These are pretty interesting–both narcissists and their victims have problems with holidays like Christmas and birthdays. Narcissists ruin the holidays for everyone because of their envy, including themselves. Victims associate holidays with bad experiences because of their abusers.
Narcissists and holidays:
Abuse victims and holidays:
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Very intAeresting interview with a narcissist. It answers a lot of questions about why a narcissist must be so miserable and attack others to provoke a response and ruin the occasion for normal people. Absolutely fascinating. I wonder Otter if you notice Sam’s affect? His eyes really seem to be dead and he blinks very seldom. I am really not sure if he is a narcissist or a sociopath trying to bring us under his spell. Perhaps both.
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I’ve noticed that about his eyes too. They look sort of dead. Not black and opaque like those “evil eyes” some narcissists have, but there is little expression in them. I didn’t notice the lack of blinking, but you’re probably right. I don’t know if he’s trying to put a spell on anyone but it’s possible.
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He is an interesting person. Never saw anyone so self involved. He seems to be reading a script too. Nothing from the top of his head.
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I noticed that too. He does know a lot about narcissism though and is very introspective, you need to read his journals. Wow.
But yeah in these videos he seems robotlike. If I didn’t know better, I’d think maybe he was on the autism spectrum.
If I had to venture I guess, I’d say he’s somewhat above the midpoint on the narcissist spectrum, but not enough to be malignant or sociopathic/psychopathic.
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You are probably right but there is something definitely missing there.
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I agree.
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I mentioned about the autism spectrum because many people with Aspergers are awkward when speaking and seem robotlike and expressionless, but they’re very different from narcissists.
Call me crazy, but I think there’s some kind of sadness behind Sam’s blank eyes. I don’t think he’s a happy person and I think he knows it.
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It just seems to me that he’s reading. When I first started watching his videos I didn’t realize this. But when I did his demeanor in them made more sense. Reading is a lot different than just talking with no script or even just talking with some notes.
When I realized he was reading I figured these videos were excerpts from his book. A pretty good idea for videos really. I see others use blog posts to do videos like this.
I found it interesting and contradictory what he said in the interview video you shared in another post. He says that borderlines are unhappy and narcissists are happy. But here he in these videos…I think it was the top one, he says narcissists are not happy.
I’d have to agree with the ladder, especially if they are aware narcissists. And if the poem you shared in one of your posts that he wrote to his wife, it seems that he is remorseful of his behavior toward her but doesn’t know how to stop being that way.
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Lol, not ladder. I meant latter.*
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He could be reading from something near the camera. It doesn’t seem spontaneous.
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That poem was very sad to me. I definitely got that impression, of a man with demons who doesn’t want them but can’t get rid of them and doesn’t know how.
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I think when he was saying in the other video that narcissists are happy, he meant they can put on an act of appearing happy (I think he used the term happy go lucky or something) but they never experience real happiness.
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