Why men don’t cry anymore.

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Men are allowed to cry openly when their team wins, and that’s about it.

There’s a lot of information out there about how crying is good for you, but this article from The Daily Mail (UK) is interesting because it describes how crying has evolved over time. For example, prior to the two world wars, crying was done openly and often, even by men. Now it’s limited to the football stands or funeral parlor for men, and even women retreat to the “powder room” if they need to cry, especially in work/professional settings.

This is a really good article.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1361214/Dont-fear-tears-Embarrassed-good-howl-Dont–crying-good-you.html

ETA: Right after I posted that, I found this other article from the website, The Art of Manliness, which goes into even more detail about male tears. I never knew any of this!

When Is It Okay for a Man to Cry?

Oh, and…I guess I lied. It’s my second post tonight. That’s all. Goodnight.

4 thoughts on “Why men don’t cry anymore.”

  1. I knew you couldn’t take a night off from writing. I couldn’t take the night off without picking up my guitar either.

    Men and crying… it gets a bit different from culture to culture. I had this boyfriend named Jorge from Costa Rica around 14 years ago. He was a musician, of course. He played the saxophone, and he came to the US on a student visa to study at Julliard in NYC. He had a bad drinking problem. Like,…he put down a bottle of whiskey a night. Crazy! He would perform at this bar called the Imperial, and every night he’d start to cry. He’s say, “I don’t want to play music in this bar for all these stupid people. I’m a college professor, and all I want to do is study, study. I want to study at Julliard.” So I use to try to calm him down, and tell him to just go study. He’d cry, “you don’t understand,.. You don’t understand. I can’t. I can’t.” The other latino men would laugh at him at the bat. Meanwhile, I’d pack up all the stuff from the gig and drive him all the way home, and he’d cry in the car.

    Then one day during the holiday season, I got fed up with his whinning and I said, “I’m going inside and the doors open. When you stop your whining just come inside. I’m sleepy.” So I went in my house, and he came in a few minutes later charging in, in a Narcissistic rage. He broke lamps. He stole my keys, and held me hostage for 2 days. It was a scary experience. That guy was crazy, but he played that saxophone as good as bird. My God,…he was considered the 2nd best Saxophone player in Costa Rica back then. I did meet lots of famous musicians from central America through him…but I didn’t know who they were. I also went up and I would sing Hotel California in the band during the gigs.

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    • Alright, I have to say that every saxophone player I’ve ever met or heard about is a little off in the head (I’m not sure if that includes Bill Clinton or not, but he was a narc too). . I don’t know what it is with saxophone players. A lot of them are very narcissistic. I had a landlord who played the saxophone professionally. He was a nutcase and a narc. He screamed at me and called me abusive names when I had to break my lease. He threatened me. His wife was terrified of him. He also invaded boundaries and tried to flirt with my mom once, who is old enough to be HIS mom. He would come over and fix things and never leave.
      When I told a friend about this, she laughed and said, “he plays saxophone. That’s why he is crazy. ” And then told me about a saxophone player SHE knew who was BSC and a narc.
      Seriously, what is up with them?
      Your story made me laugh, but I’m sure it was scary for you too. He also sounds like he was probably an alcoholic. Drunk guys cry a lot. Or they rage. Or both. Especially if they’re narcissists.
      I guess the moral of all this is this:
      Beware of a drunk, saxophone-playing narc!

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