DISCLAIMER: THE FOLLOWING ARE THE OPINIONS OF THE AUTHOR. THESE ARE NOT FACTS AND THERE HAS BEEN NO PROOF OF FOUL PLAY.
The two-decade long question of whether or not Kurt Cobain really committed suicide came up between myself and my friend today. It’s been bandied about for years, but it seems no one has ever bothered to take it seriously or re-open the case to further investigate Cobain’s death.
Even though Kurt may have been prone to depressions and shied away from the stardom he achieved as both an early pioneer of the Grunge movement and The Poster Child of Generation X, I never believed he really killed himself. Why would he? He had everything–talent, success as the frontman of Nirvana, a bestselling record, a baby daughter, and a…ahem…new wife who everyone believed was in love with him.
It’s his wife, Courtney Love, we need to take a closer look at here. Most people just take it on faith that Kurt killed himself because his music was dark and depressing and his poetry was dark and depressing, and because he rarely smiled. He had also come from an abusive home and suffered from lifelong depressions and severe stomach problems. Stories of his addiction to heroin abounded in publications like People and Rolling Stone, and on MTV, VH-1, and the nightly news.
But it was also said that he was getting clean when his girlfriend and fellow musician, Courtney Love, became pregnant. He didn’t want to be a drug-addicted new dad. Things looked rosy for awhile. He had several relapses and stints in rehab but heroin isn’t what killed him. If he was depressed, I doubt it was really due to the commercial success of Nirvana’s album Nevermind.
I think Love was gaslighting Cobain, which exacerbated his depression and drug problems. According to Wikipedia,
On March 18, 1994, Love phoned the Seattle police informing them that Cobain was suicidal and had locked himself in a room with a gun. Police arrived and confiscated several guns and a bottle of pills from Cobain, who insisted that he was not suicidal and had locked himself in the room to hide from Love. [italics mine] When questioned by police, Love said that Cobain had never mentioned that he was suicidal and that she had not seen him with a gun.
This is an interesting quote. The first thing that stands out to me is that Cobain felt he needed to hide from Love. Why would he tell police that if it wasn’t true? Sure, he could have been gaslighting her as the crazy one, but something feels off about that to me. Because in this same paragraph we can see that Love is a liar. She tells two different stories to the police: first, that Cobain had locked himself in a room with a gun, and second, denying that she ever said that and insisting Cobain had never said he was suicidal at all! Why would she change her story?
Kurt was found dead in his Seattle home on April 8, 1994, when his daughter, Frances Bean, was less than two years old. He had been shot in the head. Investigations found he had been dead for three days. There was a note, addressed to his childhood friend “Boddah” stating that Cobain wasn’t feeling the excitement of listening to and creating music anymore.
Although there was a note, it seems unlikely to me a suicide would be performed by such means, especially by a man who had easy access to heroin and other drugs and could easily have OD’d and died in a more peaceful manner. Also, why didn’t Love report his death? How could a newly married man with a child not be discovered by his wife for three days? Surely she must have known something.
On the tenth anniversary of Cobain’s death, in 2004, Love and Death: The Murder of Kurt Cobain, was published. Its authors believe Kurt’s death could not have been a suicide and argued that the case should be reopened. According to the entry about the book on Wikipedia:
The book is based on 30 hours of revealing audiotaped conversations, exclusively obtained by the authors, between Courtney Love’s private investigator, Tom Grant, and her entertainment attorney, who both dispute the official finding of suicide and believe Cobain was in fact murdered.
The lawyer says on the tapes that she believes the so-called suicide note was “forged or traced.” The authors also interview Cobain’s grandfather, who believes Kurt was the victim of foul play, and Courtney’s father, who also believes he was murdered. In the book, a prominent forensic pathologist examines the known autopsy evidence and claims that the official suicide scenario was “impossible.” She claims that there is compelling and authoritative evidence that Cobain was murdered.
So even Courtney’s own father believes Kurt was murdered! Hank Harrison (Love’s father) couldn’t stand his own daughter (which was documented in the 1998 documentary Kurt and Courtney) and told RadarOnline:
I canāt prove she pulled the trigger, but I can prove her involvement to a high degree of certainty. […]She’s a psychopath, she has a sociopathic personality like I do.
Later, he published his book, Love Kills: The Assassination of Kurt Cobain, which argued that Kurt did not commit suicide but that his own daughter killed him.
According to Wikipedia, Nick Broomfield (the filmmaker who made Kurt and Courtney) decided to investigate Tom Grant’s claim that Cobain was murdered and had his film crew interview people associated with the couple, including Love’s father Hank Harrison, Kurt’s aunt, a former nanny for the couple’s daughter Frances Bean, and several others associated with the couple, including a bandleader named Eldon “El Duce” Hoke, who claimed he had been offered $50,000 by Love to kill her husband.
It’s also telling that Courtney’s overnight rise to fame occurred immediately after her husband’s death. She appeared at the funeral and interviews playing the part of the grieving widow quite well, but how suspicious is it that her band, Hole, released their bestselling album Live Through This FOUR DAYS after Kurt’s death?
Love’s public persona is very narcissistic and she seems to crave attention and adulation even more than most celebrities. She also appears to be emotionally unstable, although in recent years she seems less so. Perhaps her instability was due to drug abuse, but I think that in itself coupled with her unpredictable and prima-donna like behavior points to a personality disordered woman. Based on the way Love acts, I believe her father’s claim that she is sociopathic and that she probably killed her husband.
What would have been Love’s motive though? In my opinion, I think Love was pathologically envious of Kurt’s success, and wanted his fame (which she probably felt he didn’t appreciate) for herself. She hated playing second fiddle. She also knew that the death of a major rock star (at the age of 27 too–Kurt’s entry into the “27 Club” was probably not lost on her) was the best publicity stunt for herself she could pull off. She could play the grieving widowed new mom, garner pity, and ride on the coattails of that to sell her new album.
Tell me Courtney Love isn’t a sociopathic murderer and I’ll tell you Elvis is going to run for President.
YES! I often wondered about it too!
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Before I read this article, I’d like to add one note. Kurt Cobain and feminist Punk Rocker Kathleen Hanna were great friends, and friends only. One day out of nowhere Courtney Love punched Kathleen Hanna in the face, out of pathological jealousy. Cobain and Hanna’s relationship was purely Platonic. Courtney Love was extremely jealous of Kathleen Hanna’s feminist punk stardom. And I believe she mimicked Hanna’s feminism in her band called Hole.
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That’s interesting. She is kind of known for getting into kerfuffles with other women in particular. I wouldn’t want to have to deal with her. I feel sorry for her daughter, although it seems to me Frances tries to defend her mom from her critics.
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I’m sure most daughters would defend their mom, and they would never want to believe they would kill their own dad. That would be a hard fact to swallow, and accept. Its difficult enough to ecept the thought of suicide.
And another odd fact is that Corbain had stomach issues. That’s a clue that he was sick from mental abuse.
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His FOO wasn’t the greatest. He came from a working class family and his parents divorced when he was 9. I saw this on WIkipedia and will requote it here:
After the divorce his mother remarried an abusive man who beat her and put her in the hospital. I don’t doubt his stomach problems might have been caused by a stressful childhood.
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That’s sad. And he watched his mother get beaten and abused. That I am sure was very painful for him.
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Lucky,…if you could attach the lyrics to the song doll parts. The lyrics tell it all.
They are very dark. Let me see if she wrote those lyrics??
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Courtney Love wrote those lyrics in Boston.
That line: Someday you will as ache like I’ll ache
The line: I want to be the girl with all the cake. And the line: They love you. I love you too…my love turns to hate.
All projections. Amazing lyrics though at the simplyist form.
Post the song link or lyrics if you could.
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I will. I remember I had that album. I loved it. I probably wouldn’t have liked it so much if I knew more about what she was really like. Just like I don’t care for Stones music as much now because of what a narcissistic womanizing asshole Mick turned out to be.
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That’s sad. And he watched his mother get beaten and abused. That I am sure was very painful for him.
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“Doll Parts”
I am
Doll eyes
Doll mouth
Doll legs
I am
Doll arms
Big veins
Dog bait
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, they really do
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, and I do too
I want to be the girl with the most cake
I love him so much, it just turns to hate
I fake it so real I am beyond fake
And someday you will ache like I ache
And someday you will ache like I ache
And someday you will ache like I ache
And someday you will ache like I ache
Someday you will ache like I ache
I am doll parts
Bad skin
Doll heart
It stands
For knife
For the rest
Of my life
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, they really do
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, but I do too
I want to be the girl with the most cake
He only loves those things because he loves to see them break
I fake it so real I am beyond fake
And someday you will ache like I ache
And someday you will ache like I ache
Someday you will ache like I ache
And someday you will ache like I ache!
And someday you will ache like I ache!
And someday you will ache like I ache!
And someday you will ache like I ache!
Someday you will ache like I ache
Wow. VERY telling. She’s practically announcing that she planned to kill Kurt and what her motives were. Sounds like a lot of pathological envy to me.
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This is the song the drummer of our band wants me to do as a cover on stage live.
My friend Patti thinks Courtney is just drama. It’s all an act. She said that Courtney said the song was written about her insecurities she felt towards Cobain’s romantic interest in her.
But that line that says,…some day you’ll ache like I ache is disturbing. It seems like she’s saying…one day he will be the one who will feels these insecurities. Its as if she will devour him and because her love is really hate. It still seems like she’s projecting pathologically envy. My friend Patti posted a link on my FB with Loves explanation of her song. I tagged you in the comment.
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I really need to add “Doll Parts” to my list of songs about narcissism or put it in another post or something.
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Reblogged this on Dawn V. Cahill and commented:
This is a fascinating article on Kurt and Courtney. True confession time: My character Howard aka Declan Decker (When Lyric Met Limerick) was loosely based on Kurt Cobain. However, Luna, his lady love, was definitely no Courtney Love.
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Oh, that sounds like great reading! I might want to order that book. I’m glad you enjoyed this article. It came to me on a whim based on a conversation and i just started writing it.
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Someone on FB left a comment saying there were no fingerprints found on the gun. If that is true, it’s impossible he would have been able to wipe off his own fingerprints so it had to be someone else.
Also, this is pretty interesting: http://loudwire.com/courtney-love-psychiatrist-48000/
“Treatment-resistant depression?” I wonder if her psychiatrist diagnosed her with ASPD or NPD as the underlying disorder.
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Well I definitely think her music and act is amazing. But I still think that she could have killed him. Especially if there are no finger prints on the gun. My boyfriends opinion is it could go either way. He feels Cobain might have killed himself because he wanted to be a legend. That most legends died at 27. He also said they found him drugged, and he might have killed himself from the depression from the relapse. But maybe someone drugged him up. I’d have to read more about it.
On the other hand, he just got out of rehab. He had that baby daughter. I don’t see a suicidal motive for him. But being married to a Psychopath would be very depressing. I mean if she punched Kathleen Hanna in the face out of no where at a show?? That’s definitely a sign Courtney is Psychopathic.
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Her father said that she is sociopathic like himself? Did I read that right?
Very interesting post. I never thought about this. Why do you think they didn’t pin it on her? I mean, provided the autopsy wasn’t the first one for the ME who did it, don’t you think s/he’d know it wasn’t a suicide?
I’m not challenging you with these questions at all. I am genuinely asking and wondering about this.
I never listened to much about the story, so I’m questioning some other stuff too:
Wouldn’t there have to be gun powder on the hand that held the gun? Where in the head was he shot? Was the angle possible? Was it point blank range? Was his entire head intact? If at point blank range is that even possible to still have his whole head intact?
Sorry to get gruesome, but my inquiring mind wants to know. Rhetorical questions though…unless you or someone else knows the answers.
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Well it says that the forensic specialist said that the evidence shows there was no way that Cobain committed suicide.
We would have to see the forensic report, and then know that we are not skilled in forensics. Its interesting hearing that statement from a forensic professional.
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I really have no idea why another investigation wasn’t done or why one wasn’t done in the first place because there is so much circumstantial evidence pointing to her doing it or paying someone else to do it.
Honestly, I don’t know too much about forensics, so I really can’t answer your questions. have no problem with your asking them though! It does seem though, based on the way she behaves combined with the circumstantial evidence that we know of, that it’s unlikely it was a suicide. Sorry I can’t be of more help. Maybe someone else here can answer these questions better.
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No problem. I was mostly thinking out loud. Thanks for writing about this though. I never even thought twice and just took the news’ word for it. Silly I know.
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Oh, that’s fine, ask away!
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OK…back to focusing on music!! I think you should write an article on Sid and Nancy. They were lunatics!!
And Mick Jagger is a good one. I thought Brian Jones was adorable. The early stones had a great flavor to them with Brian Jones in the band.
You Santanic Majasties Request was a great album. And she’s a rainbow….
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Oh and I forgot Carlos Santana. That guy has some serious magical thinking going on. He was Mr. Guru in the 60s when he played with Sir Chimoy. He continuously rides the thought that his spirituality is magical and closer to God then others. He was not faithful to Deborah Santana. Matter of fact,…he tried to pick me up on the Jersey shore in 93 in Point Pleasant. I rejected it, and he put his guitar in his guitar case angrily, and looked at me and shock his head and walked out of the back door like a sulking child. So much for his religious Godlyness and integrity. This man is a Somatic Narcissist who thinks he is like a God. He’s crazy…and his following believes he is.
I’ll never forget years ago Santana’s #1 fan flew out from San Antonio Texas to go to a Warren Zevon concert with NY brother and myself.
We were all like,…yeah…Warren Zevon is the real thing. Its so sad that Zevon died so young.
Zevon was raised Catholic. One day a fan asked him about his Christianity. Zevon responded, “Ahhh, I don’t want to talk about that,” A humble man he was. And I even got to see Jill Sobule warm up for him in Philly.
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I didn’t know that about Carlos Santana. That’s crazy though. He sounds like if he wasn’t in music he’d try to be a cult leader or something, lol.
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Nahhh, that’s interesting too, but it’s already been covered by a lot of people. So I don’t think I’ll write about it. If I start a second blog though, it might be a music blog, and then I will. š
Tonight I’m writing about N’s and PC-ness.
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The Seattle Police was extremely corrupted around that time. There are coutless stories and scandals involving Seattle cops; just toname a few to give you hint how disfunctional and corrupted SPD realy was: they cooperated with local dealers; patrol cars delivering drugs was so common, that there were jokes about it (extremely reliable š Or helping in home robberies (by not being around or coming on time :-). Just search online and u’ll find tons of these type of stories…they often delivered drugs to Courtny and sure thing that provided other services (just the fact that every crime or murder around her like el dulce etc. was never solved and not a pice of evidence of any kind was ever found- looks like it was done by a magic stick…. ). She supposedly was very generous and had very close relation with SPD (especially 2 cops she had very strong links with- there is a lot online on that, too, if you interested… And this is why there was no proper investigation – this was labeled suicide before it even happened.
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Interesting! Thanks for sharing this.
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I’ll try to answer these to the best of my ability…
First off, it was a pretty open-close case. I’m thinking Courtney likely paid off the cops/forensic examiners/etc… Or threatened their lives… From what I’ve read, they seem very oddly disinterested in the fact that the biggest, most famous rockstar of that day and age was dead. They supposedly ruled it suicide IMMEDIATELY- makes me think someone was paid off….
I don’t recall hearing anything about gunpowder, but it’s also been a good year or two since I’ve looked at the details, so some didn’t stick.
The exit wound was I think below or in his ear- the guy that found him described it as he thought he was asleep, til he was a little puddle of blood coming from his ear.
He would have had to pull the trigger with his toe and was wearing shoes… So I don’t think the angle is really something that factors in in a very important way.
The barrel was in his mouth, so yeah, point blank.
Yes, head was intact. The electrician that stumbled upon him thought he was asleep at first, so he must not have looked too brutal.
I think since shotgun shells are filled with buckshot, it tends to do more damage the further something is away. It was right on skin, so it essentially just left the barrel and traveled thru a very small amount of tissue… Obviously it was enough to be fatal, but the fact that the blood puddle wasn’t huge suggests it wasn’t as bad as most people think. According to the police files I’ve seen floating around and stories that were told, it isn’t near as gruesome as it gets described.
I think there were many people involved. I think Courtney paid off SEVERAL people. His supposed “best friend” acted extremely fishy. Courtney was jerking the PI she handled around (I think she only hired him to make it look like she was innocent). I think it’s a bit odd that Dave Grohl blew up to stardom immediately after, too- he had a lot to gain with Kurt gone and would be assured fame, as he was the former drummer… The nanny acted odd, as well.
He escaped rehab- he wasn’t released. It’s said that he went to a dealer’s house immediately after. Courtney was doing lots of traveling at the time, and often lied about where she was and what she was doing. She told someone to claim she had an overdose and was hospitalized (she wasn’t). The story leaked (like she told them to do), then raised hell about it being leaked, as it was a lie…. But more odd was that Kurt’s credit cards were still being used AFTER he died. Once it was revealed that he was dead, the usage stopped… There’s just a lot of weird shit… Go look up justiceforkurt.com (I think it’s called) and everything compiled is there… From odd occurrences with Courtney to the forensic evidence….
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Interesting info, thank you!
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I believe Courtney has spent millions paying off people to promote her version of events. She has said the Kurt and Nirvana money was tainted. She wanted to make “Courtney” money. She also said 900 million was stolen from her by lawyers and accountants. Maybe she spent it and all this is her cover stories. My opinion is Kurt did want away from her and she probably did cheat on him. He may have not wanted her to have custody of Francis Bean. He also may have threatened to tell all, from her violent outbursts to who actually wrote what lyrics. The PI hired to find him was probably hired to find him dead but it didn’t work out. Why not hire a PI after to find out what happened? Because, she already knew.
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I agree. She was definitely involved.
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Fantastic writing. Head on over and check out some more.
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You guys are nuts, and whoever wrote this article is ill-informed. I hate that meme of kurt. YES i can in fact. Robin williams…did he seem suicidal?? And i love the line everyone uses….. ‘her own FATHER!’ …they had nothing to do with eachother for a decade. He is disgusting. And it speaks to the book authors credibility that they resorted to interviewing him.
So after that rant, do i think the case should be re-opened? Absolutely.
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