Don’t judge.

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About luckyotter

Recovering from BPD and C-PTSD due to narcissistic abuse from childhood. Married to a sociopath for 20 years. Proud INFJ, Enneagram type 4w5. Animal lover, music lover, cat mom, unapologetic geek, fan of the absurd, progressive Catholic, mom to 2, mental illness stigma activist, anti-Trumper. #RESISTANCE
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8 Responses to Don’t judge.

  1. So Good!

    The justifications, rationalizations and excuses used by abusers are innumerable.

    Psychology, a man-made “religion”, has become the abuser’s best friend!

    S/G

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    • luckyotter says:

      That is undoubtedly true, going by the number of abuse stories by mental health providers I keep hearing about. However, I’m in therapy and my therapist is like an angel to me–he has been nothing short of wonderful and is helping me so much. I admit I probably just lucked out. My other therapists haven’t been so great.

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      • Yes, I am a therapist myself.

        I do not wish to “throw out the baby with the bathwater” in what I said. In my experience, most therapists have absolutely no clue about the personality disorders or how to treat them or, most importantly, how to treat the victims of personality-disordered abuse.

        It’s sad, but true.

        I’m happy for you! You found one of the “needles in the haystack” in your therapist. I only wish all those abused by “narcs”, etc. could be so fortunate.

        Blessings,
        S/G

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        • luckyotter says:

          Mine is a trauma therapist who knows about C-PTSD and personality disorders. He’s not well versed in narc-abuse lingo but that’s alright. He still knows about narcissistic abuse and unlike many well meaning therapists who try to get you to communicate with your family (which to children of narcissists, is harmful) , he actually supports my No Contact decision. I loaned him my copy of Pete Walker’s book about C-PTSD and he is actually reading it. I could go on, but I feel like God brought me to him at the right time and it’s been a wonderful experience and the things he’s doing are actually working. He is also very empathic. I have a blog where I talk about my therapy in more depth:
          https://downtherabbitholeblog.org/

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      • katiesdream2004 says:

        My guess is that the abusive therapist or priest, a similar position of trust so impacts those that trusted them their victims are never the same about therapists. Its probably similar to those that had an abusive spouse or parents someone in a trusted position that broke trust. The victims view of the trustworthiness of parents or spouses is then tainted. Those that never experienced that sort of abuse probably can’t wrap their brain around it because like doctors we assume they are healthy themselves

        I was a team blogger in a very popular web site with up to a million hits, but, I had to part ways over their insistence that abuse victims were going to find help in the therapy world that they would never find in the religious world. My harping on the potential of abuse in the therapy world was the end of my posting. Sadly, lots of victims really liked what I said and never understood why I just disappeared.
        I wasn’t allowed to mention the sacred cow wasn’t always sacred and that people should be very discerning about therapists. Actually the whole experience devastated me and I found those victim advocates very judgmental of people that didn’t go along with their party line.
        I know that It is extremely easy to hide abusive and dysfunctional therapists in the therapy world since no one believes their victims. Because I managed statewide complaints about mental health I got an earful and came to just detest “therapist types”. Lots of narcs in that profession that have access to medical records that destroy their victims reputation and credibility

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  2. Hmm, I might be difficult, I’m wayward and I used to be self-destructive more till I sublimated it into performance. I’ve also dealt with people I found difficult. Difficult might be a subjective term. I guess maybe don’t judge difficult people but also don’t let them be difficult to you.

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