What my therapist said that almost made me cry.

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At the end of our last session, he told me he looked forward to our visits. I could tell he meant every word. I asked him why, and he just said, “you make working with you easy.”

I know that doesn’t sound all that impressive, but believe me, it was. I couldn’t speak, and if I had, I think I would have burst into tears. I’m not there yet though.

He saw my reaction and just smiled and thanked me. He always thanks me at the end of each session. I’m not sure for what, but it helps me a lot.
I sensed nothing but warmth and kind regard from him, nothing questionable at all.

I’m not 100% sure what his words referred to, but I have some idea (nothing inappropriate though!), and thinking about it still makes me a little verklempt.

11 thoughts on “What my therapist said that almost made me cry.

  1. I had to look up that last word. Here is what I found on the Farlex Free Dictionary:

    ver·klempt
     (fär-klĕmpt′)
    adj.
    Variant of farklempt.

    far·klempt
      (fär-klĕmpt′) or ver·klempt (vər-)
    adj.
    Unable to speak because of emotion; choked up.

    [Yiddish farklemt, past participle of farklemmen, to clamp,catch (as in a vise), choke up, from Middle High Germanverklemmen : ver-, pref. denoting completion (from Old HighGerman far-; see per- in Indo-European roots) + klemmen, togrip, seize (from Old High German).]

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  2. My therapist said that to me also, but every compliment from her means the world to me! She’s the only person who’s validated me when I’ve told her anything instead of looking at me with that “whatever” look that I’ve always been used to. I didn’t shed a tear in front of her, but the box of tissues in the car were almost empty by the time I got home. Makes you feel good, just a few positive words. Hugs to you, Deb

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          • I think a good therapist says exactly what his/her client needs/wants to hear when he/she wants/needs to hear it. That was my experience and it sounds like yours, too. Coincidentally, it seems like my sister has also found a good one. He said our mom sounded like a narcissist (which is how I evaluated her as well, after learning about them from your blog) and that, as an adult, Sis is in control of her own behavior now (which is the same thing that I told her and made me sound pretty smart, right?)

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            • So they just tell you what you want to hear? Well, that’s fine I guess, as long as he means it (I think he does). I doubt he’d lie. He agrees with me that my mother probably has NPD and my ex has some ungodly combo of NPD and ASPD (malignant narcissism to ACONs)

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  3. What I meant is that sometimes an educated and/or intelligent person, such as yourself or myself, really only wants to hear advice to do something that they already know they should do from an objective professional.

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