Women, Narcissism, and Attraction

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Excellent article by one of my favorite bloggers.

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LuckyOtter blogs quite a bit about narcissism and does a great job. She’s been researching narcissism for some time now, while I’ve been researching biology, women, and attraction.

Love is an awesome thing, I much prefer immersing myself in love gone right, but one thing that makes the miracle of love really stand out, is an awareness of how easily it can go all wrong. That is the stuff of nightmares and horror stories.  The vampire’s seductive and hypnotizing gaze, that concept must have came from a human psyche that had observed narcissism in action.

So, cult leaders, gurus, narcissists, and assorted other psychopaths, have the power and charisma to pull people towards them, to create attraction. Men get tangled up in these relationships too, and there certainly are female narcissists, but I wanted to focus on women and the biological vulnerabilities we have that sometimes allow these guys to…

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3 thoughts on “Women, Narcissism, and Attraction”

  1. When it comes to relationships, ACON’s are targeted for abuse, plain and simple. There has to be a tremendous amount of growth in order to have a good relationship. Even if the person you have a relationship is outstanding. He/she is the most perfect and would never abuse, we could accidentally get abuse from them.

    I have seen it in my own relationship. I was always saying I’m sorry or explaining this or that and trying to make him happy. But he ran away from me once saying, “you are pissing me off!”

    Finding my own value was what I had to do, or it was off to divorce court.

    You see, what attracts the bad guys (would like me always scared like that) would make the good guys run away.

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    • I’ve been so damaged by MN lovers and then 28 years of abuse wth my ex, that I won’t even enter into a relationship anymore. I don’t trust anyone enough. I have a pretty good narc radar but it’s not perfect and I always seem to fall for men who wind up being abusive, so I have sworn off them. When I was younger it was so important to me to be part of a couple. I felt incomplete without “that other half” even though that other half tried to destroy this half. Now I’m in a place where I want none of that. I have never had the chance to just live for myself and God and no one else (well, friends are fine). I’m not sayng a relationship won’t ever happen again. But if it does, I am going to tread VERY cautiously in those waters and make sure there are no sharks there first before venturing very deep.

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  2. It is tough. The sharks are all mixed in. We have to exist as love and value that will not tolerate abuse. I have learned that we can actually scare the sharks away.
    You will know when you are ready. lol Sorry I’m a bit of a relationship guru. I had to be, I had 2 abusive marriages till I met the third. I can’t tolerate abuse.

    Just a few days ago he noticed the speakers were almost blown on the computer. He told me. Then I said, “Oh, I guess we need better speakers.” lol I never would have said anything like that before.

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