I started my blog a week ago as a form of self therapy and didn’t care if anyone read my stuff. Or didn’t think I cared. But I admit it: I do.
I read a lot of other blogs here at WordPress and some of them have thousands of followers and hundreds of comments for each post. Of course I realize most of these people have been at WordPress for a long time, and naturally those people will have more followers and comments than a newbie. Some of them may be professional bloggers who have paid for SEO and know all sorts of tricks I don’t to increase the numbers of hits they get.
But all that said, I still find it frustrating and disheartening when I spend hours writing a post and then another hour or so editing and trying to make it look great, only to come back in the morning and find NO comments or even any likes.
I was a little afraid to post this because as a person surrounded by a lot of narcissists, I worry that I may be seen as a narcissist myself, and as I mentioned in other posts, blogging on a public website and airing your most private issues for the whole world to see is really a very narcissistic activity. Admitting you want more comments or followers is akin to the six year old who whines, “Look at MEEEEEE!” and “Do you like MEEEEEE?” I certainly don’t want to be seen as self indulgent and whiney.
But another part of me thinks it’s justified. All of us are narcissists to some degree or another whether we like it or not. We all fall somewhere on the continuum and it’s only human to want people to read the stuff you spent an entire evening working on. If I was just writing for myself, why spend so much time and effort on my blog’s appearance? Why pay for Custom Design? I might as well just put it in WordPad, errors in spelling and punctuation and and all.
My blog is my outlet. So I won’t censor myself except for a certain level of political correctness. I don’t like to offend people. Of course offending people is something that can’t be avoided unless I completely censor myself, which I won’t do. Political correctness is overrated anyway. Hell, it’s my blog and this is something that’s bothering me, so I’m posting it. It’s not like anyone’s reading my stuff anyway.
I do want to take a moment to thank Opinionated Man for his awesome blog Harsh Reality. His blog is very popular and its easy to understand why. OM gives fantastic advice to new bloggers. He’s always quick to reply to his comments and questions too. I’m trying some of the stuff he suggests to draw more attention to my blog; hopefully it works!
Patience is not a virtue of mine. Maybe I just have to chill and not worry so much about whether people are “Liking” or commenting on my posts or not.
I’m inviting others to share their experiences when they were new to blogging and let me know if they had this same problem when they started. If anyone has any tips for getting more traffic (though OM seems to have pretty much covered everything in his blog) please share that here too.
Meantime, I’ll keep writing regardless of whether anyone’s reading my blog or not.
Reblogged this on HarsH ReaLiTy and commented:
The transition from writing “for yourself” to starting to care if people read your blog is a hard one for many. The reality is most people DO care… they just never admit it. Thanks for the kind mention and I am glad you have found some useful information on my website. I haven’t been blogging as long as many people, two years only actually, but I love WordPress because of the community and I also learn something new each day. That is living. All the best with your blogging and I hope you don’t mind the visitors. -OM
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Thanks for reblogging this. (((hugs))))
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Yea… I don’t do hugs. High five though. 😉
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WOW!!!!!! 😀
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I totally agree with your thoughts! Unless we actually opt for a private or password-protected blog, we are sharing part of ourselves with the world. Like sharing with a friend, we’d like to know that someone understands, sympathizes, or even objects… getting no response is like putting yourself out there and being rejected. Also like making friends, I think it’s nice to have followers with common interests, and that way they will actually have the incentive to leave a comment or hit that like button.
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Yep, you nailed it. Rejection is hard for everyone but I think it’s especially hard for peeps like me who’ve been put down by narcissists their entire life. We even tend to think we’re being rejected when we’re not. There’s a lot of paranoia. As far as writing, I know I have the ability but I doubt myself so much sometimes and always short changed myself. If I were more confident who knows where I could be today? It’s never too late though.
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I was totally the same when i started but just remember, you write your blog for you and the time you spend editing and writing posts will pay off and people will read and love and come back to read more! 🙂
post the link to our posts on your social media site and comment on other people’s blogs to get yourself known 🙂
Hope this helps!
p.s your blog is great!
xx
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Thanks! 🙂 So it looks like this is a pretty common complaint for most new bloggers lol.
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Even though Jason (OM) and I started blogging within a month of each other, he helped me a lot too. He showed me that it’s okay to want to be popular and to be read, and that it’s UBER important to reply to comments.
I also wanted to say that, as someone who has been friends with a psychopathic narcissist, you certainly don’t sound like one. So enjoy the popularity! Follow Jason’s advice, get out there and get involved in interactive prompts, and comment to your heart’s content. You’ll see results in no time!
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Jason’s blog is like my bible right now lol. He does give some great advice and likes to help newbies too. I’ve been on sites where newbies are resented and ignored. The attitude is like, you’re a rookie, prove yourself first.
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Yep, I’ve seen that too. We’re very lucky to have people like Jason around. 🙂
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That’s where I am right now…
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This Jason guy sounds like a real asshole.
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You’d think so considering how many people call him one. Even his wife, so I hear.
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Yea she really does. 🙂
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I’m sure it’s in the most loving way though. 🙂
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Yea kind of that evil glint you women get in your eyes when you are deciding whether to stab your husband. Know what I mean? lmao
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Yes! … I mean, no. Whatever could you be talking about?
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lmao!
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It is true that everyone has a little bit of narcissism in himself or herself. I tell myself I don’t care every day, but then I secretly envy people who have thousands and thousands of followers. Yes, it does sting a little to spend a lot of time and a whole lot of heart on writing and then not get the reads/likes/comments that we want.
I do not have NPD but I do still like my attention, lol. At any rate, I continue each day and appreciate the few folks who do take the time to read it. The blogosphere is huge, so it may take some time for people to find you. I’m not sure how I found you. I just hit reader or some such and saw another person’s comment to you. I’ve been writing for more than 20 years. Been here at WordPress for almost a year, and I’m not anywhere near where I would like to be, but I don’t beat myself up over it.
Thanks for your honesty and sharing your stories/feelings. Here is one more follower for you.
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Thanks for the follow and the peptalk. 🙂
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Any time
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It is frustrating and quite maddening actually. You hang in there and welcome to the blogging world.
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i used to care a lot about the followers and comments and likes. I realized it was causing me wayyy too much stress. I was overly obsessive about blogging daily, sometimes twice a day, having conversations with strangers I’ve never met, listening to the stories of triumph and tales of woe. (I even watched one of my fellow bloggers turn their blogs into actual paper books, which I was totally jelly over, and really, REALLY wanted that).
I am an ex-xanga blogger, and a lot of my followers turned into real life friends. I kind of expected the same thing to happen when I started on here 6 years ago, when xanga started falling apart. Nowadays I don’t get much response on my personal blog; occasionally i do, if i stomp my feet hard enough. (I usually get several likes on my art page tho…maybe pictures are easier to digest in these times of crazy-business??)
sometimes its just nice to get some sort of validation then it is to verbally throw up thoughts and feelings and feel invisible. But, I look at my writings and my art as something I do for me now, and if anyone cares to chime in, great! if not, no worries. Like i said, more for me, even if it’s a public forum. Good luck on your journey. Keep on writing, if even only for you. You never know what you’re going to get by blogging, but make it mostly about making yourself heard, even if you’re the only one reading it. 🙂
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Thanks for your comments. I agree that as bloggers we want/need validation, especially when we’re getting our feet wet.
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sure! when we are just starting out, I agree. it’s hard to be seen tho, as newbies, when there are sooo many others out there that are just…popular. Personally the only time i really REALLY want comments is when I’m feeling really down and just need an objectionable third party…. 🙂
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Xanga FTW!!!!!!!
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hahaha!! yep. Ex-xanga over here. don’t judge. I enjoyed it. I did! It’s basically my roots on where I learned blogging and stuff.
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Ex Xanga as well.
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well hello fellow ex!! lol
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lol Hi! 😉
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holy CRAP! 10 new follows?!? Really?
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I guess I was very lucky OM discovered my blog and followed me early on. As a new blogger it helps to have someone that popular notice you from the start.
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Luckyotter when you talk directly to the blog you look as crazy as me… 😉
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lol
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Great post. It always feels like that when you start blogging. Even if you are a professional and start a new one, you would want a lot of comments and likes. People read your blog, don’t be deceived. They pass by every now and then to check your posts except that they do not like, comment or follow officially. That shouldn’t get you down, keep posting. A time will come when they will find your blog interesting. A blog with one or two posts isn’t interesting, even ten. Visitors and viewers want a lot of information and a new blog doesn’t have that feature. I can relate with you
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The novelty of blogging hasn’t worn off yet (hopefully it never will). I think of new things to write about faster than I can keep up with blogging about them, so if this keeps up it won’t be long before this blog has hundreds of posts lol.
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I have found that some people are just silent readers. It still annoys me when there aren’t comments on my blog but …. such is life. Recently, I have found that many are reading it, just not saying anything or hitting that like button. Like anyone else, I would love to see my readership grow. Until then, I’ll just blog and hope that some paralegal out there finds something helpful in what I write. I have been an OM subscriber for a while. Some of his posts are really good and some just hit a nerve, which is think is where he’s going with his writing (good job). One little bit of advice that has helped me is not to get so hung up on numbers. I look at the stats but just to make sure that the bars remain at least at the same level, hahaha, maybe a crazy thing to do but it keeps me sane, or at least as sane as I can be.
nice looking blog. I’ll hit like and have left a comment. Hope it makes you smile.
Ana
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I have a big smile on my face right now, and thanks for the follow and comments 🙂
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Based on my own experience, I think your expectations are just really high. The fact that you have any readers at all after only a week is pretty amazing! It will take time to build a regular readership, but you should never feel as if the hours you spend writing posts is wasted because you know what? You can just re-blog them later, when you have more followers. In fact, it’s a good idea to do so because people who start following you later won’t have read your earlier work. In the meantime, you have an opportunity to find your groove, and sometimes it’s actually nicer to be able to do that without too large of an audience. 😉
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Yeah I was surprised to read articles about reblogging being a thing because on some websites, people get irritated when you repost stuff. That’s good to know.
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I agree – instinctively it sounds wrong, and I would certainly be extremely conservative about reusing material that isn’t sufficiently aged. But you have to figure that a year from now, you’ll have an entirely different audience. The posts you write now will be completely new to those people, and they might actually appreciate getting to see some of your earlier entries 🙂
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I just paid it forward by reblogging an article by another blogger who wasn’t getting enough views. Hopefully that helps a little.
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I agree, it has only been a week. You should be thrilled. I have blogged for over two years and never had this kind of activity. You go girl.
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Yeah it’s awesome and a little surreal. I don’t expect it to last but you never know! I was afraid to write this article but now I’m glad I did.
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I’ve blogged for over 2 years over on Blogspot and in that time I only have 12 followers, I wandered over to wordpress and in less than 4 months have gained 100+ followers, I don’t blog about any one thing in particular, my blogs tend to be my own personal thoughts and experiences on many topics, I also blog a lot about my beautiful wife and her battle with stage 4 (end stage) lung cancer and how it has affected our family, but I take breaks from that and post random stuff,
Just hang in there and keep writing as you are and the people will come, you’re doing just fine 🙂
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I’m so sorry about your wife. 😦 That sucks. Blogging about painful things is very therapeutic though. As for Blogspot, I know its powered by google but overall I’ve heard better things about wordpress and that the themes are cooler looking, even though you have to pay more to get custom design and CSS (which I have no clue how to use yet)
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It’s normal to want to be ‘liked’ or accepted (isn’t the whole advertising industry hinged on this fact?). Your post popped up in my Reader – so I read it 🙂 I like honesty and I love to learn about other people’s experiences. I thought I would have ONE follower on my blog and that it would be my husband, so I feel pretty excited when I manage to attract a new follower friend. Like you, I am a newbie at blogging and it appears you need to give blog love to get it in return. Happy blogging and much blog love!
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Thanks for your comments! Good luck to you too. Honesty is what I aim for in my blog, even if it’s ugly sometimes.
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What you said. Here’s the one I wrote when I decided I didn’t care anymore: http://writeinthemidst.wordpress.com/2012/04/05/im-back-and-i-brought-company/
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I can’t wait to read this, when the comments and new followers die down a little bit I definitely will read this. lol I’m loving this attention though, gotta admit it.
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Oh, luckyotter, I know how you feel. I started my blog a few months ago as a way to keep myself writing. I never checked my stats, because I really didn’t care who saw my posts, and truth be told, I didn’t expect anyone to read them anyway. Yet, the caring is inevitable. Soon, you start getting likes and follows, and you think, “Hey, people care about the same things I do! They think I’m worth reading!” WordPress awards you with a badge: 100 follows! Yay! But no one comments on your posts – not even the ones that pose a question to your adoring followers – and you soon realize that your followers aren’t actually reading your blog. Are these pity likes? You’re-new-so-I’ll-oblige follows? What’s going on? I’ve decided that by liking and following my blog, they’ve just gained a new follower themselves, because many times I will follow back as a courtesy… and I imagine a lot of new bloggers do this. For many fledgling blog, I suppose, it’s a numbers game. But seriously – don’t worry about numbers. Keep being true to yourself, make sure you are happy with your blog, and your audience will be drawn to you. That’s my perspective.
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Thanks! I do read my stats, because I’m a stats junkie, but on day one I only cared about getting my thoughts on “paper.” THAT didn’t last long, haha. I willnever stop being honest in my posts. That’s why I do this–because it’s so hard to be honest in daily life about how you really feel. This is what we’re here for, and I’m rather shocked so many people are interested in the subject matter I write about, and so many people have had similar experiences.
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Awesomely stated and I agree wholeheartedly!!
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I kinda look at blogging in the same way I would look at a Facebook page (which I do not have one b.t.w) – would you rather have thousands of “friends” that you don’t know or a smaller core group that are very interactive?
Me personally, I would rather have the smaller but more active numbers. Ultimately I say blog for yourself and over time you will attract followers.
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I agree with you. I have a FB page but never use it anymore, because my family has found me and I don’t want to mix my online life with my personal one. FB feels like Big Brother sometimes. I avoid it. I do use my Twitter account though, but mostly to talk to my son who’s always on Twitter lol
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One of the things that I have found to be helpful is actively commenting on other posts. By commenting I mean something insightful and well thought out, not just a “cool post” comment, others will give your blog a quick peek too.
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I’ve started and restarted my blog more times than I’d like to admit for the very same reason. It’s hard to stop comparing yourself to others… I don’t have very many followers, hardly ever get any comments, but I’m a firm believer that if blogging is your passion people with similar interests will find you. Best of luck to you on your journey – great post!
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Thank you! I agree that blogging should be mostly because you’re passionate about it and the followers will come.
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The desire to be heard, noticed, and found valuable is a part of being human. These needs drive us. They have the power to build us up and sustain us when they’re met, and wreck us when they aren’t. Some of us don’t believe we’re capable of receiving love, or being found valuable, and we hide. Others put themselves out there in search of that love and value. We look for it in our wardrobes, our financial status, our promotions and accomplishments… and for people like you and I, we write.
I often write to be heard, and long to find a community that can relate. I have hope that when I “put myself on display”, like I do in my blog, people will see my as worth something.. but often times (as you mentioned) I get little to nothing in response.
I am a bit too lazy and unorganized to go beyond the art of writing, and delve into the world of self-promotion. I’m no good at building websites or gaining an audience..
but I can relate. I can be honest, and I can pray that I will find community and value that is secure beyond my ability to accumulate followers.
If it holds any merit, I know exactly how you feel, because I feel it too. I believe you are talented, worth more than I could even know, and I hope that you find that to be true (regardless of what your likes, comments, and followers show)
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I’m not good at self promotion either. Rejection is hard for anyone, but I think it’s doubly hard for people like me who’ve been the target of narcissists for most of their life. As for my writing, I know I have the ability but I always second guess and short change myself and worry that I’m “not good enough.” There’s a lot of paranoia–even when we’re not being rejected we imagine we are. If I had more confidence who knows where I could have been today? But it is what it is and it’s never too late.
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I’m not exactly sure what your story is with the narcissists that have targeted you, but I can relate to being hurt, abused, and rejected. I think that’s why it’s important to have confidence (value) that exceeds how we are treated by other people. If we put our hope in people we will be disappointed by even the most perfect of man. Seems like you’ve learned a lot from your pain, and your ability and willingness to share that can impact a lot of people. I for one, would love to hear your story!
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Thanks Chris! You can read my story here on my blog. It’s in several posts because I had so much to say. I was primarily the target of my mother and ex husband. I’m learning how to handle it. Basically No Contact is the best way to go. Scroll down the homepage to find my posts.
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Will do! 🙂
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Great! 🙂
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I blogged for four years at a different blog hosting site before moving to WordPress. I had but a few followers and comments were rare. I assuaged my frustration at a lack of responsiveness to my post by insisting that I blog for myself and didn’t care if it went unnoticed. My daughter got me a mousepad that reads, “More people have read this mousepad than your blog. And it was probably true. But then I moved to WordPress a little over a year ago, and now I have more than 1,800 followers (although I’m not sure how many are human beings) and I regularly get several hundred views a day and dozens of comments on each post. I still blog for myself, but it’s nice to know I’m not just shouting into the wind and no one is hearing. Good post.
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I’ve read WordPress is better than other blogging sites for getting hits and followers. That’s awesome you got that many followers! lmao at the mousepad comment. 😀
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Good luck with your blog, I’m reading 🙂
My best advice would be to interact with others, comment on other peoples posts and follow other bloggers, helps you get noticed, + i always have a look at my followers profiles x
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Yeah I’ve been reading lots of other blogs and followed quite a few of them. I try to comment too, if I liked what I read. Hopefully you get a follow back!
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I completely understand where you’re coming from. I started a couple months ago and it is very discouraging when you notice that you’re unnoticed. My blog, somehow, started to pick up a small bit though. I just keep at it, try to network, and when someone follows me, I follow them. I’m still nowhere near where I wish I was, but the people that are supporting are awesome and I appreciate them so much. I wish you much luck and maybe in a year or so we’ll both be able to look at our blogs and see results that make us go “Damn!” 🙂
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That would be terrific if we can do that in a year!
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Go to my blog and click the awards. There are links in there of people who care about each other’s blogs. Clink them and follow them. Participate in some of our challenges too. That gets your name out there ❤
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I’ll try that too thanks. I never saw the Awards page.
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The awards pages are up at the top of my blog beneath the lotus 🙂
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Oh, no, no, no — everyone should be reading MEEEEEEEE!
Oops, sorry, that wasn’t the point of your post, was it? I don’t know how many followers you have at the moment, but they WILL increase in time – and trust me, being featured on OM’s site will definitely help. You’re doing just fine.
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Thanks! I have 43 followers now– up from just 19 this morning!
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Welcome to the world of bloggers. I have one year blogging and remember how slow it was in the beginning. Listen to Opinionated Man for good advice. At first, I wrote poetry or articles. Now, I write about Old Hollywood memories that I want to share with others or re-blog what I believe are blogs that should go further than just my reading. Write what interests you. Be honest about it. Don’t worry about awards. I was fortunate to have several people give me awards and I am most grateful to them, but I don’t accept them. All I need are people who enjoy my writing, and I don’t have tons of them. I think I hit the 1,000 mark recently. That is just fine with me. I love the bloggers I read and appreciate their thoughts and convictions. Relax and follow blogs that speak to you.
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Congratulations on hitting the 1000 mark! I think writing about anything you want is great, but I try to keep a focus on mental health issues, esp. narcissism since that’s what is most concerning to me right now. I have posted about some random topics though. I don’t want to be too narrow.
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Hey, I understand and I am right there with you! I care too. A lot more than I thought I would. I’ve only had this blog about 6 months. I had one started before, but got rid of it due to a nut job stalker guy. I lost most of those followers! Aaaaaaaaaa!!! Opinionated Man IS awesome! Love his blog! He’s also very kind to all of us struggling to get a start here. He has valuable advice for sure! One thing that I didn’t get right away was TAGGING my posts. Be sure to do what you can with that. Welcome to WordPress. Just keep doing what you are doing. It will happen!
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Oh, I’m sorry to hear about your nut stalker! That’s why I don’t use my real name here or ever link to my Facebook account, which unfortunately some people in my family who I don’t talk to have discovered (I don’t even use my FB account anymore because of this–I might even just delete it and start another one under a fake name lol) OM was one of the first blogs I discovered here because I was lucky enough to be followed by him in the first few days and clicked on his link from my followers list and WOW! So much great advice and very down to earth. I’ve been tagging all my posts but sometimes I forget and have to go back and do it later. I don’t know if it’s better to have a lot of tags or just a few. People seem to be divided on what’s better.
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I don’t connect my Facebook or use my real name either. This was an ex boyfriend. Ugh!
I’m not sure about the tagging either. I’m still learning, believe me!
Good luck to you!
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Some great insights here. I think we have all been here at one time or another.
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We all need validation from time to time, don’t worry 🙂
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I’m a newbie too (1 week old) but right from the start, I wanted to be read. There was no transition for me so I can’t really empathize. But I can say this; I’ve read your blog thanks to our mutual friend OM. It’s good. From the numbers, I think you’re getting your wish.
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Thanks for the kind words and encouragement! 🙂
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I think it’s safe to say we can all relate. We have to start somewhere and the frustration does grow, but so will your following. All in due time. WP is a HUGE platform. Had it not been for Harsh Reality, I probably wouldn’t have ever just stumbled across your blog. Just keep doing what you’re doing, and you’ll see, I’m sure, as your writing and expression are beautiful.:)
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Hi, Crazy! (couldn’t resist)
I’m glad you stumbled on my blog on OM’s website. His site is amazing and he really cares about new bloggers which is a pretty rare thing. Thanks too for the nice remarks 🙂 I’m glad your enjoying it.
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It’s normal. Every time I post I want people to comment and like it. I have to remind myself daily why I started blogging in the first place and it wasn’t to become popular. It was to share my experiences and hope I can help someone. But deep down inside I do want more followers and subscribers. The best thing for me to do is get outside myself and go comment and like other people post. It helps me spiritually. Thanks for reminding how good im really doing because Im still here.
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I agree. We need to remember the original reasons why we are here. If we were only trying to get popular, our blogs wouldn’t be that good. People can see right through that shit. But yes, of course we want people to read our stuff too. It’s only human. I’ll check out your site too. Don’t give up! Even if you only have a small following, you never know who you might be helping.
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I’m still a rookie and feel your pain. Links to other social media and frequent posts seem to help I have a small “community” but my readers cover the map. I have loyal visitors but others are one hit wonders. I haven’t figured out the secret yet. However, I equate it to being younger when you want people to like you when you walk into a room. As you get older, you wonder who you’ll like in the room.
“We post what we write but it develops into a story when nobody is looking.” – Ms. Toy Whisperer
“Your screen is your canvas. Just type life into it.” – Ms Toy Whisperer
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I’m pimping this blog on other social media as much as is possible.
I’m pretty old and I still want people in the room to like me. But I also wonder if I’ll like them lol
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Tag/category the crap out of your posts so people will find it in their search, but keep going! Its not quantity it’s quality, and I could totally relate.
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Yeah I tend to be verbose, so I usually put a ton of tags in my posts. It tends to make the page look cluttered but if it helps in getting more hits, so be it.
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I can relate 🙂
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Great post. I’ve visited OM’s blog as well – been blogging for nearly 5 years, but only in the last …2 or so have I really been doing it with any regularity and sense of purpose. The community on WordPress has been fabulous and I feel it has really sparked my creativity. I blog for me mostly, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t care if people read it…of course I do! I would love to have this as my job lol – been experimenting with self-promotion lately. I’m not generally into that so it’s been difficult, but I’m getting used to the notion that self-promotion is not the same as narcissism.
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I would love to do the same. Years ago I worked as an editor and wrote a column in a medical journal (no longer exists) and wrote freelance book reviews. I didn’t make a lot, but I loved the work. Blogging is even better, because you can totally go crazy and write about whatever strikes your fancy at the moment. Right now I earn a living cleaning houses and sell suncatchers and earrings on the side. Quite a step down from what I used to do, but it is what it is. I didn’t write for years (except posts on forums and other people’s blogs) and honestly thought I’d lost the ability and the passion, so it’s great to find out that it was there all along, and being a member of this community has been a huge inspiration to me to continue doing this, and now I have much bigger plans than just “writing for myself” which a week ago was the only reason I decided to start a blog. It sure would be nice if this could lead to some sort of paid writing job down the line or a book or something.
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Congratulations on this brilliant very well written post! Exposing all our (newbie) insecurities.
In a matter of time you shall be an expert on traffic manipulation too! 😀
P.s. I am sure with this amount of explosive “likes” and “comments” your mornings are drenched in bliss now 😉
Much love.
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Thank you for your kind remarks. 🙂 I can’t believe I’m STILL getting traffic for this article (and blog in general though a bit less so) so many hours later. I was sure it would last an hour or two then disspate. But that didn’t happen! If it wasn’t for OM reblogging this, I don’t think things would have picked up too much.
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The touch of Midas is a thing afterall 😉
OM is like a venture capitalist if you know what I mean 😀
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lol
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You are sooo not alone! But for what I see, you got yourself quite an audience already! So there you go : )
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Thanks for your comment and keep reading! 🙂
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We all have a desire for validation – even people who refuse to admit it :-).
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I agree!
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Hey there! Thiis is my 1st comment here
so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and tell you
I genuinly enjoy reading through your articles.
Can yyou recommend any other blogs/websites/forums thqt go over the same
subjects? Many thanks!
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Hi! Thank you for your comments and I’m glad you are enjoying my blog. You can click on “Info and Support about NPD and other personality disorders” in the green bar in my header–there you will find a number of other blogs that have similar content to mine. You can also look at the other blogs in the sidebar in “My Community” — quite a few of those are similar to mine too.
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Hello. remarkable job. I did not expect this. This is a splendid story. Thanks!
joshua eebest8
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I read a lot of your blogs.. I have to say they are great a kept my attention to read more. This one Particular got me. As Im not good at writing. and the reason for the blog is to promote and advertise. and the struggle for likes, followers or even readers is a tough one.
I look forward to reading more.
thank you for sharing
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I just posted a new article describing a lot of the things I’ve learned about blogging and increasing your views and readers. Things have picked up for me A LOT here since I wrote this article. You also have to be patient. I’m not a patient person, but getting followers and views does take some time. Please read this, hopefully it helps: https://otterlover58.wordpress.com/2014/12/08/this-blog-is-growing-yours-can-too/
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Reblogged this on a safe place and commented:
For old times’ sake–
This article was my first big “win” after I started this blog. I only had this blog for six days at the time I wrote this post. I’m not the world’s most patient person, and was frustrated and discouraged because my blog had no visibility and I only had 12 followers, and no likes or comments to speak of. It was so disheartening to work on a post all night, and in the morning there was nothing but crickets and tumbleweeds under the post. So I wrote this rant.
OM (Opinionated Man, for those of you who might not know him by his famous initials) , decided to help me out and reblog it. Because OM is hugely popular with an enormous following (51,000 followers last I saw) , I was overloaded with views, comments, likes and new followers that day. It kept me so busy all weekend I practically got nothing else done!
After this happened, there was no stopping me. I was hooked.
If you told me in September this blog would have grown as much as it has in this amount of time (I even qualify to run ads on the site now due to a sufficient amount of traffic) I would have laughed in your face and called you deluded.
Now the sky’s the limit.
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I find sometimes blogs seem to get missed and I am sure it isn’t just mine getting missed so obviously is a glitch same as not being able to comment at times which is frustrating because eventually when I can comment I’ve forgotten what blogs I wanted to comment on. I loved being on here again and happily blogged my way through the days and then decided to give my life story because a) another blogger had plastered parts of it online and b) because I am an open book with nothing to hide. I too considered it made me a narcissist too but then I felt I was proving that I am not this evil hater I was being portrayed. Thankfully, said bully blogger has left and I am able to blog without fear of recourse. Reading your reblog Luckyotter made me realise that as OM says, this is how it is with newbies.
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Being a newbie is so scary, especially when we decide to be an open book and hold back nothing. It’s frustrating when you’ve laid your life story out there and you feel like no one is reading though, but ALL newbies go through this. I’m just not a very patient person. Maybe my site is growing faster than some,because I spend so much time doing everything OM says (short of paying for SEO) to get it out there.
I want the whole world to know my story and read my stuff. I want to help as many people as possible. Does that make me a narcissist? Maybe, in a way.
Don’t worry, just keep being honest. If you’re 100% honest about everything, your readers will come. Be dishonest, and people can tell.
I don’t worry about trolls. As the admin, I can refuse to approve their comments. I have a few haters, it can’t be helped. Not everyone will like what you have to say. But at least your voice is getting out there and changing lives.
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I read your blog regularly and I really enjoy your posts as I can relate to most of them. Keep on writing and don’t get discouraged 🙂
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I just realised this is an old post. Duh! What am I like, haha
Still, it is still a fact that I do enjoy your posts, and it looks like I’m not the only one 🙂
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That’s fine! LOL I’m checking replies on both the reblog and the original since you have to click on the original to read the whole thing anyway.
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