the day, it’s my blog and my opinions and my feelings and my experiences. I’m tired of pretending to be someone I am not in real life, and I’m certainly not going to pretend to be someone I’m not when I’m blogging. Sometimes I feel like the blogging world is the only place I can really be myself.
Popular opinions are a dime a dozen, but when you post something not so popular, you never know who you may reach who really needed to hear what you had to say. You feel good about yourself for having the courage to be authentic and candid. That tends to extend into the real world after awhile.
Being ballsy also tends to make your blog stand out, and I think that’s a big reason this blog has become somewhat popular. Even if people don’t always agree with you, they’re always checking in to see what you’ll say next. You don’t get popular by being a blogging wallflower. Just make sure you really stand by what you say and be prepared to defend what you believe while still remaining respectful of those who don’t agree with you or dislike what you have to say. If you’re just stirring the pot to get attention, people can tell.
Being a ballsy blogger has gotten so much easier over time. Outside of a few trolls and critics, none of the terrible things I imagined would happen ever did. I no longer hover over the “Publish” button for hours wringing my hands and sweating and asking myself, “should I?” I don’t keep posts hidden for days as “Private” only to delete them later. I hardly think about it any more. I just press that Publish button and don’t look back. And I’ve never regretted it.
You really do speak your mind and it’s worked out for you:) btw, I really like your new pic standing by the tree with a blue top on. You look really pretty:)
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Thank you! That was taken over a year ago but it’s one of my favorite pictures.
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I am daring and a little controversial but always respectful. I think you have to build bridges instead of walls.
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I agree. I always try to remain respectful of all my commenters, even those who don’t agree with me. It would be boring if everyone had the same opinions anyway, wouldn’t it? You have a great blog btw. I always enjoy reading it.
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I appreciate a sincere response. So if that’s ballsy it’s ok with me. I am too opinionated and get myself on trouble. But that’s me. 🙂
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Just starting out with my own blog, some of my fears are coming across trolls on posts that leave me vulnerable. Maybe I’m ballsy because I went for it anyway.
My wish to begin to reach out to people became more important to me than worrying about coming across a few who don’t understand. I shall learn the art of responding with tact as opposed to my instinct of giving them a good thumping. 🙂
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Hi Prairie Girl, I haven’t checked out your blog, yet, but I will Yes, I agree, it’s much better to tailor your posts to the kinds of readers you want to attract, rather than not posting what you want because of a fear of trolls. (Trolls are going to be around no matter what–they should be ignored).
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I would love for you to check it out. And I actually think anyone who would troll blogs about surviving childhood abuse would have intentionally sought them out just to troll them. All the more reason to ignore them, just like you said.
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I’ll come on by now.
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Heck, I used to hover over the publish button wringing my hands over a completely innocuous post! Not that I write a lot of controversial things now, but I don’t hover. I love ballsy bloggers! Thanks for being one!
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I love ballsy bloggers too, and I’m glad you’re one too. 😀
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I find your ballsy blog inspiring and motivating! I appreciate that you write what you think, and later think about what you wrote, and write about that! You have a way of keeping it real:-)
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Thank you!
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Right on, Lauren! Keep on blogging!!!!
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Very nice. I agree with your words here. I think authenticity shows through and that sort of honesty is what people like to read.
I also like the new green background. Looks very cool.
Keep on doing ballsy!
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Haha! It’s not that new anymore, but I’m glad you like it. It looks a lot less “busy” than the old one. More professional looking I think.
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Haha. Yeah. It’s new to me. I took a hiatus from blogging for a bit so I’m just getting back into the swing of things.
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Oh good! I’m glad because I enjoy reading your posts. I also like your updates about Dexter. How is he doing anyway?
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He’s doing great! Moved into a new place and he’s settling in nicely.
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Oh, I’m glad to hear that! 🙂
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I have had a few posts I hovered over the ‘publish’ button for some time. Now, I just remember it is my blog. And I get to post whatever I want. Here is to staying ballsy!:-)
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Ha! I’m going to remember to have that attitude, too.
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It took awhile to acquire that attitude and I’m still working at it.
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Kudos to you for writing whatever you want!
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Reblogged this on DREAM BIG DREAM OFTEN and commented:
Bloggers be sure to check out this post on Lucky Otter’s Haven!
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Thank you Danny! 🙂
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You are welcome!
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hmmm, you make me want to grow some blog balls!
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Great!
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I like this blog. I try to be completely honest, throwing myself under the bus. I do it for the people who are also diagnosed with bladder cancer, and need to know the “behind the scenes” truth. It’s definitely difficult, but doable. Keep writing your personal thoughts. Balls or no balls!
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