Being a ballsy blogger.

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I’ve never been a risk taker. At all. But there’s one exception–blogging. I take a lot of risks when I write and often post things that are:

1. Extremely personal and potentially embarrassing

2. Controversial and potentially incendiary

3. Unpopular opinions

3. Religious or political (though I try to avoid this because I respect all my readers, some of whose beliefs may differ very much from mine).

I’ve never regretted taking risks on this blog. Yes, some of my posts have angered some people. I had to learn to deal with that. At the end of the day, it’s my blog and my opinions and my feelings and my experiences. I’m tired of pretending to be someone I am not in real life, and I’m certainly not going to pretend to be someone I’m not when I’m blogging.  Sometimes I feel like the blogging world is the only place I can really be myself.

Popular opinions are a dime a dozen, but when you post something not so popular, you never know who you may reach who really needed to hear what you had to say. You feel good about yourself for having the courage to be authentic and candid. That tends to extend into the real world after awhile.

Being ballsy also tends to make your blog stand out, and I think that’s a big reason this blog has become somewhat popular.  Even if people don’t always agree with you, they’re always checking in to see what you’ll say next.   You don’t get popular by being a blogging wallflower.  Just make sure you really stand by what you say and be prepared to defend what you believe while still remaining respectful of those who don’t agree with you or dislike what you have to say.   If you’re just stirring the pot to get attention, people can tell.

Being a ballsy blogger has gotten so much easier over time. Outside of a few trolls and critics, none of the terrible things I imagined would happen ever did. I no longer hover over the “Publish” button for hours wringing my hands and sweating and asking myself, “should I?”  I don’t keep posts hidden for days as “Private” only to delete them later.  I hardly think about it any more. I just press that Publish button and don’t look back.  And I’ve never regretted it.

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About luckyotter

This blog is my journal. I just choose to share it with the world instead of keeping everything inside my head. I'm a recovering Borderline and have also struggled with Avoidant Personality Disorder. I also have Complex PTSD due to having been the victim of narcissistic abuse for most of my life. I write mostly about narcissism, because I was the child of a narcissistic mother, and then married to a sociopathic malignant narcissist for 20 years. But there's a silver lining too. In some ways they taught me about myself. This blog is about all that. Not all my articles will be about NPD, BPD or other personality disorders or mental conditions. I pretty much write about whatever's on my mind at the moment. So there's something for everyone here. Blogging about stuff is crack for my soul. It's self therapy, and hopefully my insights and observations may help others too.
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30 Responses to Being a ballsy blogger.

  1. You really do speak your mind and it’s worked out for you:) btw, I really like your new pic standing by the tree with a blue top on. You look really pretty:)

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  2. Tony Burgess says:

    I am daring and a little controversial but always respectful. I think you have to build bridges instead of walls.

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    • luckyotter says:

      I agree. I always try to remain respectful of all my commenters, even those who don’t agree with me. It would be boring if everyone had the same opinions anyway, wouldn’t it? You have a great blog btw. I always enjoy reading it.

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  3. Heartafire says:

    I appreciate a sincere response. So if that’s ballsy it’s ok with me. I am too opinionated and get myself on trouble. But that’s me. 🙂

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  4. Prairie Girl says:

    Just starting out with my own blog, some of my fears are coming across trolls on posts that leave me vulnerable. Maybe I’m ballsy because I went for it anyway.

    My wish to begin to reach out to people became more important to me than worrying about coming across a few who don’t understand. I shall learn the art of responding with tact as opposed to my instinct of giving them a good thumping. 🙂

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    • luckyotter says:

      Hi Prairie Girl, I haven’t checked out your blog, yet, but I will Yes, I agree, it’s much better to tailor your posts to the kinds of readers you want to attract, rather than not posting what you want because of a fear of trolls. (Trolls are going to be around no matter what–they should be ignored).

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  5. Heck, I used to hover over the publish button wringing my hands over a completely innocuous post! Not that I write a lot of controversial things now, but I don’t hover. I love ballsy bloggers! Thanks for being one!

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  6. I find your ballsy blog inspiring and motivating! I appreciate that you write what you think, and later think about what you wrote, and write about that! You have a way of keeping it real:-)

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  7. sunkist123 says:

    Right on, Lauren! Keep on blogging!!!!

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  8. Very nice. I agree with your words here. I think authenticity shows through and that sort of honesty is what people like to read.

    I also like the new green background. Looks very cool.

    Keep on doing ballsy!

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  9. Deb says:

    I have had a few posts I hovered over the ‘publish’ button for some time. Now, I just remember it is my blog. And I get to post whatever I want. Here is to staying ballsy!:-)

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  10. Just Plain Ol' Vic says:

    Kudos to you for writing whatever you want!

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  11. dray0308 says:

    Reblogged this on DREAM BIG DREAM OFTEN and commented:
    Bloggers be sure to check out this post on Lucky Otter’s Haven!

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  12. hmmm, you make me want to grow some blog balls!

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  13. rugby843 says:

    I like this blog. I try to be completely honest, throwing myself under the bus. I do it for the people who are also diagnosed with bladder cancer, and need to know the “behind the scenes” truth. It’s definitely difficult, but doable. Keep writing your personal thoughts. Balls or no balls!

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