Why introverts hate talking on the phone.

Finally, someone gets it! I detest phones. The lack of visual cues, the awkward silences, the AUDACITY of an annoying and insistent ringing phone interrupting me when I’m deep in thought, dropped calls that wind up having you talking to no one at all…ENOUGH! I hate phones and have always hated phones. At least nowadays I can see who’s calling and choose to answer by text instead of calling back or having to answer.

Why Introverts Hate Talking on the Phone


The other day, while talking on Skype with one of my best friends, I realized that something was horribly wrong. The video option was turned off. And, as we all know, Skype without video is just a phone.

Like most introverts, I detest talking on the phone. This begs the question, why do introverts hate the phone so much? After giving it some thought, I’ve come up with a few possibilities.
Lets begin with the ring. Whether your phone sings, buzzes or plays a piano tune, a ringing telephone is annoying. The phone doesn’t care that you are busy, or deep in thought. It pays no mind to the fact that you really don’t feel like talking right now. A ringing phone wants your attention – and it wants it RIGHT NOW!

I once had a friend who often put his home phone in the fridge in order to avoid its intrusive squawking. Thankfully, cell phones can be set to silent or vibrate.

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10 thoughts on “Why introverts hate talking on the phone.

  1. Me, too. I have wished many times that telephones had never been invented. I was wishing that years before mobile phones hit the market. Now that everyone has a phone in their pocket we are expected to be accessible 24-7, everywhere we go, even in the bathroom…. No Like.

    But I do like caller id and the option to text now rather than talk. 😉

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    • I feel exactly the same way. I hate the fact the phone goes everywhere you go now and you can’t get away but I do like being able to know who’s calling or be able to text instead.

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  2. THANK YOU! THANK YOU SO MUCH! This just about sums it up. All this time I’ve been wondering why it is that talking on the phone makes me so painfully uncomfortable. And now I understand: it’s the loss of the cues. It’s the fact that the other person can’t see me nodding and pausing to take it all in. It’s the fact of maybe running out of things to say and those awkward silences that would be much less awkward if we were just sitting next to each other, but while you’re on the phone you’re expected to talk. All they know is that I’m being silent. For all they know, I’ve fallen asleep.

    Also, being on the phone means there’s a certain amount of commitment involved. You can’t do anything else if you’re talking to someone on the phone. You can’t deal with a crisis, you can’t do chores, you can’t be pleasantly involved in a book, you can’t even eat or go to the bathroom. I don’t know if this makes me a horrible person, to not want the commitment of the long talks on the phone, but I like long text chats better.

    My mother is the only person in the world I feel completely comfortable talking on the phone to. I was actually thinking about this a while ago, and I came to the realization that if it’s someone I know very well but seldom talk on the phone to (like my dad and my younger siblings), it’s not really that I’m shy, just that it feels weird to talk to them when they’re not there. If, however, it’s someone I don’t know that well, or as well as my immediate family (even my cousin, who’s, like, my best friend, and my two older half-brothers), I know they don’t know me as well either and that makes me uncomfortable. But with my mom, we know each other very well (and she’s also pretty introverted, so she hates talking on the phone too) but she also works, so sometimes I have to call her, and therefore I’m sort of used to talking on the phone with her.

    Anyhow, thanks for this.


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