Can we please move past all this drama?

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I’m so very tired of rehashing this same stupid topic, but I’m asking those who have targeted me due to the article that offended you to please just stop writing such hateful comments on your blogs about me. I know you don’t believe it, but I’m on the same page you are. I’m a victim of abuse. I am not one of “them” even if you believe I am. I’m sorry my article was so offensive to some of you. I had no idea it would be THAT controversial. I understand not everyone is ready or able to move away from the anger and hatred your MNs caused you to feel. It’s not for me to judge your reasoning, just as it’s not yours to judge mine. I am asking you to stop judging me and I will stop judging you. If you stop writing hateful comments about me, I will stop going on the defensive and writing negative rejoinders. None of us are perfect. We have all been damaged in varying ways by abuse. Some show it differently than others. No one is the same.

I have nothing more to add. I’m not going to justify my reasoning anymore because it’s pointless. I just want peace and to be able to get back on track in my own recovery. If you don’t like this blog or the direction you see it taking, please don’t read it. We don’t all have to agree about everything. Can we please just move on now?

17 thoughts on “Can we please move past all this drama?”

  1. I’m headed over to Blogger to check my earnings (yes I use that site to generate a small income) , think maybe I’ll drop in on a few folks and give their blogs a read…. I’m pretty mellow tonight, but I’ll book mark whatever I come across and give them the what for and how to tomorrow lol

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  4. I agree. The sooner you move on the sooner they’ll find another target to gang up on. Every word typed (including this comment ) only gives them more fuel for their glee. Empty vessels, best forgotten. 🐲💐

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  5. I discovered centuries ago, before we had blogs, internet, even computers (!) that hateful, seething people are not worth your energy. Some hate you for what you are, or aren’t, what you say, or don’t, what you do, or don’t. The reality is that it’s their problem, not yours. Ignore them. You cannot reason with the willfully ignorant who seek to hurt you to make themselves feel better. Ignore them, block them, unfollow such blogs, and free yourself from the dregs of humanity. Keep shining in the sunlight!

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  6. im pretty sure ive mentioned before that acknowleding them is only giving them what they want. it is a vicious circle that will never end unless you make it end. ignore them and let the haters hate in the dark.

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    • I’m trying to do just that and of course it’s the only way to get them off my back because they feed off any reaction (it’s supply, remember) but it’s a lot easier said than done.

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  7. I’ve kind of been out of the loop (primarily because being a grandma has turned out to be very time-consuming), so I’m only vaguely aware of what happened, other than that you seem to have become Emmanuel Goldstein to a bunch of other bloggers. What is the situation, if you can describe it in just a few sentences? As I said, I have a vague idea, but I may be way off.

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    • In a nutshell, several bloggers were enraged about the article I wrote, “I Think it’s Time We Stop Bashing all Narcissists.” I was suggesting that chronic rage is toxic and that SOME narcs (non-malignants) may be redeemable and may want help. These bloggers’ ire was raised because they misunderstood what I was trying to say and are convinced I was saying we should all be narc-huggers and also that I was damaging the ACON/abuse victim cause and telling them they weren’t allowed to have feelings, or somesuch. The drama blew up and it’s not going away. The lies they are telling about me on their blogs are beyond outrageous and of course very hurtful. I can’t stop them though so I think I just have to try to ignore it and do my best to not let it bother me. They would love nothing more than to see this blog destroyed but that will never happen.

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      • Okay, that’s sort of what I figured. How silly that they are wasting time and energy trying to destroy you. Do they have nothing else to do? If they don’t like something you wrote, they don’t have to follow you. I don’t know how much simpler it could be.

        You were very clear in what you wrote in that post, and anyone who misunderstood it is either a) misunderstanding it deliberately or b) just not very bright. Either way, it’s ridiculous that they are misrepresenting what you said and defaming you.

        I agree, the best thing you can do is ignore them. They are hopeless.

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        • That’s what I thought too, BoB. That it’s a huge waste of time. Just unfollow me and leave it at that. But they want to keep the drama going (and are accusing me of continuing the drama, while they are of course blameless). If narcissism is what’s behind their behavior, then that would explain the need to bully and destroy. Just because someone hates narcs doesn’t mean they are free of the disorder themselves. They may be projecting. (of course to them, it’s me who’s projecting onto them).

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      • It’s also been said by some that because I’m a borderline, I have no right to be writing an ACON blog. These are people that think all Cluster B’s are evil and disordered.
        In fact, I have changed the focus here slightly. It’s not strictly an ACON blog anymore, which is why I changed the title and tagline.

        I’m sure learning a lot about human nature from all this though and about how narcissism works on the web. The dynamics of what is going on are very interesting to say the least. It’s actually very educational if framed that way. I believe everything happens for a reason and everything can be a learning experience.

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