Insanity, interrupted.

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Albert Einstein, brilliant physicist, philosopher, and fellow Aspie, had so many great quotes. One of his best is this:

The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result.

If you keep allowing your narcissist to continue to play their crazymaking mind games, f*ck with your head, gaslight you, triangulate against you, physically abuse you, steal from you, judge you, isolate you, lie to and about you, project their own character defects onto you; tell you how you should dress, behave and look; refuse to listen to you, insult you, condescend to you, hoover you, love bomb you, use you as a neverending source of narcissistic supply, and ultimately try to destroy you–and you keep listening to their lies and phony promises that they will change, and you keep giving them a second and third and fourth and one hundredth chance, then that is insanity.

Stop the insanity. Leave your narcissist or do what you can to get them to leave. Don’t listen to their lies and don’t believe their fake “apologies.”

Don’t be drawn into their death-spiral of evil and soul-destruction. Their intent is to annihilate themselves and take you with them.

4 thoughts on “Insanity, interrupted.”

  1. I just love the ‘autobiography’, so very true. It is only through reading your blog that I came to understand narcs and the effect they had throughout my entire life. Through therapy today, I came to the same conclusion as you wrote here. There can never be any happiness from having a relationship with a narc, it can only be damaging. And neither is there any point in trying to get them to take responsibility for what they contribute to the dysfunctional relationship. They will always be arrogantly faultless, the image of perfection. If I hadn’t found your blog, it might have taken a lot longer to reach such a pivotal conclusion. Great blog 😉

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  2. Cat, indeed there is no way we can make them change. They have what they want from us–the key is to stop giving them what they think they need. And that means cutting them off, even if it’s painful (and it’s going to be).

    It means so much to me when I hear people like you tell me my blog and what I have learned (the hard way–I stayed with my narc 7 YEARS after we divorced–talk about insanity!) has helped others to cope and/or escape from the cycle of abuse. You must realize that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. It never was. It’s good you’re working it out in therapy too. It sounds like you are on the right track. Keep reading and alway hold your head up high! 🙂

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    • These words “the key is to stop giving them what they think they need” mean so much. It is very difficult to cut them off because they see themselves as faultless and therefore, from their point of view, they are genuinely wounded by the injustice, but I know there is no point trying to explain. Thank you and I will definitely be reading

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